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Son is in hospital now

Posted by Kath on December 30, 2006, at 15:27:42

Last nite, he went to his dad's & said he needed help to be somewhere safe.

They went to hosp & he was admitted & a psychiatrist called in.

He's been hearing voices for a few weeks, telling him they'd hurt him, or to hurt himself (BIG hurt himself).

He's also afraid his girlfriend is going to be hurt.

I am so thankful that he's safe in hospital. He's at the other side of the country from me in Vancouver.

I am sad. I want to hug him & hold him. I spoke to him last nite when his bio-Dad phoned me to express his fears that the hospital might not admit him. Bio-Dad was leaving at 3 am for a week's holiday. Since son is safe in hosp, & after talking with the psych. bio-Dad did go on holiday.

I feel so bad for my son. He said to me, "Mom, everyone thinks I'm going crazy." When I spoke to his GF she said that she's never said that to him - in fact the opposite. I think he's pretty delusional...& Paranoid.

So scarey. Oh gawd. THis feels like I'm IN a bad dream.

Kath

 

Re: Son is in hospital now

Posted by wishingstar on December 30, 2006, at 16:33:20

In reply to Son is in hospital now, posted by Kath on December 30, 2006, at 15:27:42

Hi Kath,

I'm so glad your son is in a place where he can be safe right now. From what you've said before, it sounds like he needs the intensive treatment and supervision for now. I hope that he finds it helpful and that he can get his situation headed in a slightly more positive direction while he's there. I was in the hospital a few months ago myself and I can see how it could be very beneficial.

I'm sorry this is so hard for you. I think that's probably a completely normal feeling, especially when there is so little you can do to "fix it" for him right now. I can tell you really care about him and I'm sure he knows that as well.

Hang in there.

 

Re: Son is in hospital now wishingstar

Posted by Kath on December 30, 2006, at 18:35:09

In reply to Re: Son is in hospital now, posted by wishingstar on December 30, 2006, at 16:33:20

Thanks!

Yes, he knows he's loved big-much (as he used to say when he was little!)

I heard from his girlfriend - he was given Ativan & has been sleeping almost all the time. He saw a doctor & answered all the questions but couldn't remember what the doctor had said.

GF was going to go back to see him again after a while. As luck would have it - the hospital is only 5 minutes' walk!!!!!! I am so glad about that. It'll make it easier for her.

Thx for your support.

I'm sure this is good for him. Also, GF said that he's been really scared by all this, & they're talking about coming back to Ontario (I have mixed feelings about that) - & the plan is that he'll go into long-term rehab. THAT part sounds good! Who knows, maybe this will help him turn his life around. He's been a druggie since he was 14....sad but true - & we're not just talking about weed!

Thx again,, Kath

 

Re: Son is in hospital now Kath

Posted by Phillipa on December 30, 2006, at 23:01:10

In reply to Re: Son is in hospital now wishingstar, posted by Kath on December 30, 2006, at 18:35:09

Kath I forgot about the drugs and great that ativan calmed him down. I think that is a good sign. Could it have been a bad trip as they say? Love Phillipa

 

Re: Son is in hospital now Kath

Posted by jylisnotlaughing on December 31, 2006, at 12:24:20

In reply to Son is in hospital now, posted by Kath on December 30, 2006, at 15:27:42

kath,
keep believing that he is in good hands. you talk about him with such love and kindness..he will "always" be your little boy. he feels your love everyday..
take care kath

 

Re: Son is in hospital now Kath

Posted by Dinah on December 31, 2006, at 15:23:26

In reply to Son is in hospital now, posted by Kath on December 30, 2006, at 15:27:42

I'm glad he's somewhere safe. It must be so difficult to love someone but know that they, in the end, have to decide whether to change.

But he's safe right now.

 

to you all

Posted by Kath on December 31, 2006, at 16:25:06

In reply to Re: Son is in hospital now Kath, posted by Dinah on December 31, 2006, at 15:23:26

Thank you so much for your care & support & kind words.

Spoke with my son today (also with his nurse).

He sounded more like himself - even a bit of humour when I asked him, "so how is the food? regular hospital food?"
he said, "no not quite!"
& I said, "you mean not even that good?!"
& he chuckled & said, "no not quite!!"

