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Re: group dynamic + please be civil Atticus

Posted by Dr. Bob on October 12, 2004, at 3:41:24

In reply to The Doctrine of Bob Infallibility, posted by Atticus on October 11, 2004, at 11:01:49

> your response to newwife contained uncalled-for and unjustifiable elements of sarcasm and mean-spiritedness.

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> The Doctrine of Bob Infallibility
> The number of posts you let go by before actually responding to her about your "asking them to leave" remark was also very noticeable.
> Then there's the notion you introduce about making the guests feel unwelcome by saying they can always go elsewhere.

The above remind me of something Haim Weinberg said about virtual large groups:

> Unfortunately, idealization is a double-edged sword. It fosters unrealistic expectations of the group leader, and when these expectations are not met, the group becomes furious.
> We can argue that processes in the VLG reveal the Internet Unconscious, which contains an illusory belief that ultimate freedom of speech is achieved in cyberspace and that forum members always show respect and tolerance to different opinions.

I may be wrong, but unrealistic expectations and illusory beliefs (for example, regarding infallibility, availability, and tolerance) may be part of the group dynamic now. I say part of the group dynamic because I don't mean to attribute them to particular individuals, though particular individuals may be expressing them now.





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