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Re: Could anyone please give me some advice? galkeepinon

Posted by shar on August 24, 2003, at 13:25:42

In reply to Re: Could anyone please give me some advice? shar, posted by galkeepinon on August 24, 2003, at 0:40:33

>Would you, if in my shoes, just let it go for now?

It's hard to say, because I don't know if your friend was being mean and malicious to you, OR if your hurting is because something painful in your past has been activated and your friend was maybe blunt or too direct, but not intending to be hurtful (in other words, pushed a button inadvertently).

My belief is that time, in and of itself, isn't a great healer for things that are presently happening in a relationship. I'm also wondering if you are not only hurt, but angry. Usually the two go together (and both are legitimate, of course, it all depends on how we act on the feelings).

It sounds like your friend has asked you if you are willing to make some changes in your relationship, or modify it in some way. You could reply, and say you felt really hurt by the email, and was not sure what you thought of it all, AND you would like some time to think about it.

Then your friend isn't just cut off without a word, PLUS you have time to think about it, and you may come up with some questions you want to ask, or you may have some alternate ideas about what YOU want in the friendship

Again, just MHO.

Shar


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