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SO MESSED UP

Posted by woolav on May 3, 2006, at 7:24:16

Hello, I have not been on a for a long time. But, of course, things stop being good. But, right now I have really gotten things screwed up.
I lost my job the end of march, went into major depressive episode, couldnt get out of bed for weeks, stopped taking my meds (some of them) basically just wanted to die. (still working on getting out of this depression hold) but, the really bad thing is that I think/know I am pregnant. I had suspected this right around the time I lost my job. Well, knowing that all my meds can cause poss. birth defects, I planned to get an abortion. Well, with me not working, my husband has been struggling to make ends meet (which is very very hard for us with 1 income) we have not had the money for an abortion, so the weeks have been going by and i am still preg. and know dont even know how far i am or if abortion is still a possibility.
I feel like life couldnt get worse. well, it almost did, my dad almost died last week. but thank God he didnt. I dont know what to do.
S

 

Re: SO MESSED UP woolav

Posted by ClearSkies on May 3, 2006, at 10:20:30

In reply to SO MESSED UP, posted by woolav on May 3, 2006, at 7:24:16

What an absolutely rotten time of it. Do you think you could get yourself to a doctor for a pregnancy test? Not that I don't think we know our own bodies, but sometimes severe stress can cause false positive signs of pregnancy. It happened to me when my dad was very ill with cancer, and I was so frantic with worry... my doctor kept retesting me to make certain that nothing beyond my body freaking out was going on.

I know how fear and anxiety can cripple us, and how they go hand in hand with depression. Do what you can to take care of yourself, ok?

ClearSkies

 

Re: SO MESSED UP woolav

Posted by Jay on May 3, 2006, at 13:37:17

In reply to SO MESSED UP, posted by woolav on May 3, 2006, at 7:24:16

> Hello, I have not been on a for a long time. But, of course, things stop being good. But, right now I have really gotten things screwed up.
> I lost my job the end of march, went into major depressive episode, couldnt get out of bed for weeks, stopped taking my meds (some of them) basically just wanted to die. (still working on getting out of this depression hold) but, the really bad thing is that I think/know I am pregnant. I had suspected this right around the time I lost my job. Well, knowing that all my meds can cause poss. birth defects, I planned to get an abortion. Well, with me not working, my husband has been struggling to make ends meet (which is very very hard for us with 1 income) we have not had the money for an abortion, so the weeks have been going by and i am still preg. and know dont even know how far i am or if abortion is still a possibility.
> I feel like life couldnt get worse. well, it almost did, my dad almost died last week. but thank God he didnt. I dont know what to do.
> S

Hi S...

I am really sorry...I kinda understand your situation from the male side, as I have been in a similar situation. It was likely the event that threw me into my major 10 year depressive episode. But...some quick pointers. If you somehow can do, get to a doctor (even at some free walk-in clinic) and just blurt it all out and let them know. They can tell you exactly what your choices are, help you with your medications, and give you and your hubby some direction, because I realize you likely feel very, very lost and lonely. My gawwd...I remember, even as a guy, feeling so horrible about myself. And you shouldn't...don't have to. (And I admit, I am as strong a Pro-Choice person as can get..) So, just get yourself in front of a doctor, asap, and I think you will feel a bit better.

Take care,
Jay

 

Re: SO MESSED UP woolav

Posted by Deneb on May 3, 2006, at 17:19:54

In reply to SO MESSED UP, posted by woolav on May 3, 2006, at 7:24:16

It sounds like you're going through an extremely frightening and stressful time. I hope you find some help soon and get things sorted out so you can have some peace of mind.

Hard as it might seem, try to take some time to have some fun and take your mind off of your problems. Too much stress cannot be good for your depression.

Deneb*

 

Re: SO MESSED UP

Posted by Phillipa on May 3, 2006, at 19:27:59

In reply to Re: SO MESSED UP woolav, posted by Deneb on May 3, 2006, at 17:19:54

Hi Woolav!!! Not a great time. But are you on the downside of the bipolar? If so you really need to see you doc. And the other I know how hard the choice can be but it ultimately has to be decided ASAP. While it's still early. Babblemail me Love Phillipa/ Jan

 

Re: SO MESSED UP

Posted by fairywings on May 4, 2006, at 13:28:14

In reply to Re: SO MESSED UP, posted by Phillipa on May 3, 2006, at 19:27:59

Your situation is horrible. I'm so sorry! No wonder you want to just stay in bed! Does your husband know you're pregnant?

I understand the depression, and yours is complicated by the job situation. Any chance you'd continue the pregnancy, and do an adoption through a private lawyer - so all of your expenses could be taken care of as you go along through the pregnancy. If you go through a good adoption atty, the couple pays for the lawyer, maternity clothes, health care....and whatever else you work out - maybe help with nutritious food - maybe your mental healthcare and meds.

My dad died 4 mos. before our youngest was born, my mom died 4 mos. after - thankfully she got to see him and hold him. I had postpartum depression - it lingered on for a long time - I didn't know to get help. I hope you do, this can leave you feeling very desperate. What does your pdoc say about being off the meds?

(((Hugs)))
fw


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