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Re: CBT - and me- - a query

Posted by PuraVida on March 13, 2003, at 0:09:11

In reply to Re: CBT - Using it and putting it into action..., posted by PuraVida on March 12, 2003, at 23:06:04

I hope this time this gets posted. Earlier this evening I wrote an example of my first experience with my distorted thoughts - mainly "shoulds" - don't know where it went - I'm SURE I hit confirm!

So, here is not so much a goal as a problem: I have been stressing because I have been active as a volunteer in a non-profit, and I'm not sure I want to continue. I do believe volunteer work is good for me (+1) and I can use it career wise (+1) but...I am frustrated. I got involved in this org. because it was worthwhile and needed help - it was dying, and run by a clique. I had not joined years before because of this. But I thought - maybe, I can make a difference. I have -we revived the club, last year, that is. But the old guard is still making blatently obvious "suits me" decisions, and I am the only one who speaks up. This year no one has renewed yet, and the board (I am on it) is making more dictator-like decisions to a dwindiling club. Thing is, this club is just a part of a larger community, and I am beginnning to get embarrassed that I am part of this self-serving board.

So, I want to quit - but this is where the CBT comes in. My shoulds, and others kick in - you just are too much of a perfectionist - that is the way life is! If you feel so strongly - stick it out - unless you are too weak... If you had better people skills, you could bring them around. SO, I say, no - I am not comfortable with this - I take a stand. But then - I think, I'll just go somewhere else, and the same will happen again. Is it me?

So, HELP is appreciated on the previous, if anyone has time or inclination to follow. I';d love to know candidly what you can see, CBT-wise, in my thoughts.






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