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Re: I'm hopeless...NOT! daisym

Posted by gardenergirl on January 18, 2005, at 18:29:19

In reply to I'm hopeless, posted by daisym on January 18, 2005, at 0:19:49

> I went today and floundered around. I was honest and told him I was worried about what had happened. We talked about my hubby a lot today, he had surgery again, and that may have been why I felt a strong need to pull back. I have things to take care of!

This seems very reasonable to me. You only have so much energy to go around. His asking about your other parts' response to this makes sense, too, but I can see how it doesn't really give you a break. And I wonder if a bit of a break from the hard work is perhaps needed? Although now that I think of it, it would have to be negotiated between all of your parts, otherwise, it might not feel all that relieving.

>But I can't help but think that this internal struggle between age states must be getting old for him. I'm resisting the post-therapy panic urge to call. I don't know what I'd say anyway.

Daisy, I wonder how much of this worry about him getting tired of it is projection. Has it happened before that someone who was a support to you pulled back eventually? You are such a caretaker. That's a lovely quality, but can you let that go and resolve not to take care of him?

Thinking of you and wishing you calm and peace.

Take care,
gg

 

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