He's still in Emerg 'cuz there are no regular-room beds yet. I said it mustn't be great still being just curtained off & that they're going to be putting him in a real room & he seemed pleased, surprised & relieved. I told him that would happen as soon as a bed became available - probably within 2 days.

Then later, the doctor phoned me. My son signed whatever papers that allow them to talk with me. The doctor said he's certified now, which means he can't leave. So THAT is good.

They've put him on Paxil & Risperdone. She said she expects he'll be there for a good while.

Just spoke with his GF, who is dismayed that he's on Paxil. She said she was on it & also his friend was & that it changes the person who you are....changes how you think.?? Might go on meds board to get input on that.

My big thing for now is that he's safe.

Thx for the support.

Kath

 

Re: to you all Kath

Posted by Poet on December 31, 2006, at 17:48:03

In reply to to you all, posted by Kath on December 31, 2006, at 16:25:06

Hi Kath,

I'm glad your son is doing okay in the hospital. I hope a bed becomes available soon so he gets some privacy. Bring him food if it's allowed.

Poet

 

Re: to you all Poet

Posted by Kath on December 31, 2006, at 21:30:18

In reply to Re: to you all Kath, posted by Poet on December 31, 2006, at 17:48:03

Hi Poet - boy do I wish I could bring him food!

I'm in Ontario (middle of Canada) & he's in British Columbia (West coast of Canada)!

Yes - it'll be 'way better once he has his own room...he'll be on Psych Floor & I'm hoping that they might have some sort of programs that might help him; whether they will, I don't know.

take care, :-) Kath

 

Re: to you all Kath

Posted by wishingstar on January 1, 2007, at 10:14:17

In reply to to you all, posted by Kath on December 31, 2006, at 16:25:06

It sounds like he's doing pretty well, especially considering they dont even have him a room! It will definitely go uphill from where he's at now I think. A room of his own and some privacy will be a big step up. And I'm sure they will have activities up on the psych floor. I'll tell you what they had us doing when I was in the hospital a few months ago. Maybe it'll be similar. We met with the psychaitrist every day, had group sessions 3 times a day, and had crafts once a day. Then the people who had been there longer and "could be trusted" got to go out on a walk around the hospital or outside. There were also always a million people who wanted to talk to you - social workers, occupational therapists, etc etc. Much better than sitting in the emergency dept. Every hospital is different, but I'm sure theyll have some sort of schedule.

Again, I'm glad your son is getting help and is safe. That's the most important thing.

 

Re: to you all wishingstar

Posted by Kath on January 1, 2007, at 16:05:49

In reply to Re: to you all Kath, posted by wishingstar on January 1, 2007, at 10:14:17

Gee - that sounds great!!

Apparently, last evening a woman was admitted & she was ranting & raving about God & bringing down the system & all kinds of things. Jay hadn't been hearing voices but started agian during that.

I spoke with a nurse today & it might be tomorrow or the next day he gets a room.

Then I spoke with Jay. Talked with him last night also.

He sounded better than he had before. Still not good, of course, but a little better - a little more 'grounded' I guess.

Thx so much for your support.

It means so much to me & does HELP!!!!

:-) Kath

PS how are you doing?

 

Re: to you all Kath

Posted by wishingstar on January 2, 2007, at 12:48:20

In reply to Re: to you all wishingstar, posted by Kath on January 1, 2007, at 16:05:49

I'm glad to hear he's starting to feel a little more comfortable there! Even if the new patient did throw him a little bit. There is always a huge range of functioning in those hospitals.. at least that has been my experience. I hope he does get that room today. Definitely keep me updated.

To be honest, I'm not doing so hot myself right now. Hurting a lot. I'm certainly better off than when I was in the hospital myself in October though. I'm running into a big problem with my current T and off all meds right now. I'm yet to find one that works. But I go back on Thurs. Thanks for asking.

 

Update wishingstar

Posted by Kath on January 2, 2007, at 16:24:29

In reply to Re: to you all Kath, posted by wishingstar on January 2, 2007, at 12:48:20

Hi wishing,

No room for my son today; hopefully tomorrow.

Had a very upsetting day because my son wasn't able to get in touch with GF & neither was I all day.

