Psycho-Babble Social Thread 396627

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worried about my brother

Posted by Angela2 on September 28, 2004, at 23:05:11

He's just started college, film school, and he is haveing a very difficult time. Someone on his floor asked him if he had a stroke because of the way he talks (he uses "proper" english). He gets very uncomfortable being alone with people because he fears they will desire him sexually and take a sexual advance toward him. Although he knows this is irrational, he can't help but think it. He is very afraid of and made uncomfortable by the idea of sex. My mom thinks maybe he wants to be a transvestite. When he was young he always wanted to be a girl. We also wonder if he has been molested because where can these fears come from? But perhaps they are a manifestation of his psyche. His roommate had sex with someone last night in their room and my brother had no where to go. I feel so bad for him and I am oh so very worried about him. He is one of those people who is eccentric and off center. And it is definitely not appreciated at the large prestigious college he and I attend. My mom thinks he has aspergers. I really want to find out what's wrong with him. He's really depressed. And I hope he's OK. hE'S my brother and I love him and seeing him in such a state really upsets me. He doesn't want to take medicine. I hope he gets the help that he needs soon. I'm glad he has a p doc appt. thursday.

 

Re: worried about my brother Angela2

Posted by saw on September 29, 2004, at 3:39:11

In reply to worried about my brother, posted by Angela2 on September 28, 2004, at 23:05:11

Hi Angela

It is good that your brother is seeing a pdoc. Perhaps the pdoc will be gently persuasive in getting your brother to take medication.

I think it is wonderful to speak proper English. Whoever asked him if he has had a stroke is a snob!

He is obviously dealing with a lot and it is great that you are being so supportive of him. He needs that. Please take care of yourself too. Don't neglect your own feelings.

I wish you much strength and please let us know how his app. goes.

Sabrina

 

Re: worried about my brother

Posted by Susan47 on September 29, 2004, at 8:34:30

In reply to Re: worried about my brother Angela2, posted by saw on September 29, 2004, at 3:39:11

Seeing my son living in a university dorm, I know that colleges and universities are full of people who're uneducated in life itself. I really feel for your brother. Is there any way he can find some people to share an apartment with off-campus, or take a room nearby? This is what saved my son from the cr** of dorms, and he still has his old friends, it didn't affect his relationships with them. I'm wishing all the best for your brother.

 

Re: worried about my brother Angela2

Posted by partlycloudy on September 29, 2004, at 16:51:17

In reply to worried about my brother, posted by Angela2 on September 28, 2004, at 23:05:11

Angela, I think that by making yourself available and open to your brother at any time, no matter what, you will be able to support him. Seeing a p-doc is great, and having you behind him with your love will only help.
p.s. I have a brother who can only really "talk" via email. On the phone or in person, he is flippant or aprupt. In typewritten words, his true feelings are reflected and they only bring us closer.
((((Angela2's brother)))

 

Re: worried about my brother

Posted by Angela2 on September 30, 2004, at 19:20:16

In reply to Re: worried about my brother Angela2, posted by partlycloudy on September 29, 2004, at 16:51:17

That's great that you have email as an effective way of communicating with your brother, PC. Thank you all for your support. It means a lot to me.

 

Re: worried about my brother Angela2

Posted by just plain jane on September 30, 2004, at 21:36:54

In reply to Re: worried about my brother, posted by Angela2 on September 30, 2004, at 19:20:16

I am so sympathetic to you and your brother.

The eccentric/off center you mention I understand well. That pretty much describes me.

I am capable of functioning in "normal" society for brief periods of time, depending on the circumstances, my med efficacy, my current psychological state, what's happening behind the scenes with me, but I mostly spend my time out in the boonies where I live.

My animals and my son are my everyday life. I was suicidal in society.

For your peace of mind and your brother's future, I hope he manages to get effective help so he can get through and beyond the college life and into a place where he can be, and be left alone or not as he pleases.

 

Re: worried about my brother

Posted by Angela2 on October 1, 2004, at 15:15:58

In reply to Re: worried about my brother Angela2, posted by just plain jane on September 30, 2004, at 21:36:54

Thank you just plain jane, I identify with your post immensely.

Just an update, he went to his pdoc yesterday and his pdoc doesn't think he needs medicine. He says he doesn't prescribe medicine for eccentricity. He also told my brother to see a counselor about his fear of sex, as he is not a counselor and can't help him.

I am at peace with everything that's happened, my brother's unhappiness, his pdoc's decision, and that is how I intend to stay.

the best,
Angela


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