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Re: ooh, a toughie...

Posted by gabbix2 on August 25, 2003, at 16:31:54

In reply to Re: ooh, a toughie... Kar, posted by galkeepinon on August 25, 2003, at 16:05:32

Geez does it have to be just one??

My enthusiasm I guess, I'd like to have that back, when I woke up and was happy just to be;
when I liked doing things for their own sake and there didn't have to be a 'reason.'

 

Re: OK-I have to ask this one.....................

Posted by Sabina on August 25, 2003, at 17:07:49

In reply to OK-I have to ask this one....................., posted by galkeepinon on August 25, 2003, at 2:14:42

i wish i liked myself. one day i just forgot how to do it. i can only ever remember how for about 30 seconds at a time now, and only occasionally.

 

Re: OK-I have to ask this one.....................

Posted by Tabitha on August 25, 2003, at 17:36:04

In reply to Re: OK-I have to ask this one....................., posted by Sabina on August 25, 2003, at 17:07:49

Yuck, how awful. I wish I had some helpful suggestions. Reminds me of my one trip to Europe, the nightmare vacation from hell with a female friend who managed to hook up with a French guy on the plane over, spent the whole week either with him, or fighting with me, leaving me to wander Paris ALONE with woefully inadequate language skills. But, horror that the trip was, it was still somehow a memorable experience.

I'll be wishing you a surprise meeting with some really cool English-speaking person/people to hang out with. It could all turn around in a minute. Or you could get into a meaningful solitude state. Or find some really great stuff shopping.

 

Re: oops! wrong thread ^^^ (nm)

Posted by Tabitha on August 25, 2003, at 17:37:11

In reply to Re: OK-I have to ask this one....................., posted by Tabitha on August 25, 2003, at 17:36:04

 

Re: OK-I have to ask this one..................... fallsfall

Posted by galkeepinon on August 25, 2003, at 21:42:06

In reply to Re: OK-I have to ask this one....................., posted by fallsfall on August 25, 2003, at 8:06:43

hi fallsfall:-) I'm glad you answered!
Do you know what or when or why you feel you lost your confidence? I hear you, I wish I had the confidence I had too when I was, say 19, or even 22, and even now!
Keep working toward it~~I wish you the best:-)

> I would like to have my confidence back

 

Re: OK-I have to ask this one..................... Dinah

Posted by galkeepinon on August 25, 2003, at 21:45:47

In reply to Re: OK-I have to ask this one....................., posted by Dinah on August 25, 2003, at 9:24:48

(((Dinah))) Glad you answered too:-) Do you think the people in your life aren't happy with you? I have been very happy knowing you on this board, you have given me some great advice and helped me in a few of my questions I've had, and for that I thank you:-)
Remember, *to thine ownself be true* I wish you the best in meeting your obligations, but one day at a time~~right? ;)
galkeepinon


> I'd like to be able to meet my obligations and have people in my life be happy with me.

 

Re: OK-I have to ask this one..................... justyourlaugh

Posted by galkeepinon on August 25, 2003, at 21:48:48

In reply to Re: OK-I have to ask this one....................., posted by justyourlaugh on August 25, 2003, at 9:47:41

heya justyourlaugh! haven't really talked to you much, but all the same~I'm glad you answered:)
I sometimes say to myself I want to function without cigarettes or psych meds. I know alcohol may be a different sort of thing, but I wish you the best and keep on keepin on.
You are worth it!!!!!!

> i want to funtion without alcohol.
>

 

Re: OK-I have to ask this one..................... Penny

Posted by galkeepinon on August 25, 2003, at 21:52:53

In reply to Re: OK-I have to ask this one....................., posted by Penny on August 25, 2003, at 9:55:47

Hi Penny:-) I hope you're hanging in there. I know sometimes I get overwhelmed and can't think clearly a lot and I try to tell myself to just focus one one thing at a time. I know it may be easier said than done though. Like sometimes I race around so fast and about 2 days ago, I hit the wall~~seriously and looked at my arm today~~I got a dang blue bruise LOL. I'm dealing with the no motivation thing lately too and I wish you the best in getting some of that back. I wish it were easier,
Take care:-)


> I would like to be able to think clearly and have my motivation back - so I would be able to function again!!!

 

Re: OK-I have to ask this one..................... ROO

Posted by galkeepinon on August 25, 2003, at 22:09:16

In reply to Re: OK-I have to ask this one....................., posted by ROO on August 25, 2003, at 10:46:32

Hi ROO, so glad you answered too:-)
Sometimes I feel the need to self-protect ALOT. I really build up walls in my life. I guess it's because I've been hurt a lot, but I know if I use that excuse for the rest of my life~~I may make for a lonely person, and I don't want that for myself. I hear you when you say that in a sense you wish that in expressing any amount of love and passion that it would be returned. I wish that were true too. I'm learning that life has no guarantees. Boy, do I wish it did :-) I hope that you continue to give your love and passion and know inside that you are a good soul for doing so and have the confidence in that even if it is not returned.
Have you ever heard that saying about the definition of FEAR?
F=False
E=Evidence
A=Appearing
R=Real
*May be corny, but it's true. I worry so much and am afraid of a lot in life and am as I write this. If I can just remember my words to you LOL
Good luck!:-)
Take care.


