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Re: i don't want a new T

Posted by LG04 on January 20, 2005, at 19:57:13

In reply to Re: i don't want a new T shrinking violet, posted by Fallen4MyT on January 20, 2005, at 19:26:03

Hi SV,
It seems like your T is putting a lot of pressure on you to see a new T. I think you need to be true to yourself. It makes sense to me what you said about your inpatient program teaching you about meds, food intake, social contacts, etc., and how much that helped you.

I tried to see a new T recently and it just made me realize that I am simply not ready to be in therapy again. I had/have an intense, close relationship with my former therapist and I just am not ready to start over in a new relationship. I also just don't feel like delving into things right now. I am starting a new job and I want to put my energy into that. I also am not married and I want to put more energy into trying to meet people. I guess what I am saying is that I am wanting to focus on my current life and not my past right now (i've been in therapy for 12 years and it's the first time i've felt this way).

Therapy takes a lot of emotional energy and I'm just not up for it right now. That might change at any time. But for now, that's how I am feeling. My depression and anxiety are under control and there's no pressing reason for me to go to therapy. So I am taking a break.

I am telling you this b/c i relate to your situation in so many ways. (also how you feel about leaving your therapist and missing her as a person) And I understand not wanting to see a new therapist b/c i am in the same place. I think you have to trust yourself and do what feels right for you.

It's also hard to go from one therapist straight to another. I think there is a certain amount of grieving involved in leaving a therapist (or a whole heck of a lot of grieving) and that takes time.

maybe at some point you'll decide to see a new therapist to help you "get over" missing your old therapist; or maybe not; or maybe you'll want to see a new one for other reasons. i don't hear you saying you never want to be in therapy again the rest of your life. i hear you saying that you don't want to do it right now. and that's totally okay. as you've said here many times, your therapist has a pattern of being "overinvolved" in your life. just remember, it's your life, and you have every right to do what feels best for you.

hang in there,




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