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Re: sex

Posted by daisym on February 5, 2005, at 20:48:57

In reply to Re: sex, posted by Annierose on February 5, 2005, at 20:25:01

I agree with Annie, you can talk about it in therapy and probably should, given your issues. I said, "I need to talk about sex and want to but it is really hard for me. So next time, please ask me about it." And then I left in a hurry. So he brought it up and we had a couple of great discussions, even though I bet I was red half the time.

Your issues could definitely cause you to have pain. I experience things somatically all the time. I find being on top more painful, so everyone is very different. Try a variety of things. Does your husband know what happened to you and that it effects you? (Mine doesn't.) If you can talk to him, great. I understand if you can't.

I have been having a much harder time in this area the past 4 months because I'm aware of how I feel and I'm not able to dissociate as much. Plus the memories are really open and flashbacks occur. Talking about all of it in therapy has been critically important.

Be careful of pushing yourself and don't beat up on yourself for what you think you should feel or be able to do. The aftermath of all these confusing feelings for me is middle of the night melt down and suicidal thoughts. Again, I tell my therapist all of this and that keeps it manageable. He says, "this isn't good for you but I know you feel like you have to do this" and we brainstorm from there. It helps that I have someone who undertands my conflict.

If there ever was an issue to talk about in therapy, this is it!

Believe me, I know how hard it is. Take care of yourself.




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