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Re: I'm hopeless...NOT! daisym

Posted by Pfinstegg on January 20, 2005, at 15:59:31

In reply to Re: I'm hopeless...NOT! gardenergirl, posted by daisym on January 19, 2005, at 0:12:48

Remember when someone here said that in really good therapy we get "bowled over"? It sounds like you're getting bowled over all the time! It would be so much easier if these tremendously powerful feelings didn't keep getting stirred up, but every time they do, I think we are a little different afterwards- a little more self-accepting of our internal storms, and of our different feeling-states, and a little closer to being more securely attached. Every time you write about your therapy, I think what a great job you are doing, and how really terrific your T's responses are. My T would say that you are doing "just what you need to do". They all know how extremely hard it is to work in this way with different ego states. If they just worked with one, it would shore that one up, and the therapy would be a lot easier to endure, but it wouldn't address the basic difficulty. (I'm speaking from the experience of having had that type of therapy before- it was more "feel-good", but this one is helping much more) Honestly, I lose hope sometimes, too, as it is so hard, and the feelings are so extreme and painful. But then we move ahead a bit, and I feel so glad I'm doing it.

PS I think it was healthy to get angry in that meeting situation- it sounded as though they were very dismissive about an abusive situation. i guess eventually you'll feel more of that natural anger (not have to be so *good* all the time), but will have more options as to how you express it.


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