My son was beside himself. His fear for her safety is BIIIIIIIIIGGGGGGGGGGGGG. He'd wanted her to phone me 4 times during the night to let me know she was OK. She agreed to midnite & 3, which she & I decided wasn't necessary. But in the morning when there was no answer to the phone, I was pretty upset. I'm afraid I lied to my son & said I'd spoken with her at 6 am. & that she had been really tired & probably was just sleeping through the phone (which turned out to be true; she's going to put the ringer on LOUD). When I asked him if the phone could go into the bedroom he said no plug in there & that he'd thrown their portable out the window into the dumpster outside & that he didn't want to go into the reason right now, but would tell me sometime.
When I spoke with her, she said he'd done that because the 'voices' had told him to throw the phone out the window, so they'd know he wasn't going to phone the police!!!!!!!! YIKES - can you imagine how that would feel; thinking that was REAL!!!!!!!!

I must admit, that when I couldn't reach GF today, I was started to have visions of her having been hurt in their apartment! He is so totally convinced that she's not safe, that it almost makes it seem like there's some possibility!

When I finally phoned him to tell him she's safe & I just spoke to her & that she'd been soooo tired she just slept thru the phone, he said that we should remember this, in case it happens again. I thought that was a good thing. That he'd have that clarity of thought. Earlier today, he was playing cards with another patient. I told him that that was a good sign since it required concentration. (I was actually surprised!)

I'm sorry you aren't doing well hun. Do you suffer from depression? anxiety? or what? I'm sorry you're having problems with your T. That SUCKS!!!!!!!!!!!! How long have you been off meds? I send you a long hug. Thanks for reaching out to me. It really means a lot to me.

Take care & I hope you feel better really soon. When did you say you see your T again? Have you been going there long?

luv, Kath

 

Re: Update Kath

Posted by wishingstar on January 2, 2007, at 18:23:59

In reply to Update wishingstar, posted by Kath on January 2, 2007, at 16:24:29

Thanks for the update! I'm sorry to hear about the problem with your son and phone calls and all today and all the stress that caused. I think it was okay to lie to him about talking with the gf in this case. He didnt need the added stress of worrying about her right now, and there hadnt been any major emergency. It's very easy to get pulled into other people's issues (paranoid ideas, etc) though... I've experienced that one myself! Regardless of the issue today, it does sound like is getting settled and doing well. I'm glad to hear that.

I suffer from depression only. Never had anxiety problems. I've never found a medication that works for me. I was recently on lithium and lamictal, both mood stabalizers, and the lamictal made my depression worse. The lithium seemed to help at 600mg but I started having panic attacks, and the next lowest dose wasnt enough to get any relief. My doctor took me off lamictal about 10 days ago and I took myself off lithum about 5 days ago. I see him on Thursday and I'm really struggling with whether or not I even want to try another med right now. Theyre just so expensive, take so long, so many side effects... and they never work. We'll see.

I just starting seeing my current therapist about 10 weeks ago. I had a very bad experience with my last T just before switching where shed dropped me as a client and refused any termination while I was in a partial hospitalization program. Feelings relating to that are still an issue. I've been in the partial hospitalization program twice and inpatient once (only for a few days) in the last few months. I wrote a bunch on the psych board tonight about the issue I'm having with my therapist if you're interested, but it's mostly whining!

I see my T again on Thursday. I go twice a week, Tues and Thurs, except for the second Tues of every month (she has a training thing). I'm thinking about cancelling Thurs though just to give myself some time to think things through.

Thank you for asking.. I know you werent expecting that much of an answer! But I do appreciate it.

You and your son are both in my thoughts.

 

Re: Update

Posted by Phillipa on January 2, 2007, at 18:47:49

In reply to Re: Update Kath, posted by wishingstar on January 2, 2007, at 18:23:59

Kath just wanted to add that I also think you did the right thing with the GF. And I sincerly hope your Son gets a room soon. Love Phillipa

 

Re: Update - YAYYYY - he's on long term floor now

Posted by Kath on January 3, 2007, at 20:09:01

In reply to Update wishingstar, posted by Kath on January 2, 2007, at 16:24:29

He has a room now!!! And the doctor phoned me this morning after talking with my son.

