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I think I had a profound experience the other day

Posted by Dinah on December 30, 2006, at 11:33:23

Watching a rerun of the Wonder Years. I guess it's too early to tell if the changes will stick, but...

I realized I'm Margaret Farquar (sp?). The girl with three braids (because you never know when you'll need an extra rubber band) who loved bats and spiders.

Now mind you, I like Margaret. A lot. And I admire her courage and individuality, and her refusal to bow to the unkindness and expectations of others.

But this time I also saw Kevin and his reaction to her. Liking her and wanting to be friends with her but wondering why she had to make it so hard for him by being so weird. And that struck me in a way that hadn't before.

So... I made an appointment at a real salon to get my hair trimmed at least (since there's only so much you can do with straight thin hair) and the color touched up for the first time in well over a year. And... I'm trying not to wear my hair in braids. It's tough, and I'm backsliding at home when I am working, because it's so much easier to work with that inconvenient stuff out of the way.

But my hair has this seventies long straight blonde look going on right now, and my husband met me and fell in love with me that way, and likes it best that way. So I'm trying my best to leave it that way.

I'm not sure when summer comes if my resolve will waver.

If I lose some weight, I've promised myself some new, "normal" clothes.

I guess... I guess I don't want it to be hard for my husband and son to be with me.

 

Re: I think I had a profound experience the other day » Dinah

Posted by Poet on December 30, 2006, at 11:41:39

In reply to I think I had a profound experience the other day, posted by Dinah on December 30, 2006, at 11:33:23

Hi Dinah,

I finally let my hairdresser cut some layers in my hair, it was a monumental event. She's real careful about doing anything to it, other than coloring it the exact same color. She knows better than to experiment.

Poet

 

Re: I think I had a profound experience the other day

Posted by TexasChic on December 30, 2006, at 15:08:29

In reply to I think I had a profound experience the other day, posted by Dinah on December 30, 2006, at 11:33:23

Yeah there's a fine line between not conforming and doing things so no one will THINK you're conforming... which actually lS conforming if you think about it. l've been thinking alot about that lately with my new job in the corporate world. l've always considered myself kind of a hippie, so l struggle with things like, for instance, trying to look the part by wearing heels and dressing up. Am l giving in if l do, or being stubborn and closed minded if l don't?

l over analyze things way too much!

-T

 

Re: I think I had a profound experience the other day » Dinah

Posted by happykat on December 30, 2006, at 19:40:14

In reply to I think I had a profound experience the other day, posted by Dinah on December 30, 2006, at 11:33:23

Dinah,

I always enjoy reading your posts. You make the most astute observations. I relate to the feeling of making things difficult for those around me. I sense that my creative and eclectic sense of style is sometimes an embarrassment to those that have to show up at events with me.

I also have long, thin, straight hair. What's a girl to do? I wear mine in a ponytail to get it out of the way.

I don't know if I could do 'normal' clothes. If you've ever watched TLC's 'What Not To Wear,' All I can say is Clinton & Stacy would have a field day in my closet. My favs are pants with various 60's era lifeguard shack photos pasted all over them, khaki pants with bright red lobsters printed on them, anything gold, sequined (sp?), black leather, vintage.

Seriously, I can't imagine that your husband and son would find it hard to be with you. They sound lovely from what you've posted. I am particularly impressed that your DH could quote the line from Smokey & the Bandit about racing up to Boston for some clam chowder. I got a big chuckle out of that! : ) I think I've seen that movie a couple dozen times.

Regards,
happykat : )

 

Re: I think I had a profound experience the other day

Posted by Phillipa on December 30, 2006, at 22:58:26

In reply to Re: I think I had a profound experience the other day » Dinah, posted by happykat on December 30, 2006, at 19:40:14

I had short hair from living at the beach. Now three years later it was long enough for a wave or perm whatever. I got it love it easiest to care for and it makes me feel feminine. Love Phillipa ps Dinah somehow I always pictured you with brown hair. Now who is the redhead?

