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What are you doing?

Posted by Clearskies on September 15, 2016, at 21:47:35

For fun these days? Or if you can't call it fun, what is helping you feel better?

I am spending more time outof doors in this great climate. I kayak in a half *ss*d sort of way. Iwalk a trail. I live in a third floor walk up. Ha ha.

I am starting to explore the region more...it is weird to be single and exploring.

 

Re: What are you doing?

Posted by alexandra_k on September 16, 2016, at 21:04:40

In reply to What are you doing?, posted by Clearskies on September 15, 2016, at 21:47:35

I did really well on my last neurobiology test. That is helping me feel better. Best in test and currently 1st in class boo ya... After only 20% of the assessment, but still...

:)

I've been spending an awful lot of time in the anatomy museum holding plastic models of the thalamus and sphenoid etc... And reading textbooks... Photographic atlases of gross and brain slices...

Gym... Keeps me sane.

Museum / art gallery. Particularly the art gallery. Patron of the arts. I think that is important to me. I've come to realise that some people can't tell the difference between artistic creations that have taken an awful lot of time and effort and so on... And ones that haven't. That there is this sense of that... The value in arts degrees, even. I feel like I should be a patron of the arts as best I am able. To encourage that which I see merit / value in... To hope that that persists. Flourishes, even.

Similarly... I've been going to a lot of public seminars. Different fields.

I've been going to a lot of bio-ethics seminars... They have started to become... Uncomfortable... In some respects I'm far too idealistic, I'm learning. Last time I hashed through issues in bio-ethics (insofar as I did) not only was it prior to my experience in the health system... But it was prior to my coming to learn (a bit) about the Way Things Are. I've been pretty naieve in a lot of ways... Of course... I need to...

Not be like my grandfather. Not be too principled... But not to lose my humanity... It is a fine line or a slippery slope or... I guess you just do the best you can.

I have found out that there is a proper Olympic Weightlifting club here... Student memberships (financially feasible) etc... I'm kind of scared to go... But I should...

I think what they want to see... Is that I have ways of connecting with people in positive ways. Whatever that might be... So that if all your interactions with people are horrible for the day... You have those positive ways of connecting with people...

Such that you see people as people. So that you don't lose your humanity.

I think that is is. That is what is important about the de-stress etc.

I think patron of the arts... Seminars... Art Gallery... Amateur things, even. Music... Sport... To see the humanity. The talent. The skill. I think that is important to / for me.

I need to get the brakes fixed on my bike and then I'll start biking around. I think I'm too far away from much... Even 6 hours return, can't get to very much.

I want to get my lisence... Eventually get a motorbike. Start with a scooter. Yeah. That's my mission for this summer. Get my learners lisence and get a freaking scooter. Maybe get a harley or something before I retire haha.

 

Re: What are you doing?

Posted by Clearskies on September 16, 2016, at 22:52:40

In reply to Re: What are you doing?, posted by alexandra_k on September 16, 2016, at 21:04:40

You have really come into your own where you're situated now.

Great to hear.

 

Re: What are you doing?

Posted by alexandra_k on September 17, 2016, at 17:50:18

In reply to Re: What are you doing?, posted by Clearskies on September 16, 2016, at 22:52:40

:)

Actually 4/234 overall, oops.

Much happier. Relieved to discover that the things I was upset about... Getting away from them really has made a significant difference. I was worried, before, that I was just an endless stream of excuses, really. Turns out that I was right about what I needed, though. Surprise. It is hard to not have the money to fund what you know to be good.

It is hard to live with only enough to get you from week to week...

I suppose I've seen over the last few years how most of the people who only have enough to get them from week to week (people on government benefits) spend most of that on junk food and alcohol. And it is hard (dehumanising, even) that they don't have money for other things... But then it is also hard that if you give them money that they then could spend on other things then will likely spend that money on more expensive junk food and alcohol.

It is also hard, though, that when you are used to living from week to week... Then when you do get some kind of small bonus or windfall then you are likely to blow it on something... Silly.

It takes time to adapt. I'm remembering when my friends got their first government jobs... How they would manage to get through their entire salary on rubbish for the first few weeks... Then they would transition to things like building up their wardrobes... Then they start thinking about overseas holidays or cars... Then they start thinking about longer term investments.

It takes a certain amount of excess... For it to seem worth saving / thinking longer term. And it takes a certain amount of time for that excess to sink in. For you to process options.

Anyway... I have a bit more here than what I'm used to. Not a lot... But enough for me to be in the position to think that if I save for a few weeks then I could get this or that thing (that will last me a few years). Which helps me feel... Decidedly more human. It really is not a lot. It isn't as much as I had on PhD scholarship... But it is more than I am used to having. And it is nice to not have to worry about running out of food at the end of the week (like I had when I was in Wellington) or about my clothes literally deteriorating off my body (like I had when I was in Auckland). So...

There is a weird thing here about... Uniforms. That's what it feels like. It isn't about money... It is about choices that you make with the money that you get.. Maybe it is about shorter term vs longer term... But they really do have this thing about the decision to dress professionally or not. Not expensively. Not like TV professional image... But, like, the decision to dress conservatively in subdued tones... Without visible branding etc... Versus other choices that one might make. It is nice to be amongst 'real people' and not amongst the billboards selling rubbish to alcohol damaged teenagers in the city...

I need to see if I can find a doctor who isn't using foreign 'health clinic start-up software' to manage their clinic... And / or storing all the patient information on a foreign server. I'm not sure that is possible anymore...

Priceless.


 

Re: What are you doing?

Posted by baseball55 on September 17, 2016, at 18:58:53

In reply to What are you doing?, posted by Clearskies on September 15, 2016, at 21:47:35

I left my husband around the same time you did, I think. I have been doing a lot of things he had no interest in doing - concerts, plays, travel. I spent three weeks in China and Japan last year and was planning a trip to Europe this summer, but ended up having a hip replacement.
Having surgery living alone was a little scary at first, but my daughter came and stayed with me for a week.
I spend time with friends that I would have spent (unhappily) with him.
So things are good.

> For fun these days? Or if you can't call it fun, what is helping you feel better?
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> I am spending more time outof doors in this great climate. I kayak in a half *ss*d sort of way. Iwalk a trail. I live in a third floor walk up. Ha ha.
>
> I am starting to explore the region more...it is weird to be single and exploring.
>
>

 

Re: What are you doing?

Posted by rjlockhart37 on September 17, 2016, at 19:37:31

In reply to What are you doing?, posted by Clearskies on September 15, 2016, at 21:47:35

mostly what i do now is listen to variety of music, usally emotion filled, having a feeling in the song instead of just repetition

i bought myself at least 14 books to read, and ill read for a 1 hour and then get bored, it's more like a chore to read for me.....im not at a bookworm.

sometiems play computer games, but not usally for a long period.....i used to get a euphoria playing games, or playstation games, i grew up and kinda lost the intrest of it.....still there's some games ill play for about 1 huor but don't really dive into them, it was mainly in my teenage years i was a gamer. And plus gaming takes up alot of time, and you don't really work with life and people, it's all virtual reality, i rather do something like pintrest and let people see the boards of art work on my pages......


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