> The need to constantly self protect. Wish I felt like I could express any amount of love and passion without the insecurity and fear that it won't be returned...
that things won't work out...and therefore keep it locked up inside.
Life is too short. But sometimes I feel like a wild horse that has someone (my inner fear person) pulling on the reigns constantly.

 

Re: OK-I have to ask this one..................... galkeepinon

Posted by fallsfall on August 25, 2003, at 22:11:43

In reply to Re: OK-I have to ask this one..................... fallsfall, posted by galkeepinon on August 25, 2003, at 21:42:06

When I crashed 8 years ago I found out that I had limits (at age 38). Up until that point I honestly didn't know that there were things that I couldn't do. Now I do.

 

Re: OK-I have to ask this one..................... Tabitha

Posted by galkeepinon on August 25, 2003, at 22:14:10

In reply to Re: OK-I have to ask this one....................., posted by Tabitha on August 25, 2003, at 11:04:37

LMAO Tabitha~~that's great!!! I said anything and you sure did say what you wanted to change :) Forget the 'rules' on this one whatever they weren't;) LOL, this is Psycho Social Babble right;)
Too funny!!!

> I want larger breasts. Not big hooters, just B-cup, but not implants.
>
> Oops, I'm worried about what other babblers will think (shallow! stereotypical female!).. wasn't that against the rules?

 

Re: Well, dear Tabitha Kar

Posted by galkeepinon on August 25, 2003, at 22:18:22

In reply to Well, dear Tabitha Tabitha, posted by Kar on August 25, 2003, at 12:08:47

LMAOROTF

> Oh you are NOT worried what we think. But you did break a different rule.
> We were only allowed to change ONE thing!
>
>
>

 

Re: OK-I have to ask this one..................... kara lynne

Posted by galkeepinon on August 25, 2003, at 22:34:44

In reply to Re: OK-I have to ask this one....................., posted by kara lynne on August 25, 2003, at 14:35:30

kara lynne~~ me too not pimples, just c cups will do. lol


> I want smaller breasts. Not mosquito bites...just B cups...

 

Re: ooh, a toughie... gabbix2

Posted by galkeepinon on August 25, 2003, at 22:36:49

In reply to Re: ooh, a toughie..., posted by gabbix2 on August 25, 2003, at 16:31:54

sorry gabbix~~tried not to flood the brains of y'all~~but it seems that maybe picking one may have been tougher? :-)
Can I take yours, I like it. Like just wake up, not worrying about anything, just being! ya know?


> Geez does it have to be just one??
>
> My enthusiasm I guess, I'd like to have that back, when I woke up and was happy just to be;
> when I liked doing things for their own sake and there didn't have to be a 'reason.'
>

 

Re: OK-I have to ask this one..................... Sabina

Posted by galkeepinon on August 25, 2003, at 22:39:51

In reply to Re: OK-I have to ask this one....................., posted by Sabina on August 25, 2003, at 17:07:49

Hey Sabina:-) Keep at it and you will like yourself! I like you~~not that I'm the ultimate judge YIKES! LOL I have forgotten how to like myself too, we'll get back there someday, you and me I know it;)What helps me, is to remember it like you said, but stay in it for more than 30 seconds~~try to stay in it for as long as your mind allows. It works and the feelings you get are amazing~~a great rush!


> i wish i liked myself. one day i just forgot how to do it. i can only ever remember how for about 30 seconds at a time now, and only occasionally.

 

Re: OK-I have to ask this one.....................

Posted by kara lynne on August 26, 2003, at 0:02:34

In reply to Re: OK-I have to ask this one..................... kara lynne, posted by galkeepinon on August 25, 2003, at 22:34:44

Yay! You know what I mean!

But you know...if I were just a few inches taller... the breasts would look fine...


 

Re: OK-I have to ask this one..................... fallsfall

Posted by galkeepinon on August 26, 2003, at 1:37:21

In reply to Re: OK-I have to ask this one..................... galkeepinon, posted by fallsfall on August 25, 2003, at 22:11:43

at 33, I'm learning my limits~~but I have a ways to go. I'm sorry about your crash. A car accident? Are you ok today?
thanks for sharing that with me:-)


> When I crashed 8 years ago I found out that I had limits (at age 38). Up until that point I honestly didn't know that there were things that I couldn't do. Now I do.

 

Re: OK-I have to ask this one.....................

Posted by Liligoth on August 26, 2003, at 3:30:10

In reply to Re: OK-I have to ask this one....................., posted by Tabitha on August 25, 2003, at 17:36:04

I would like to be 20 yrs younger but only if I could still know what I know now

 

Good One!!! (nm) Liligoth

Posted by galkeepinon on August 26, 2003, at 4:11:30

In reply to Re: OK-I have to ask this one....................., posted by Liligoth on August 26, 2003, at 3:30:10

 

Re: OK-I have to ask this one..................... galkeepinon

Posted by KimberlyDi on August 27, 2003, at 12:43:35

In reply to OK-I have to ask this one....................., posted by galkeepinon on August 25, 2003, at 2:14:42

I wish my dad hadn't been in the Navy and gone on tours 8-9 months out of every single year. I see little girls everywhere with the confidence that their daddy will protect them and grant their every wish. I wish I could have experienced that feeling, instead of growing up with my dad as a stranger, emotionally distant and prone to angry outbursts.

