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Posted by Deneb on December 27, 2007, at 0:16:06
My family (aunt, mom, sister, cousin)did like an intervention thing with me, talking about where I'm going in life and what I'm doing.
They want me to finish my degree as quickly as possible and switch into a better program if possible. They said I'm getting old now and no employers will hire an old graduate. My aunt said she wouldn't hire me if I were older.
The also want me to be more responsible and independent. I guess now that my sister is home everyone is realizing what a loser I am. My sister is younger than me but just got her degree in biochemistry and she lived away from home for 5 years.
So now I'm going to take 2 classes, biochemistry and plant physiology & biochemistry plus work 22 hours/week. I have to keep working because I don't want to lose my insurance. Meds are expensive.
I'm going to be busy. I hope I can handle it. I have to handle it.
This is scary. I hope I don't end up failing everything.
Posted by Deneb on December 27, 2007, at 1:02:01
In reply to I'm being pressured into taking another class, posted by Deneb on December 27, 2007, at 0:16:06
I think I will be OK. My sister just described what she went through, pulling all nighters and feeling like death (her words).
She's had it much worse than me, taking 5 difficult science courses in one semester, 4 exams in 2 days, etc.
I shouldn't complain.
Posted by gardenergirl on December 27, 2007, at 9:10:30
In reply to Re: I'm being pressured into taking another class, posted by Deneb on December 27, 2007, at 1:02:01
Hi Deneb,
What I hear is that you're nervous about this. I wouldn't worry about "shouldn't complain" or comparing yourself to others. You feel what you feel, and that's not something for others to judge. If it is comforting to hear that others have gotten through it, then by all means, use that. But if it leaves you feeling inadequate, and it sounds like that was part of your family's message to you, then let go what causes hurt. It's not yours, it's their issue anyway, right?It is scary to try to balance multiple demands when you've felt fragile for awhile. You've been doing good from what you've said and how you've appeared here. That's great! That's the important part.
You go, girl! That is, you go where and how you want to go for yourself.
Take care, sweetie.
gg
Posted by MidnightBlue on December 29, 2007, at 0:52:07
In reply to I'm being pressured into taking another class, posted by Deneb on December 27, 2007, at 0:16:06
Deneb,
I'm not sure what your aunt does, but would you even want to work for her? A person usually doesn't have to worry about age until they are over 40. Even then it shouldn't be a problem. What about people who go back to college after they raise their families? There is nothing wrong with being an "old" graduate. I'm not even sure what "old" is!
Take all the time you need and takes courses that interest you that lead to a job you will enjoy.
MB
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