Psycho-Babble Social Thread 792718

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Lies *trigger*

Posted by jammerlich on November 1, 2007, at 11:05:53

It's becoming painfully clear that my ex is full of them. And about the littlest things, to. That has me really scared because, what does that mean about the big things? He cried, apologized, told me, emphatically, how sorry he was, committed the very same infraction not even 5 minutes later (I kid you not; no exaggeration here, and then he lied about it. I do not trust him anymore and it's like a whole new loss.

I am so tired. If I had the means to die today, it would already be done.

 

Re: Lies *trigger* » jammerlich

Posted by Phillipa on November 1, 2007, at 13:01:43

In reply to Lies *trigger*, posted by jammerlich on November 1, 2007, at 11:05:53

If I said at my age I could relate would you believe as that is my life too. But that isn't the answer. And at your young age a new relationship just might be. Hope Im no overstepping my boundaries here. Phillipa

 

Re: Lies *trigger* » jammerlich

Posted by ClearSkies on November 1, 2007, at 22:04:28

In reply to Lies *trigger*, posted by jammerlich on November 1, 2007, at 11:05:53

Jammer, the scales have fallen from your eyes, and in doing so, every hurt cuts even more deeply. For this I am so very sorry - but you are fortunate in knowing that you'll be able to put this part of your life behind you.

I wish that for every lie that you're able to detect, you can hold up a new piece of armour. Protected!! Picture your hand up in front of you - defending you. With each lie told and detected by you, the hand/armour goes up again. Put that hand up! Protected!! (Talk to the hand, 'cause the ears ain't listening.) It sounds silly, but a little exercise like that can help you build up your defenses, both literally AND figuratively.

Oh, and get good and angry - that's a great one. (If you can - you may be hurting too much for that right now, but later on you'll be able to do it!)

Hanging in there with you,
ClearSkies

 

Re: Lies *trigger* » ClearSkies

Posted by llurpsienoodle on November 2, 2007, at 9:34:06

In reply to Re: Lies *trigger* » jammerlich, posted by ClearSkies on November 1, 2007, at 22:04:28

he sounds like he's becoming uglier.

be angry, jammer

and take good care of yourself. Stick the iPod in your ears when things get too crazy.

(((((((((((((jammer)))))))))))))

hugs
-ll

 

Re: Lies *trigger* » jammerlich

Posted by Dinah on November 2, 2007, at 9:38:49

In reply to Lies *trigger*, posted by jammerlich on November 1, 2007, at 11:05:53

In an overall sense, this is why he's your ex. I get the impression, which may be wrong, that he doesn't like to be "in trouble" or is conflict averse. Someone in my family is like that, and it leads to a fair amount of lying - even about silly things.

Now that you're aware that your ex lies, you'll better know what to expect.

And please, make sure you protect yourself in a practical sense if you can't trust his word.

 

Re: Lies *trigger*

Posted by jammerlich on November 2, 2007, at 14:07:00

In reply to Re: Lies *trigger* » jammerlich, posted by Dinah on November 2, 2007, at 9:38:49

Saw the pdoc today. He doubled the dose of my happy pills. If I'm lucky, maybe they'll help me not care so much.

Thanks for the support, everyone. Reading what you've written helps a lot.


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