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happy holidays maybe

Posted by beckett2 on December 11, 2017, at 1:07:00

As much as I love Christmas, which is what I celebrate, I get so down and teary. I love the lights, the dark nights, egg nog, but it's also a difficult time. Wishing you all the best holiday season you can have :)

 

Re: happy holidays maybe beckett2

Posted by sigismund on December 11, 2017, at 15:55:43

In reply to happy holidays maybe, posted by beckett2 on December 11, 2017, at 1:07:00

It's so hot (although not yet) and I can't remember liking it or them if you include New Year. And I don't like groups.
But this year we have a wedding in the garden (here) for 80 guests and I give the first speech in between the two, just before NYE.

This is amusingly out of my comfort zone (in a bad way). It starts at 2 and the first speech is at 5. Australians drinking like Russians do makes me feel less apprehensive.

My daughter (who can do this) is going to write her speech out and hold it in her hands. I will do that. My goodness, I will even work my way toward feeling comfortable.

 

Re: happy holidays maybe

Posted by baseball55 on December 11, 2017, at 19:14:51

In reply to Re: happy holidays maybe beckett2, posted by sigismund on December 11, 2017, at 15:55:43

I'm going to my daughter's new place with her new husband to spend Christmas. I haven't spent a Christmas with her in 5 years - mostly because of her work schedule. I am really, really looking forward to this. My Christmas's have s***ed since my husband and I began he splitting up process in 2013.

I think this will be a good holiday.

 

Re: happy holidays maybe

Posted by alexandra_k on December 15, 2017, at 16:58:32

In reply to Re: happy holidays maybe, posted by baseball55 on December 11, 2017, at 19:14:51

Sometimes I try and get to friends, othertimes, I just spend it alone. I don't mind pretending it's just like any other day, but the world conspires against you with things being closed and people sort of gaping at you if you dare to present yourself by yourself in public on Christmas Day... So... It has to be a day for marathon computer game or tv series or something...

This year I got in early with organising friends to be in Wellington. I hope people have a good one, since I tried to persuade them it would be fun / nice for us all to catch up and spend it together.

I find about Medical Admissions by the end of my first day there. If my admission status isn't updated to 'Accepted' then... That is it, really. So, I'll either be trying to figure out what color stethoscope suits me best (black, pretty sure, but is that morbid?) or figuring out how long it will take a garage to fill with motorcycle exhaust. Or something. Mmm hmm. Anyway... I need to not be alone for it, this year.

 

Re: happy holidays maybe

Posted by baseball55 on December 15, 2017, at 17:04:35

In reply to Re: happy holidays maybe, posted by alexandra_k on December 15, 2017, at 16:58:32

Have a good time with your friends, then. Do not despair if you are not accepted. Life presents us with many disappointments but also many strengths to weather those disappointments.

 

Re: happy holidays maybe sigismund

Posted by alexandra_k on December 15, 2017, at 17:08:56

In reply to Re: happy holidays maybe beckett2, posted by sigismund on December 11, 2017, at 15:55:43

> My daughter (who can do this) is going to write her speech out and hold it in her hands. I will do that. My goodness, I will even work my way toward feeling comfortable.

I'm not very comfortable with public speaking, either. I've had to give quite a few seminar presentations, over the years, and what I found helped me was writing down everything I planned on saying beforehand and doing at least 3 proper practice runthroughs.

Different people are different...

One seminar speaker I knew (who was really good at it IMHO) surprised me by saying that he wrote down everything and practiced by running through at least 3 times, too. He seemed responsive to the audience etc rather than reading from a script.

Some of the best lectures I remember from undergraduate psychology were surprisingly scripted, too. With large classes they do repeat lectures so some students attend a morning session and others attend an afternoon session. One lecture I found really good so I went back to the afternoon session and it was exactly the same. I didn't realise how scripted it was. How the lecturer had probably given the same lecture (or only with minor modifications) every year for the past 10 years, or something.

It kind of gets it in motor memory so your body knows what it is up to so you behave smoothly even when you feel like your brain has frozen or you can't attend to anything except your heart going thumpity thump, thumpity thump, thumpity thump. If it's practiced it's more like... Driving a car, or something.

Some people can ad lib... But most people are surprisingly scripted when it comes to talks, I've learned. Sometimes people do take little ad lib detours or engage in a bit of genuine audience interaction - but that is with the security of a well trodden path for them to return to.

