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Re: whining lonelygal

Posted by CareBear04 on January 19, 2005, at 17:34:31

In reply to whining, posted by lonelygal on January 17, 2005, at 13:13:32

lonelygal,
i'm so sorry you're feeling so bad.

i know you're meeting with the new T today. please tell us how it goes.

i've had a bunch of Ts in a short period, and i've had a hard time with it, too. if i don't like them or feel comfortable, then i just shut down and have gone week after week, full appts at a time, not talking, just sitting or looking at the bookshelves. it drives the Ts crazy, but it doesn't do anyone any good.

one thing i'm wondering about-- did your old T, the one you love and trust, give you any recommendations for a new person? one thing that really helped when i left a T/pdoc that i finally clicked with was that she referred me to my next T/pdoc in another city, a friend and colleague that used to practice with her. knowing that he had her vote of confidence, and given how much i respect this pdoc, i was more able to trust him and look for the qualities in him that would endear him to and impress her. i didn't open up immediately, but neither did i shut him out in the same way that i did with the other Ts. it's easier to give a T a chance to prove him or herself if you know something about that person. even just knowing that your old T was recommend her might make seeing her less hard and less painful. since your T was a student, she might not have many connections, but surely she must have had a mentor here or there that impressed her.
i don't know if this suggestion helps, but it helped me.
i'm sorry for this situation and sorry for how much it's hurting you.


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