Psycho-Babble Social Thread 720406

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My Dad is having his bypass today...

Posted by Jay on January 8, 2007, at 10:41:48

I feel bad, because I take more then put into the board...I'm sorry. Just a crazy few weeks. My Dad left for the hospital out of town a few hours ago for his quadruple bypass today. He is 70. I gave him a massive hug, we broke out in tears, told him how much I loved him, and that I would be *forever* with him..and kissed him on the cheek. My parents little dog actually started to cry when she saw my Dad and I crying..she was doing this "wimper". Love transcends everything, that is for sure.

Can I, once again, but especially this once if ever, ask for your thought's, and maybe a little "nod" or something to Jay's Dad? I know he is scared. I'd do anything in the world to take away his fear, and hopefully there is no pain for him. I go to see him, with my brother, at about 4pm or so in the ICU of the hospital. Seeing him with all of those tubes and wires...I *hope* I can keep it together.

I've slightly changed some of the words to a new song by U2, that express my love for my pops:
(You can also listen to the song here:
http://snipurl.com/16wlp )

Window In The Skies

The shackles are undone
The bullets quit the gun
The heat thatís in the sun
Will keep us when thereís none
The rule has been disproved
The stone it has been moved
The grave is now a groove
All debts are removed

Oh canít you see what your love has done?
Oh canít you see what your love has done?
Oh canít you see what your love has done?
What itís done to me?

Love makes strange enemies
Makes love where love may please
The soul and its striptease
Hate brought to its knees
The sky over our head
We can reach it from our bed
You let me in your heart
And out of my head, headÖ

Oh canít you see what your love has done?
Oh canít you see what your love has done?
Oh canít you see what your love has done?
What itís done to me?

Please donít ever let me out of you...
Iíve got no shame, oh no, oh no...

I know we hurt and sometimes cry
But love left a window in the skies
And to love I rhapsodize
To every broken heart
For every heart that cries
Your love left a window in the skies...

Thank you so much...from the deepest wells of my heart...
Jay

 

Re: My Dad is having his bypass today...

Posted by wishingstar on January 8, 2007, at 11:07:34

In reply to My Dad is having his bypass today..., posted by Jay on January 8, 2007, at 10:41:48

Jay, I know I dont know you, but I will keep your father and your entire family in my thoughts. I'm sorry you all are going through such a frightening time right now. Keep your head up. I wish him the best of luck.

 

Re: My Dad is having his bypass today...

Posted by Phillipa on January 8, 2007, at 11:27:13

In reply to Re: My Dad is having his bypass today..., posted by wishingstar on January 8, 2007, at 11:07:34

Jay I thought he'd had the surgery and all was well? Well I'm keeping both of you in my thoughts. Good luck and keep us posted. Love Phillipa

 

Re: My Dad is having his bypass today... Ľ Jay

Posted by Kath on January 8, 2007, at 13:20:31

In reply to My Dad is having his bypass today..., posted by Jay on January 8, 2007, at 10:41:48

Hi Jay - I'm keeping you & your Dad are in my thoughts & prayers.

I hope everything goes smoothly & that he's comfortable.

I bet the nurses & doctors will be really reassuring & supportive.

I send you hugs, Kath

 

Re: My Dad is having his bypass today... Ľ Jay

Posted by Poet on January 8, 2007, at 14:03:45

In reply to My Dad is having his bypass today..., posted by Jay on January 8, 2007, at 10:41:48

Hi Jay,

I'm surrounding your father with the white light of healing. I hope things went smoothly.

Poet

 

Anyone interested in a 'light holding' group? Ľ Poet

Posted by Kath on January 8, 2007, at 14:22:47

In reply to Re: My Dad is having his bypass today... Ľ Jay, posted by Poet on January 8, 2007, at 14:03:45

Hey Poet -

you talk my language!!! I usually would say something like, "I'll surround him with golden light"

Years ago I was a member of a "light holding" group.

My medical doctor was really progressive....and would hold all kinds of groups, talks, etc. There was a list of our names & phone #'s & if something was coming up, we'd phone whoever we wanted from the list & ask, "Would you please hold light for me....." & give details.

It was SOOOOOOOOO reassuring.

I'm certainly going to continue to 'hold light' for Jay & his Dad.

Kath

 

Healing thoughts and wishes Ľ Jay

Posted by ClearSkies on January 8, 2007, at 15:17:35

In reply to My Dad is having his bypass today..., posted by Jay on January 8, 2007, at 10:41:48

...being sent to your dad. I hope all goes well with his surgery and post-op recovery. Your love will surely help.
((((Jay and Jay's dad)))

 

Re: Anyone interested in a 'light holding' group? Ľ Kath

Posted by Poet on January 8, 2007, at 18:00:23

In reply to Anyone interested in a 'light holding' group? Ľ Poet, posted by Kath on January 8, 2007, at 14:22:47

Hi Kath,

I'm glad we talk the same language. I surrounded my mother with the white light of healing through many successful surgeries and our light we are putting around Jay's dad helps things go well for him.

I'd be happy to form a light holding group with you.

Poet

 

Re: Anyone interested in a 'light holding' group? Ľ Kath

Posted by madeline on January 8, 2007, at 18:09:53

In reply to Anyone interested in a 'light holding' group? Ľ Poet, posted by Kath on January 8, 2007, at 14:22:47

I am in the light holding group too.

maddie

 

Re: My Dad is having his bypass today... Ľ Jay

Posted by madeline on January 8, 2007, at 18:14:48

In reply to My Dad is having his bypass today..., posted by Jay on January 8, 2007, at 10:41:48

My dad had a quadruple bypass several years ago. It is scary.

When you see him after surgery he will be puffed up and scary looking, but don't worry it will go away.