I'm sure you will be great :)

 

Re: happy holidays maybe

Posted by alexandra_k on December 15, 2017, at 17:36:47

In reply to Re: happy holidays maybe, posted by baseball55 on December 15, 2017, at 17:04:35

> Have a good time with your friends, then. Do not despair if you are not accepted. Life presents us with many disappointments but also many strengths to weather those disappointments.

Thanks, Baseball.

I've been weathering...

It is about having the power to look after myself. Nobody else will look after me, I get that. But then I need to be granted the power to look after myself. Knowledge is power, as the saying goes. A medical education is the best shot anyone has got at being able to exercise informed consent as to what happens to this body in life...

I think.

And then some things money can't buy...

Then what is is to live a meaningful life... What I've come to on that. After being... Subjected to... A variety of 'treatments'. Because I did emplore people to help me... Because I didn't know what to do to help myself...

And then people deciding what is best for me - which so very often involves them negating / denying / claming the exact opposite of every single thing I just said. E.g., I say 'I just need a quiet place so I can get on with my work' and other people hear 'Alex needs lots of people around her because she's lonely and would rather play all day'

I am quietly optimistic.

The alternative... A life on disability (welfare) in NZ... Being forced to associate with known criminals and drug dealers etc etc... Is no kind of life, for me. Enough.

NZ: It's Not Working.

Time for a change:

I may have found a house... It's very much the worst house (well, unit, really) on a really pleasant street. One over from the beach. Location, location, location. I'm traumatized over 'mesh block units' and over 'you are the sum total of the 100 or 200 or whatever people who comprise your mesh block unit' and how prioritisation of power and aid in emergency and so on and so forth is done according to mesh block unit...

I was reading on how (economically) worst house on best street isn't the way to go. But it's about the schooling zones... It's about whether it really is the sound of (few and far between) *happy* kids playing... It's about whether there might be a lawyer to *make that noise stop* or *stop that condo development* or whatever...

It would be nice to live in a nice neighbourhood...

Sometimes... Autism is the rational solution.

Sigh.

 

Re: happy holidays maybe

Posted by Clearskies on December 17, 2017, at 17:05:40

In reply to happy holidays maybe, posted by beckett2 on December 11, 2017, at 1:07:00

I dont know if I will be by myself this year or not. I did buy my own tree and get it home and up myself, a first.

 

Re: happy holidays maybe

Posted by alexandra_k on December 18, 2017, at 0:13:04

In reply to Re: happy holidays maybe, posted by Clearskies on December 17, 2017, at 17:05:40

Well, I hope you have a nice one. Wouldn't be possible to forget it was Christmas with a tree up.

I've been rewatching The Sopranos. I forgot how good it is. It really is a classic (best TV series ever by some counts).

In case you have seen it / haven't seen it. It would make a nice marathon TV day or two (if you are into those).

 

Re: happy holidays maybe

Posted by baseball55 on December 18, 2017, at 18:13:14

In reply to Re: happy holidays maybe, posted by alexandra_k on December 18, 2017, at 0:13:04

Just gave my last finals today, will finish grading tomorrow. Need to spend a lot of my (five-week - I know - too good to be true) break preparing for next semester, but am just going to chill this week. So I'm up for binge-watching. Have watched the Soprano's - definitely great. Want to watch Handmaid's Tale, Dark and The Deuce.

> Well, I hope you have a nice one. Wouldn't be possible to forget it was Christmas with a tree up.
>
> I've been rewatching The Sopranos. I forgot how good it is. It really is a classic (best TV series ever by some counts).
>
> In case you have seen it / haven't seen it. It would make a nice marathon TV day or two (if you are into those).

 

Re: happy holidays maybe

Posted by rjlockhart37 on December 18, 2017, at 23:02:16

In reply to happy holidays maybe, posted by beckett2 on December 11, 2017, at 1:07:00

i don't have much plans, no trips or out of state fun things happening, but i'm seeing my family on christmas, thats always a heart warming thing because i havent seen them in a long time

 

Re: happy holidays maybe Clearskies

Posted by beckett2 on December 19, 2017, at 20:39:05

In reply to Re: happy holidays maybe, posted by Clearskies on December 17, 2017, at 17:05:40

> I dont know if I will be by myself this year or not. I did buy my own tree and get it home and up myself, a first.
>

Nice to see you. Wishing you a good holiday and a happy new year. Enjoy your tree. For me, trees are one of the best parts of the season.

 

Re: happy holidays maybe beckett2

Posted by Clearskies on December 21, 2017, at 19:46:40

In reply to Re: happy holidays maybe Clearskies, posted by beckett2 on December 19, 2017, at 20:39:05

Thanks, Becket. Merry Christmas.


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