Psycho-Babble Social Thread 718184

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2007 started just like 2006 ended.

Posted by Dinah on January 1, 2007, at 11:20:04

I think I'm going back to bed.

Wake me in 2008.

 

Re: 2007 started just like 2006 ended. » Dinah

Posted by Phillipa on January 1, 2007, at 11:48:24

In reply to 2007 started just like 2006 ended., posted by Dinah on January 1, 2007, at 11:20:04

What is up? I've looked at the boards and it sounds like something is not right with any of us. What is it? Love Phillipa Dinah I hear you loud and clear.

 

Re: 2007 started just like 2006 ended. » Dinah

Posted by ClearSkies on January 1, 2007, at 11:49:52

In reply to 2007 started just like 2006 ended., posted by Dinah on January 1, 2007, at 11:20:04

Ditto.

 

Re: 2007 started just like 2006 ended.

Posted by Dinah on January 1, 2007, at 15:47:27

In reply to Re: 2007 started just like 2006 ended. » Dinah, posted by Phillipa on January 1, 2007, at 11:48:24

Oh, it's my husband and son. I feel kind of funny talking about it. But at midnight when we were supposed to be welcoming in the new year, my son was in tears, this time because he fell asleep before midnight, though he woke up for midnight. Everything was tense, and the whole house was miserable. I slept in my study.

And over Christmas I felt like Henry Kissinger going from one hostile nation to another trying to broker a Christmas cease fire.

It felt like being back in my family of origin.

I don't like it one bit, and I see no possibility of improvement. Adolescence is coming up and I don't know if my husband will make it through.

I just don't know why everything has to turn into such a major deal. My son gets invited to a friend's house, and you'd think someone died by the way my husband reacts. And there is no good answer. He can't just say no and forget it, and he just can't say yes and forget it. He has to stew and stew about it.

Everything is always such a big deal.

 

Re: 2007 started just like 2006 ended. » Dinah

Posted by annierose on January 1, 2007, at 16:09:08

In reply to Re: 2007 started just like 2006 ended., posted by Dinah on January 1, 2007, at 15:47:27

So your husband said "no" to the friend? Maybe it's your husband that will have the harder time letting go of your son.

Adolescence is a mixed blessing. Mostly for my daughter is has brought about much happiness. Her therapist has said to me many times, "XXX has taken to middle school like a duck to water. And I think the older she gets the happier she will be." Some kids who have difficult earier years, thrieve in a more academic "older" environment.

Your son has always been wise beyond his years. His peers may look up to him more and more.

Funny, today my daughter was invited to spend the day with two friends she met at a summer camp. I said "yes" right away, and my husband looked concerned. I reasoned with him, "Did you want to watch football all day? If so, let her go and have fun." And she did.

 

Re: 2007 started just like 2006 ended.

Posted by Phillipa on January 1, 2007, at 19:08:37

In reply to Re: 2007 started just like 2006 ended. » Dinah, posted by annierose on January 1, 2007, at 16:09:08

You know it's funny they say when your kids are l8 they are grown and gone and you can relax. Not so as mine are all grown and it was much less complicated when they were young. And our resilience was better. Love Phillipa

 

Re: 2007 started just like 2006 ended.**trigger » Dinah

Posted by jylisnotlaughing on January 2, 2007, at 10:22:29

In reply to Re: 2007 started just like 2006 ended., posted by Dinah on January 1, 2007, at 15:47:27

i wish i could help but i make so many mistakes with the kids..i am always second guessing myself..they laugh a lot and i dont burn them with cigerettes..so i am ahead of the game.
j

you cant control what your h makes a "big deal" you can only control how you want to react to it..
dr p


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