He will probably stay in house for four or five days and he will come home with pain meds and a big pillow to hug to his chest when he coughs.

It will take a year to fully recover. But my dad started feeling better immediately once his heart was getting fed properly. His color improved and he could exercise a lot longer.

Watch for depression.

Just a side note, this past week my dad started have left arm pain, had a cardiac cath and everything was FINE! His bypass looked great and as it turned out he had a slight torn rotator cuff.

My thoughts are with you both.

Maddie

 

Re: My Dad is having his bypass today... Ľ Jay

Posted by Dinah on January 8, 2007, at 18:52:25

In reply to My Dad is having his bypass today..., posted by Jay on January 8, 2007, at 10:41:48

I'll be sending positive thoughts his way and yours.

 

Re: light holding group - how will we do it?

Posted by Kath on January 8, 2007, at 19:07:51

In reply to Re: Anyone interested in a 'light holding' group? Ľ Kath, posted by madeline on January 8, 2007, at 18:09:53

What do you think?

That if someone needs to have light help, we just ask & those who want to hold light do?

Kath

 

Re: My Dad...I cried my heart out...Thank you ALL

Posted by Jay on January 8, 2007, at 20:46:34

In reply to My Dad is having his bypass today..., posted by Jay on January 8, 2007, at 10:41:48

I don't normally write one letter addressed to all, and I am sorry, I will try to get back and catch up. I just got back from the hospital, with my Mom, and we had met my brother, sister, and my niece there. Well...

My niece, my sister and I where the first three into the ICU.(for 10 minute period.) This little (well...not literally..but..as in age..) brother clenched his big sister's hand (she is only, like, 48..)..turned the corner, saw my beautiful Dad's face with the breathing tube and wires and all, and I bursted out into the biggest sob of tears I have had in such a long time, sobbing all along, onto the shoulder of my big sister. My Mom then came in a bit afterwards, I cried more on her shoulders and clenched her hands.. They (and the hospital staff) must have thought I was the most depressed person in the world! But I touched my Dad's forehead with a kiss on my hand. Apparently (and I am glad I didn't know), he was very high risk. But, so far, he has made it. (And I knock on a gazillion pieces of wood.) Oh Gaawdd..I am crying again....sorry...I will write more latter. Thank you so much for your healing light and thoughts. I am deeply indebted to you guys. Jay

 

Re: My Dad...I cried my heart out...Thank you ALL Ľ Jay

Posted by Phillipa on January 8, 2007, at 20:54:52

In reply to Re: My Dad...I cried my heart out...Thank you ALL, posted by Jay on January 8, 2007, at 20:46:34

Jay I'm so glad he made it. And in a few days you will feel so much better and so will your other family members and especially your Dad. I know those tubes are scarey but they serve the purpose of helping him breath for now. Bet they are out in the morning. I did work ICU for a short while. Love Phillipa

 

Re: My Dad...I cried my heart out...Thank you ALL Ľ Jay

Posted by Kath on January 9, 2007, at 15:45:24

In reply to Re: My Dad...I cried my heart out...Thank you ALL, posted by Jay on January 8, 2007, at 20:46:34

Dear Jay,

I'm so glad your Dad is OK. I'm so glad you didn't know he was high risk!

I'm so glad your other family members could be there to support each other Jay.

love to you & you're all still getting light & my thoughts.

Kath

 

Re: My Dad...I cried my heart out...Thank you ALL

Posted by TexasChic on January 9, 2007, at 20:51:42

In reply to Re: My Dad...I cried my heart out...Thank you ALL Ľ Jay, posted by Kath on January 9, 2007, at 15:45:24

There is no reason to apologize Jay. You are not obligated to anything here except what your heart dictates and can handle. Group email responses are fine, even expected in a difficult time. Posting only requests for support at times is also alright. You will do your part to help when you are able, and no one would want it otherwise. Don't add unnecessary guilt onto your already full plate.

I am sending you and your Dad good healing vibes, otherwise known as white light. Although it may be unproven, there is so much we don't know about the human brain that in my opinion, its entirely possible that it helps.

Don't be afraid to let the tears come. I truly believe they are healing.

We're here for you Jay.

-T

 

Light holding group

Posted by Kath on January 10, 2007, at 15:54:02

In reply to Re: Anyone interested in a 'light holding' group? Ľ Kath, posted by Poet on January 8, 2007, at 18:00:23

Sounds like we have at least Poet, Maddie, Texas Chic & moi. Cool!

Kath :-)

 

Re: Light holding group Ľ Kath

Posted by Poet on January 10, 2007, at 18:33:00

In reply to Light holding group, posted by Kath on January 10, 2007, at 15:54:02

Looks like a good start to a great light holding group.

Poet

 

Re: Light holding group - request for light.....

Posted by Kath on January 10, 2007, at 19:08:00

In reply to Re: Light holding group Ľ Kath, posted by Poet on January 10, 2007, at 18:33:00

Yes. So I'll go on record to be the first person to ask:

will you-all please hold light for me & for my son?

Thx. Kath

Plus - I think we should still hold light for Jay & his Dad & family. :-)

 

Re: Light holding group - request for light..... Ľ Kath

Posted by Poet on January 11, 2007, at 12:13:40

In reply to Re: Light holding group - request for light....., posted by Kath on January 10, 2007, at 19:08:00

Hi Kath,

I'm holding light for you and your son, and Jay and his dad.

Poet

 

Re: Light holding group - request for light.....

Posted by philyra on January 11, 2007, at 12:43:05

In reply to Re: Light holding group - request for light....., posted by Kath on January 10, 2007, at 19:08:00

I'm holding light for Kath & your son, and Jay & your dad.

take care,
philyra


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