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Oh (((daisym))), I hope I am helping

Posted by 64bowtie on August 6, 2004, at 18:03:04

In reply to Re:, posted by daisym on August 6, 2004, at 15:20:46

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>Sorry, I can't do it without therapy. Because I feel like I'm finding my way back to the place you are suggesting we start from.
>

<<< (((daisym))), You never have to apologise to me, ever...

One item I would appreciate feedback on. This illusion of an inner child is not present in a traversed adult. One way to ferret out what's going on is to sit quietly with your eyes open. In your mind's eye, notice if those flashbacks from childhood are in black and white or perhaps in color.

Also, if you have updated these childhood memories to color, are they the appropriate colors? Do you see independent motion in the background? Are you the only person in the memory?

If distortions remain, such as stillness in the background, these are truly childhood flashbacks. Because they were stored when memories were feelings not real pictures, where they are coming from and when they will link up can horify you as an out-of-control mystery memory.

Causes sleepless nights unless you accept they can't hurt you anymore. That was then and this is now. To worry about the fact that they have a mind of their own, misses the point. You can take charge of your thoughts as an adult. Vanquish your blackmailing thoughts from ram-rodding you into inappropriate distorted feelings.

Note: anything not going on right here and right now is an abstract distortion of reality, a fantasy. Is life worth committing to the limitations of a fantasy? I think not! The childhood notion is that a fantasy is freeing. For adults, where is the freedom of a blackmailing fantasy? You are trapped reliving a distorted memory. Let it go. Let them all go. That's a "start over!"

(((daisym))) take care of your own self so you can be effective at taking care of your son...

Rod


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