Psycho-Babble Social Thread 1095397

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Loveshy

Posted by Lamdage22 on October 12, 2017, at 3:00:04

Hey,

there is this young woman i went to primary school with. I had almost forgotten about her but i had a huge crush on her in school. I found her on facebook and now i dont know what to do or say. I added her she accepted. She still is extremely cute.

Any tipps?

 

Re: Loveshy

Posted by Lamdage22 on October 12, 2017, at 10:26:53

In reply to Loveshy, posted by Lamdage22 on October 12, 2017, at 3:00:04

I dont know, i have this crush on someone, i think that i may be right for her and she is the right one for me, but i dont dare to talk to her. So love makes me suffer. This is not the way it should be right!??

Maybe this is my Nr 1 problem. I dont do what i want to because i am scared. This is so pathetic of myself.

 

Re: Loveshy

Posted by baseball55 on October 13, 2017, at 17:41:02

In reply to Re: Loveshy, posted by Lamdage22 on October 12, 2017, at 10:26:53

> Maybe this is my Nr 1 problem. I dont do what i want to because i am scared. This is so pathetic of myself.

Not pathetic. Human. Most people have felt this way at some point. You can post on her page, start a conversation about something she's interested in and see where it goes. Primary school is a long way away and you may find that you're not interested in her at all.

 

Re: Loveshy

Posted by Lamdage22 on October 14, 2017, at 6:25:25

In reply to Re: Loveshy, posted by baseball55 on October 13, 2017, at 17:41:02

She is really cute thats about all i know about her.

 

Re: Loveshy

Posted by Lamdage22 on October 14, 2017, at 6:35:11

In reply to Re: Loveshy, posted by Lamdage22 on October 14, 2017, at 6:25:25

Well you can see some personality from the outside, but i dont know if she would be a good fit in real life. I want to find out.

 

Re: Loveshy

Posted by Pontormo on October 14, 2017, at 9:44:17

In reply to Re: Loveshy, posted by Lamdage22 on October 14, 2017, at 6:35:11

I'm not an expert on facebook, but you could also send her a message saying hi and saying you remember her and are glad to find her on facebook. Then you could tell her a little about what you're doing.

or you could post on her page, or on your page and maybe it will be on her page too-- I guess that depends on her settings-- but if you post a few things that you're interested in or are doing, and then contact her, it might give her an introduction to you before you contact her directly.

If you're friendly-- as in-- open to her, and not worried that she'll think you like her--- really it's better if she does-- because you have a much better chance of getting to know her if she thinks you like her-- (she's unlikely to think you have a major crush on her, unless she's a major narcissist)-- she probably will respond.

It's okay to like someone-- or to have a crush on someone-- you don't have to be ashamed of it-- or pretend not to-- if she doesn't reciprocate it probably means you two aren't that compatible and she just happens to notice it first. It doesn't feel good-- but it happens to everyone-- and more than once to many people. You'll be on good, and certainly large, company-- I promise you. And it's not so awful, after a while. It can take several tries to find someone you fit with-- but it's better to try.

(I know I"m making it sound easy, when I isn't-- but I hear that being as much of an optimist as possible gives us a better chance of getting what we want .)

 

Re: Loveshy

Posted by Lamdage22 on October 15, 2017, at 5:45:13

In reply to Re: Loveshy, posted by Pontormo on October 14, 2017, at 9:44:17

But what about my psychiatric history and the fact that i work only for 4 hours and cant do more right now?

 

Re: Loveshy Lamdage22

Posted by baseball55 on October 15, 2017, at 18:07:13

In reply to Re: Loveshy, posted by Lamdage22 on October 15, 2017, at 5:45:13

> But what about my psychiatric history and the fact that i work only for 4 hours and cant do more right now?

You have to try not to think of yourself as damaged goods that nobody would want if they knew the true you. Otherwise you'll never have to confidence to approach anyone.

 

Re: Loveshy

Posted by Lamdage22 on October 16, 2017, at 9:52:49

In reply to Re: Loveshy Lamdage22, posted by baseball55 on October 15, 2017, at 18:07:13

I did it but she didnt respond yet.

 

Re: Loveshy

Posted by Lamdage22 on October 17, 2017, at 1:39:17

In reply to Re: Loveshy, posted by Lamdage22 on October 16, 2017, at 9:52:49

Responded and seems to be happy to talk to me. We will see.

 

Re: Loveshy Lamdage22

Posted by baseball55 on October 17, 2017, at 17:57:10

In reply to Re: Loveshy, posted by Lamdage22 on October 17, 2017, at 1:39:17

> Responded and seems to be happy to talk to me. We will see.

Happy to hear it.

 

Re: Loveshy

Posted by Lamdage22 on October 18, 2017, at 8:50:48

In reply to Re: Loveshy, posted by baseball55 on October 13, 2017, at 17:41:02

She initially seemed interested but now she doesnt answer. I wrote her yesterday morning. I have been feeling out of it ever since i approached her on facebook.

 

Re: Loveshy

Posted by baseball55 on October 18, 2017, at 18:01:23

In reply to Re: Loveshy, posted by Lamdage22 on October 18, 2017, at 8:50:48

> She initially seemed interested but now she doesnt answer. I wrote her yesterday morning. I have been feeling out of it ever since i approached her on facebook.

You might want to take it slow, though. You're just a blast from the past getting in touch, not a friend or loved one. Contact her one a week or couple of weeks and see if she keeps responding then.

 

Re: Loveshy

Posted by Lamdage22 on October 20, 2017, at 7:42:58

In reply to Re: Loveshy, posted by baseball55 on October 18, 2017, at 18:01:23

I hear you. However i visit the town that she lives in next week. Its a few hundred kilometers away. My roommate chose that town so... hm.

> You might want to take it slow, though. You're just a blast from the past getting in touch, not a friend or loved one. Contact her one a week or couple of weeks and see if she keeps responding then.

 

Re: Loveshy

Posted by Lamdage22 on October 20, 2017, at 8:36:56

In reply to Re: Loveshy, posted by Lamdage22 on October 20, 2017, at 7:42:58

I dont know if she is into me or not. I dont think she is.

 

Re: Loveshy

Posted by Lamdage22 on October 21, 2017, at 11:24:07

In reply to Re: Loveshy, posted by Lamdage22 on October 20, 2017, at 7:42:58

yeah i am taking it slow i think that is good advice

 

Re: Loveshy

Posted by Lamdage22 on October 27, 2017, at 3:32:41

In reply to Re: Loveshy, posted by Lamdage22 on October 21, 2017, at 11:24:07

she does answer...

 

Re: Loveshy

Posted by Lamdage22 on December 8, 2017, at 11:43:54

In reply to Re: Loveshy, posted by Lamdage22 on October 27, 2017, at 3:32:41

So she didnt respond anymore.. Dont know if i should say something. It is indeed a long time ago. She has the gay pride flag on her facebook page celebrating that gays can marry, so she might be gay :)


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