Thx Wishingstar & Phillipa for the input about the GF issue.

The doctor said that my son has agreed to keep taking Paxil & they'll work together on working out a dosage, etc that works for him. They're topping up the risperdone or whatever it is, with small doses of loxoprine (sp?) to keep the voices gone or 'get them gone'!!

Want a laugh? I can't remember if I spoke with Jay today or not!!!!!!! I think I did, but can't remember asking him anything - OHHH I know - I spoke with him beFORE he moved to his room - that explains why I can't remember asking him about his new surroundings!!!!!!!!!! LOL I thought I was losing it there for a while!!!!! LOL Jeez.

I think I'll give him a call to hear about his new room.

Wishingstar, I'm so sorry you're going through this long haul as to trying to get meds that work well. It must be very very discouraging!

I'm going to check the psych board to read about your therapist thing.

luv to you both, Kath

 

Re: Update - YAYYYY - he's on long term floor now Kath

Posted by Phillipa on January 3, 2007, at 21:26:03

In reply to Re: Update - YAYYYY - he's on long term floor now, posted by Kath on January 3, 2007, at 20:09:01

Kath great news. I hope they continue to help him to become well. And it sounds like you need some stress relief yourself. Love Phillipa ps keep us updated.

 

How do YOU deal with feeling badly?????

Posted by Kath on January 4, 2007, at 13:03:07

In reply to Re: Update - YAYYYY - he's on long term floor now Kath, posted by Phillipa on January 3, 2007, at 21:26:03

I'd like to hear different people's ways of - what - coping with feeling awful, I guess....

It's grey - cold; no snow to at least brighten things up.

My son is now on the long-term floor, he'll be mostly having the same doctor instead of a different one each day, & today I am feeling pretty GREY myself. Gloomy, oppressed, down, dismal & sorta trapped in my uncomfortable feelings.

I do NOT like feeling badly.

I wonder if I'm sort of being 'hit' with my feelings now that the real CRISIS time for my son is over.

I wonder if it's like shock waves afterwards hitting me.

I'm feeling really stuck. I don't want to go out; I don't want to do anything.

Today, I feel sort of like I just coping with being alive.

I'm going to make a nice pot of tea & read, curled up on the sofa under a cosy blanket. I thinks that all I can do right now. I wish the sun would shine.

Kath

 

Re: How do YOU deal with feeling badly????? Kath

Posted by ClearSkies on January 4, 2007, at 13:45:33

In reply to How do YOU deal with feeling badly?????, posted by Kath on January 4, 2007, at 13:03:07

A bunch of fresh, bright flowers to brighten the gloom of winter days. I have never done it, but have thought of ordering some to deliver to myself.

More lamps to read by, brightens the place up.

A bubble bath.

Changing into a fresh set of pyjamas.

Brushing my teeth.

 

Re: How do YOU deal with feeling badly????? ClearSkies

Posted by Kath on January 4, 2007, at 14:06:36

In reply to Re: How do YOU deal with feeling badly????? Kath, posted by ClearSkies on January 4, 2007, at 13:45:33

Hi Clear Skies,

good ideas - I'll add some & maybe others can add some too

put new sheets on the bed - nice cool cotton in summer; cosy flanalette in winter.

a hot water bottle to cuddle against my tummy or wiggle my feet under

chocolate!!!!! hmmmmmmm the 'down' from the sugar might not be great; I know some people get that - I've never noticed if I do or not. But yes - chocolate or CHEESE or tomatoes - comfort foods I guess

How are you feeling today ClearS ? Better I hope

hugs, Kath

 

Re: Update - YAYYYY - he's on long term floor now Kath

Posted by wishingstar on January 4, 2007, at 15:49:45

In reply to Re: Update - YAYYYY - he's on long term floor now, posted by Kath on January 3, 2007, at 20:09:01

Yay! So glad to hear he finlly got a room. I bet that will make a huge difference.

Dont worry about going over to psych to read that thread if you dont want to. It's very long and you definitely dont need any more stress in your life right now! You have enough to worry about.

