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Re: Re: opposite of love...fear???? 64bowtie

Posted by Dr. Bob on July 10, 2004, at 1:58:25

In reply to Re: Re: opposite of love...fear???? All, posted by 64bowtie on July 10, 2004, at 0:36:54

Posted by 64bowtie on July 10, 2004, at 0:36:54

> All
> I was setting the stage for my bombshell...
> Children don't get it... There's is a visceral existence. They approach good-feeling things and avoid bad-feeling things. More detail can be found in books like, "The Second Brain"
> The 'neuro-folks' show the vast majority living by feel-goods. Not much of a life... as I remember myself living like that. I spasmed out of control if anything ever was out of place, thus not an appearance that felt-good to my jaundiced little life.
> Fear freezes the feet!!! Curiosity releases frozen feet......
> The bombshell is that until about age 15 or so, children equate approval (because they can) to what gownups keep calling love. Then they seem to get it! Love isn't just a visceral feeling, but an acceptance of another person, respecting their separateness, and acting responsibly toward them, along with the visceral longing for them. Kids don't do this. Adults, who can, do, do this.
> Be careful to identify that which was separating it from that which has been updated by the visual cortex. If we get to be 30 years old and remember the stories of our youth the way we want to remember them, they won't be what really happened. If I remember a shirt I used to wear as red, and the photo of me in my favorite shirt shows it as green, the red shirt memory becomes a distortion. If I assign a value to a distortion, I have created a faulty belief. Approval is not love. Kids grow up remembering themselves loving. Instead they are remembering approval and creating a faulty belief from the distorted vision they have long accepted.
> Rod




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