Posted by allisonf on April 26, 2003, at 0:56:19
In reply to Re: Forever therapy, posted by Dinah on April 21, 2003, at 12:01:09
Hi...I haven't posted here in so long, I don't know why. I do ck in now and again, and tonight I had thought to post a new thread on the bd asking for support. Tonight I have been paying for Wed's hypomania with persistent suicidal thoughts.
But I had to post when I saw Dinah's reply, fallsfall. I am that woman Dinah wrote about who drove by her therapist's house and then told her about it. That was a little over a year ago, and my feelings for her are just as intense. We have discussed them up and down...and I write pages about it. I try to read everything I can about the transference phenomena to try to resolve it (which you obviously can't just do by reading about it, but still...), but I feel like there's not really that much out there that isn't all intellectual and Jungian and judgmental. *Except* that book "In Session" that Dinah recommended by D Lott! It is definitely worth reading--it looks at transference through many different angles. I got it thru Amazon.
It sounds like you really are working hard to communicate with your therapist and come to a mutual understanding. I actually think you are being much more accommodating to her needs that she should expect. I know that therapists have to expect (and even count on) these dependency/transference type issues to come up (it certainly is grist!), so I think they have to be prepared that clients are going to have strong feelings, want to feel close to them, be curious about them personally, etc. Not that I condone driving by a therapist's house or searching for them on the internet (which I have also done btw)(and I've searched for her husband, her sisters & brothers, etc.), but if you are strong enough to be honest about it, that warrants support. Good luck with everything.
P.S. I like the name of the thread too! All total I've been in therapy 5 and 1/2 yrs and still counting!
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