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Posted by justyourlaugh on April 25, 2003, at 10:07:28
g,
i read your beautiful post to mm..
you have a wonderful gift..
j
Posted by lostsailor on April 25, 2003, at 11:04:03
In reply to wise ole rabbit.., posted by justyourlaugh on April 25, 2003, at 10:07:28
Posted by leeran on April 25, 2003, at 11:19:42
In reply to wise ole rabbit.., posted by justyourlaugh on April 25, 2003, at 10:07:28
"i read your beautiful post to mm"
So did I.
And I continue to be bowled over by the sincerity and compassion on this board. Gracie, I remember how it feels to have one of those "divorce process" confrontations. For me, they were such a brain drain. I always wanted to get in the last word and even if I did, it didn't matter, I still felt lousy.
The fact that you were able to reach out to mm after what you had just been through touches me all the more.
"I believe that if you don't deal with the pain in this life, you'll just have to pick up where you left off in the next life" - Gracie
I often wonder about this as well. Am I here this "time" to work out what I didn't "get" the last time. My inability to break certain behaviors makes me wonder if I'll get it this go 'round. On the bad days I wonder if my soul isn't stuck in some "Groundhog Day" loop.
Maybe finding this board is part of the plan. Maybe it's a way to finally skip the record.
Thanks, Gracie, for your post.
Posted by whiterabbit on April 25, 2003, at 13:13:41
In reply to Re: wise ole rabbit.., posted by leeran on April 25, 2003, at 11:19:42
Thank you so much for the sincere compliments, I really needed it on this gray morning. Afternoon. 8^)My family has been telling me for years that I should take up some form of writing as a career. On my birthday, they gave me a Writer's Market book ("8000 editors who buy what you write") and signed me up for a writing course. I had every intention of going, but 2 days before the class started, my husband announced that he wanted a divorce. (His timing has been exquisite in all matters large and small. Did I mention that he waited until I had no job and no money for the first and only time in our 20 years together.)
For awhile I was too traumatized to get in my car and drive around the block, much less get myself
to a strange classroom and participate in a meaningful way. Besides, the theme of the class was,"Write Your Life Story". Can you imagine the look on the teacher's face when she started reading all the 4-letter words in my paper. I just couldn't do it.But maybe I'll figure something out. I can't imagine what I'd write about if I wasn't whining about my life, but wouldn't it be great if I turned out to be the next Anne Rice or something
and made a billion dollars. (Okay, everyone should have a fantasy.) I'd send an autographed copy of every book to my ex and the occasional postcard from my island paradise mansion.
Sweeeeet.I must be moving right along in the recovery process because previously, my only fantasy was to run him over 3 times like that woman in Texas did to her cheatin husband. Yee-ha.
Thanks again, you guys.
-Gracie
Posted by WorryGirl on April 28, 2003, at 9:19:20
In reply to Whattaya mean, old?, posted by whiterabbit on April 25, 2003, at 13:13:41
Gracie,
I think you should write a book. Life is too short not to leave your mark behind.I've written a few songs lately. It's amazing how much easier it is when I'm depressed. That's when the words flow. The music always seems easier, regardless of my mood. Getting the two to pleasantly mesh is always the big challenge, of course.
Maybe when you're on the best seller list one day you'll see WorryGirl on the Top 100 charts - celtic, rock or pop.
I'm in a huge slump today. When I woke up I felt like spending the next week in bed. I knew if I didn't get to the computer and do something I might not get motivated to even get dressed. There is a certain comfort in being alone (my husband's oot again), but I needed some kind of connection to the outside world.
I'm sorry to hear about the situation with your husband. I hope your pain eases soon.
WG
Posted by whiterabbit on April 29, 2003, at 20:04:41
In reply to Re: Whattaya mean, old? » whiterabbit, posted by WorryGirl on April 28, 2003, at 9:19:20
Actually I'm making pretty good time in plowing through the grief process. I'm past the shock and rage and done with the real crying, although I still get misty on occasion. My psychiatrist cranked up the Paxil to 60 mg daily and it's doing a fine job. I'm feeling relatively lucid these days and doing stuff I haven't done in
years - painting, writing letters, answering the phone, playing with the dogs. When I was really depressed all I wanted to do was read and sleep,
or try to sleep.So you hang in there. I say this all the time and I'll say it again - if I can get better, anyone can get better. I was a self-destructive mess for a really long time so in a way I can understand what my husband is doing, but I did tell him the other day, "You know, someday you might get sick too." That's all I said and that was enough.
Anyways, being a writer would be awesome, although
I'd have a tough time dealing with the deadlines and all the rejection slips. I understand that's par for the course. I'm feeling pretty rejected already but I'll get through it. I would write about my "bipolar experience" but I actually can't remember a lot of it, which is a blessing I think. My psychiatrist, who I'm going to get rid of because he's a jerk, tells me this memory loss is the result of "brain damage" I've caused myself with all my drinking and drugging, so I walked around for days feeling brain-damaged. What a sweetheart.We'll be okay! You and I will both be okay, have faith.
8-) Gracie
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