My worst relationships happened because of my need for a father-figure.

KDi in Texas

 

Amen to that (nm) justyourlaugh

Posted by KimberlyDi on August 27, 2003, at 12:44:33

In reply to Re: OK-I have to ask this one....................., posted by justyourlaugh on August 25, 2003, at 9:47:41

 

Re: OK-I have to ask this one..................... KimberlyDi

Posted by gabbix2 on August 27, 2003, at 14:07:15

In reply to Re: OK-I have to ask this one..................... galkeepinon, posted by KimberlyDi on August 27, 2003, at 12:43:35

That gave me chills, I feel exactly the same way.

 

Re: OK-I have to ask this one..................... KimberlyDi

Posted by galkeepinon on August 27, 2003, at 15:44:39

In reply to Re: OK-I have to ask this one..................... galkeepinon, posted by KimberlyDi on August 27, 2003, at 12:43:35

Hi KDi, WOW! I see my post! My dad sounds similar to yours. My dad has been in and out of my life and I also wish that I could have experienced more of an emotional bond with him, especially as I was growing into adulthood.
Unfortunately, alcohol and other women became more important than his wife and family. And love and acceptance took a backseat to HIS anger outbursts, I hear you.
Sometimes I wonder if some of my relationships or many of them for that matter stem from relationships with my parents?
What do you think? Anyone have a take on this in general?
Thanks for sharing this.


> I wish my dad hadn't been in the Navy and gone on tours 8-9 months out of every single year. I see little girls everywhere with the confidence that their daddy will protect them and grant their every wish. I wish I could have experienced that feeling, instead of growing up with my dad as a stranger, emotionally distant and prone to angry outbursts.
>
> My worst relationships happened because of my need for a father-figure.
>
> KDi in Texas
>

 

are we a product of our childhood? galkeepinon

Posted by KimberlyDi on August 28, 2003, at 15:35:07

In reply to Re: OK-I have to ask this one..................... KimberlyDi, posted by galkeepinon on August 27, 2003, at 15:44:39

Thanks to gabbix2 and galkeepinon for your kind replies. This subject's been on my mind alot because of watching my step-daughter with my husband. He's wrapped around her little finger and she is SO sure of herself and her place in this world. It's stupid to feel anger at her for having what I wanted. Let me tell you, GREEN with envy.

My dad was distant, usually gone, and totally unpredictable. My mother was controlling and manipulative. She was way-above-average intelligence born into a poverty-stricken family. I was going to have all the opportunities she never had, whether I wanted them or not. I had to be perfect at everything. I was never allowed to be average. She sure had some mental and control issues. I eloped from college with my first controlling father figure. LOL

Did these 2 relationships mold me? Everything that's wrong with me can't be blamed on them. But I can trace alot of it to them. That's were it all began.

KDi in Texas

 

Re: are we a product of our childhood? KimberlyDi

Posted by galkeepinon on August 29, 2003, at 1:18:41

In reply to are we a product of our childhood? galkeepinon, posted by KimberlyDi on August 28, 2003, at 15:35:07

Hi KDi, I believe it-green with envy-I'm not a jealous person at all-BUT I do envy!!!! Sounds like we come from VERY similar backgrounds. My dad was distant, usually gone, and totally unpredictable also. My mother was controlling and manipulative and she still is-and I'm over 30!!! My father was way-above-average intelligence born into a poverty-stricken family, but got into Princeton-but blew it.
With my mom, I was never allowed to be average either-my dad did let me be me though. If I gained even a pound-my mother said 'oh-yer gettin a pooch' (gag me)
Of course, I believe, our parents mold us or whoever our caretakers are-but when we become adults-however that turns out, we do have to take responsibility-I think anyway, for the most part everyone knows that-some may not. It took me a while to realize that. Sometimes I wish I wasn't born, but then other times I think well, I got the hand I was delt, and I can make it a good hand or I can make it a bad hand-it's all up to me! No one else.


I was going to have all the opportunities she never had, whether I wanted them or not. I had to be perfect at everything. I was never allowed to be average. She sure had some mental and control issues. I eloped from college with my first controlling father figure. LOL
>
> Did these 2 relationships mold me? Everything that's wrong with me can't be blamed on them. But I can trace alot of it to them. That's were it all began.
>
> KDi in Texas
>

> Thanks to gabbix2 and galkeepinon for your kind replies. This subject's been on my mind alot because of watching my step-daughter with my husband. He's wrapped around her little finger and she is SO sure of herself and her place in this world. It's stupid to feel anger at her for having what I wanted. Let me tell you, GREEN with envy.
>
>


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