In regards to your post about how to comfort yourself.. good question. Often my methods arent very healthy, so I wouldnt suggest that. :)

Sometimes I'll decide to just have a "me" evening and do everything I want to do. Not just a nice dinner, or a bath, or a walk.. but all 3. I just say "okay, tonight is it. Forget my other responsbilities, what do I want to do this evening? What feels the best to me?" It sounds silly, but it helps. Almost like pampering yourself in a way.

Good luck and hang in there. You've been doing great so far.

 

Re: How do YOU deal with feeling badly????? Kath

Posted by ClearSkies on January 4, 2007, at 16:36:51

In reply to Re: How do YOU deal with feeling badly????? ClearSkies, posted by Kath on January 4, 2007, at 14:06:36

Aren't you sweet for asking! (((Kath)))
I had it out with my pdoc this morning and got her to admit that maybe Lamictal isn't working for me. OMG - an admission from her high and mightiness.
Gradual tapering off with her monitoring my state'o'mind; then, we'll see. I personally am convinced that the Lamictal was actually bad for me, not just ineffective.
Prescription of xanax to get me through the mixed state I'm presently in.

I'm utterly drained and vaguely relieved.
CS

 

Re: Update - YAYYYY - he's on long term floor now wishingstar

Posted by Kath on January 5, 2007, at 18:07:09

In reply to Re: Update - YAYYYY - he's on long term floor now Kath, posted by wishingstar on January 4, 2007, at 15:49:45

Thanks for your kindness! AND support. It means a great deal to me.

I think your idea of doing LOTS of things at once is great!!!

You know, when I think of it, basically I take pretty good care of myself in 'self care' - like doing things I like etc. All the time; even not in crisis times.

The hardest thing is if I'm right IN feeling awful...sometimes`it's hard to bear it. Sometimes I feel awful IN my body - almost like pain in my chest/stomach etc. and THAT is when I feel sort of panicky & wonder how I can cope.

Yesterday was really hard. Today wasn't as bad.

How are you doing today?

I send hugs, Kath

 

Re: Update - YAYYYY - he's on long term floor now Kath

Posted by wishingstar on January 6, 2007, at 16:55:42

In reply to Re: Update - YAYYYY - he's on long term floor now wishingstar, posted by Kath on January 5, 2007, at 18:07:09

You're very welcome... thank you as well.

Doing a lot at once occasionally seems to be more helpful to me than doing one thing here and there. Usually I have trouble shutting myself up so I guess it takes some time to really get into it and enjoy myself with whatever I'm doing.

I dont experience pain in my body when I feel really bad, but I do get another physical sensation sometimes. It's this awful heavy, anxious, just terrible feeling that comes with the worst depression, also usually in my trunk area. And just like you said, thats when I struggle with coping the most. I guess that's what meds are supposed to knock out, if I ever find a good one!

I'm glad to hear that you're doing a little better. One day at a time. I'm guessing your son is settled and doing okay now? Now it's time to take care of you. :)

I'm doing okay. Very up and down the last few days. Feel some relief after talking to my therapist about something I'd been dreading on Thurs, and I actually went out and was social last night (that's rare!) so I guess that's a good step. Just started a new med last night and got very sick, but I'm going to try to tough it out. Thanks for asking.

 

New PDOC - I'm not impressed ClearSkies

Posted by Kath on January 8, 2007, at 12:30:01

In reply to Re: How do YOU deal with feeling badly????? Kath, posted by ClearSkies on January 4, 2007, at 16:36:51

Hi CS,

That's great that she finally agreed with you.

Have you been going to her long?

My lovely pdoc retired & after months on a waiting list, I recently saw a new pdoc. He's the head of psychiatry at the local hosp & I am UNimpressed. At the end of the visit (in which I was talking about my son being psychotic & unsafe, etc) he said, "well, make an appointment to see me at the end of February, or in March"
!!!!!!!!!WHAT?????????????!!!!!!!!!! Here's my son in hosp at the other side of the country & hearing voices etc, and you tell me to come back at the end of next month???????? Jeeeeeeeeeeeez

I liked my old pdoc so much; she was so gentle & nice.

So meanwhile, I go to a therapist through my husband's work, but that's supposed to be short-term - about 6 or 7 appointments for whatever particular situation is the current problem.

Kath


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