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Re: Mother's Touch Mother's Love

Posted by Smeegle on December 9, 2004, at 13:20:22

In reply to Re: Mother's Touch Mother's Love Dinah, posted by saw on December 9, 2004, at 0:54:49

I find this interesting, but from the opposite perspective. I had no abuse from my parents and was raised in a loving, affectionate home. Lots of hugs and cuddling. We still do as adults, just more age appropriate affection. My son is 21 and we are the same way. I feel that touch is very important. There was never a time in my life (as a child) that I did not feel completely and totally loved by both my parents. It was shown both verbally and through their actions. Having said all that, I wonder if that's part of why I have some of the issues I have now. Not that I blame them at all. I wholehearted appreciate the loving nuturing environment I was raised in (even though they divorce when I was 7, that never changed the feelings of love I felt). Often I have felt that it is unreasonable of me to expect the level of touch/affection I grew up with. My husband and his mom are somewhat touchy. His sister is definitely not. I can relate to the comment about the mom stroking the kid's leg. That is something that almost anyone in my family would do without even realizing it. If I felt bad, mom would hold me or stroke my forehead. We always piled up in the den with blankets and pillows and watched tv together. We ALWAYS ate as a family (something I still feel is important today to stay connected with each other). I miss that feeling of love that I grew up with. I long for it with all of my heart. (all of my family lives away in other states so I can't just drop in whenever I need an affection fix).

Smeegs


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