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Re: i don't want a new T lonelygal2

Posted by shrinking violet on January 20, 2005, at 19:11:30

In reply to Re: i don't want a new T shrinking violet, posted by lonelygal2 on January 20, 2005, at 18:36:48

Thank you LG.

>> i know that you dont' want to lose your therapist and i know that you keep saying that you want to be done with therapy too, but maybe it would be nice to have her help you to start a relationship with someone new so that you would have someone to turn to just in case you need her in the future. can you start a just-in-case sort of therapy scenario, so that someone is there as part of a fall back plan? i'm also wondering if the 3 of you could meet all together- new t, old t, and you- to sort of help you to feel more comfortable?

--I know, I don't want to react irrationally and then regret it later. It's just hard. I don't want to pretend I have any intention of seeing a new T when I don't. Besides, I'd have her name and stuff so I could always contact her later. I don't want to upset my T either...this is obviously important to her, but I don't know if I can do it for her knowing my heart isn't in it. And yes, my T has offered to go to my first session with the new T, but I think that would be SO hard for me, so I don't think I'd want that. I don't know what I want, I just know what I don't want. :-(


>> and please do tell your t all that you are feeling. why you dont' want to continue with t, or start a new relationship with someone else. i know that you've told me several times that you think doing these things would make it easier for her and that that wasn't fair- have you told her you felt that way? it's totally understandable...

--No, I haven't. I feel like I can't express to her how upset I am over losing her and how/why I don't want to see anyone else. Next week, if I do see her (I'm seriously thinking of just not going. I blew off my nutritionist appt today too), I'm going to have to tell her I don't want to discuss this topic anymore, at least not right now. I can't go there every week if it's going to make me this upset and hurt this much afterwards. I don't know. I'm afraid of her reactions.

Thanks.
SV


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