 

Re: I think I had a profound experience the other day » Dinah

Posted by MidnightBlue on December 30, 2006, at 23:05:43

In reply to I think I had a profound experience the other day, posted by Dinah on December 30, 2006, at 11:33:23

YEAH DINAH!

For the hair cut and color touch up! Bet you look beautiful!

MB

 

Re: I think I had a profound experience the other » Dinah

Posted by LJRen on December 31, 2006, at 10:10:02

In reply to I think I had a profound experience the other day, posted by Dinah on December 30, 2006, at 11:33:23

Do people think you're gay because you don't conform to the stereotypical dress of women? - I do.

I wear what's comfortable, which usually doesn't include tight fitting sexy clothes. Don't like taking the time to put on makeup. Wasn't born w/ the gene for big breasts, so either go braless or wear a sports-bra. And my hair, a lost cause. Used to be straight, now starting to turn curly!?!? So it's pulled up most of the time in a clip or ponytail. And because of all that, I'm automatically dubbed a lesbian. Lucky me. Don't have anything against gay people. But when you are straight and looking for a SO, you don't want to have to change who you are just to suit everybody else's preconceived notions.

So I totally get where you're coming from Dinah.
Ren

 

Re: I think I had a profound experience the other » happykat

Posted by Dinah on December 31, 2006, at 11:29:00

In reply to Re: I think I had a profound experience the other day » Dinah, posted by happykat on December 30, 2006, at 19:40:14

My husband is great. He keeps me rolling with laughter. :)

 

Re: I think I had a profound experience the other » LJRen

Posted by Dinah on December 31, 2006, at 11:34:44

In reply to Re: I think I had a profound experience the other » Dinah, posted by LJRen on December 31, 2006, at 10:10:02

I've never had anyone imply that. I am unusual in a different way, I guess.

I remember my therapist mentioning dressing differently when he was dating, and being somewhat taken aback. But I guess that's the way it's done. Thank heavens I'm out of that. Or was never in it, or something like that. :)

 

Thanks everyone.

Posted by Dinah on December 31, 2006, at 11:40:33

In reply to I think I had a profound experience the other day, posted by Dinah on December 30, 2006, at 11:33:23

I can't say I actually look nice. I won't look nice till I lose at least fifty more pounds. And maybe not even then, considering my age.

And I'm iffy about whether I can tolerate the long flowing hair. It's already getting stuck in seatbelts, etc. I had forgotten those things. :)

But maybe I look less odd. And my son is definitely getting to the age where an odd mom would be a burden. I can't wear the uniform, I just can't. The uniform the moms of his friends seem to find so easy to put together, but that fills me with anxiety.

If I can just lose the weight, and maybe have a breast lift, I might be able to wear something that fits in, if not the actual uniform. Until I got fat, I was presentable. I just can't seem to find fat clothes that suit me and still allow me to breathe, so I just give up and wear the most comfortable thing around. I'd live in jammies if I could.

 

Re: Thanks everyone. » Dinah

Posted by Phillipa on December 31, 2006, at 19:07:07

In reply to Thanks everyone., posted by Dinah on December 31, 2006, at 11:40:33

Dinah a career change and your problem is solved medical and scrubs like pajamas.Love Phillipa

 

Re: I think I had a profound experience the other day » happykat

Posted by karen_kay on January 3, 2007, at 10:54:39

In reply to Re: I think I had a profound experience the other day » Dinah, posted by happykat on December 30, 2006, at 19:40:14

what does dh mean? i notice people use that alot. but, for the life of me, i can't figure it out. i'm assuming (you know what they say about that. and it's so true) it mean dumb husband. correct me if i'm wrong.

 

Re: I think I had a profound experience the other day » karen_kay

Posted by MidnightBlue on January 3, 2007, at 13:42:26

In reply to Re: I think I had a profound experience the other day » happykat, posted by karen_kay on January 3, 2007, at 10:54:39

And here I thought it meant DARLING husband. :-) But of course there are other "d" words...... those just don't apply to mine.

MB


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