Psycho-Babble Social Thread 716542

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Late Merry Christmas Wishes some Whining....

Posted by Kath on December 26, 2006, at 15:56:14

Was going to drop in yesterday to wish all a Merry Christmas.

I'm finding Christmas really hard this year.

Guess I'm grieving about the loss of how our little family has celebrated Christmas.

We tried to keep it the same last year, but it didn't work.

30 year old daughter is living at home due to MCS (Multiple Chemical Sensitivities) - environmental illness. She's not quite "bubble girl" but there are only 3 rooms (1 is bathroom) in our house where she doesn't have to wear a mask (not yer cardboard hardware store variety).

So also this year my son, who's in BC (across the country from me) is in DEEP depression; hearing voices that are saying they're going to hurt him BAD; not able to wait in the line-up at the walk-in mental health clinic to get more antipsychotic meds, so has been off meds for about 5 days after having been given meds at Emerg after seeing various doctors for 7 hours last week. It's SO hard to be so far away & feel so helpless & scared.

AND I feel GUILTY for being so whiney & sorry for myself when so many other folks have WAY worse problems.

Anyway, I just wanted to touch-down here to send my warm wishes out & to reach out for some support.

So sorry not to have been here for so long.
OH - and I went first to PB 2000 & wrote a big long post only to have to RE-REGISTER!!!

Felt so horrible. I wonder how long we have to be not posting before we need to register?

Oh dear.

Anyway, I hope you-all are enjoying the holidays.

Hey Phillipa - hi. and hugs.

love, Kath

 

Re: Late Merry Christmas Wishes some Whining.... » Kath

Posted by Phillipa on December 26, 2006, at 16:33:15

In reply to Late Merry Christmas Wishes some Whining...., posted by Kath on December 26, 2006, at 15:56:14

Kath is it really you? Do you still have my e-mail address? Not a good holiday for me either. I think my Daughter may be bipolar like her Dad and Grandfather. We drove to Florida to see her and she hurt me so bad. Verbally abusive . Doesn't sleep, at one point when she was screaming at me she said she might be God. So I do in a way know how you're feeling. Sad. Love Phillipa

 

****trigger***** Scared for my son..............

Posted by Kath on December 26, 2006, at 20:40:20

In reply to Re: Late Merry Christmas Wishes some Whining.... » Kath, posted by Phillipa on December 26, 2006, at 16:33:15

Hi Phillipa,

yup it's me. I think I have your email address still; if so I'll email you.

BUT in the mean time on the phone tonight Jay sounded so bad I asked him if he was suicidal. Big pause - 'No, I'm OK'.
Daughter said, after she got off the phone with him that he was saying things that DID sound like he was suicidal.

Then later he phoned back; my daughter answered; he said that I'd asked him if he was suicidal & he'd lied to me & he felt bad.

So I spoke with him. Meanwhile, I called his bio-Dad in BC, who lives quite close to my son. He called & the plan is that he'll pick my son up & take him to his place for dinner. That takes care of the now - but???

I don't even know why I'm posting here!!!!! I guess because I'm waiting to hear from them & wanted to reach out again.

If anyone who reads this prays, please do.

Kath

 

Re: ****trigger***** Scared for my son..............

Posted by fayeroe on December 26, 2006, at 21:36:59

In reply to ****trigger***** Scared for my son.............., posted by Kath on December 26, 2006, at 20:40:20

i will keep your family in my thoughts............pat

 

Re: ****trigger***** Scared for my son.............. » fayeroe

Posted by Kath on December 26, 2006, at 23:53:26

In reply to Re: ****trigger***** Scared for my son.............., posted by fayeroe on December 26, 2006, at 21:36:59

Thanks Pat,

I've been in touch with his Dad, who took him to his house for supper. They spoke quite openly about how my son was feeling & his Dad was able to share with him that he, himself had been there & felt like that & had come out the other side.

They spoke quite a bit about us helping my son 'get through' this & afterwards coming up with a plan to help him know what to do next.

I'm still pretty freaked out about the whole thing, but my daughter just phoned my son & spoke briefly & he has a friend over & is feeling quite a bit better right now, so I think he's safe for tonight anyway.

I think I might even be able to get some sleep!

Thanks for your caring. Kath

 

Re: Late Merry Christmas Wishes some Whining.... » Kath

Posted by wishingstar on December 27, 2006, at 11:29:08

In reply to Late Merry Christmas Wishes some Whining...., posted by Kath on December 26, 2006, at 15:56:14

Hi Kath, I dont think I've ever posted to you before, so hello. :)

The mention of your daughter who has MCS caught my eye. MCS and related issues are something I'm very interested in.. I recently left grad school, but when i was there, I was doing research on the social implications of the disease with my advisor who suffers from MCS herself. I find it incredibly frightening how many people dont believe in it, delegitimize it, etc...

Has your daughter (or you) ever read the book "Multiple Chemical Sensitivity: A Survival Guide"? I admit my advisor wrote it, but I'm not trying to advertise for her or anything... I truly believe it's a very helpful book and seems to have been pretty well received in the MCS community. Maybe it'd be worth checking out? I really feel for your daughter.

I also dont think it's fair for you to feel like youre whining or being unfair. Dealing with a person with MCS AND another with severe depression is very hard, especially during the holidays. It's not about whose problems are hardest.. its all hard. I'm sorry you're having a hard time. Hang in there.

 

Re: ****trigger***** Scared for my son.............. » Kath

Posted by Phillipa on December 27, 2006, at 17:19:12

In reply to Re: ****trigger***** Scared for my son.............. » fayeroe, posted by Kath on December 26, 2006, at 23:53:26

Kath was he able to get meds to help? And is he coming home or staying with his Dad? Love Phillipa

 

Re: Late Merry Christmas Wishes some Whining....

Posted by Kath on December 27, 2006, at 17:55:45

In reply to Re: Late Merry Christmas Wishes some Whining.... » Kath, posted by wishingstar on December 27, 2006, at 11:29:08

Thx - I forwarded that info to my daughter's email so she has it to look into.

Yes, it's appalling how many people question its validity.

thanks for your kind words.

kath

 

Re: ****trigger***** Scared for my son..............

Posted by Kath on December 27, 2006, at 18:03:59

In reply to Re: ****trigger***** Scared for my son.............. » Kath, posted by Phillipa on December 27, 2006, at 17:19:12

he got short term meds a week ago Monday. then when he went to the mental health clinic to get more, there was more of a lineup than he could handle, so he didn't get more.

All these miles away, I phoned the clinic today & made an appointment for him for tomorrow. His bio-Dad is going to go with him

I am really stressed out - now can't decide whether to go out there or not.

K

 

Re: ****trigger***** Scared for my son.............. » Kath

Posted by Phillipa on December 27, 2006, at 19:56:14

In reply to Re: ****trigger***** Scared for my son.............., posted by Kath on December 27, 2006, at 18:03:59

Could he come stay with you for a while? Get his Dad to put him on a plane? Just a thought. Love Phillipa

 

Re: ****trigger***** Scared for my son.............. » Phillipa

Posted by Kath on December 28, 2006, at 11:55:55

In reply to Re: ****trigger***** Scared for my son.............. » Kath, posted by Phillipa on December 27, 2006, at 19:56:14

It wouldn't be a good idea. He'd just get pulled into the friend/drug scene that he left in July when he moved out there. Also - my daughter has been making all kinds of phonecalls & checking into resources & they're better out there.

I'll check in here later today.

thx for suggestions

K


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