Psycho-Babble Relationships Thread 848915

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Feeling Like I will never fit in

Posted by WaterSapphire on August 29, 2008, at 2:53:39

I have never felt like I fit in anywhere, even since I was little. I got picked on a lot growing up and things were rough at home. I failed to create any strong friendships in college, and the ones from child hood and the ones as an adult are all gone. I have little energy as it is, so right now it is not so bad...but I get so lonely sometimes. I have my husband, but...he is the very quiet type. Even when I post on certain boards (not this one), and I have tried chatting, I always get the feeling like I have done something wrong when it seems like people stop talking to me via messages like email on the boards, or like I am just in everyone's way. I almost feel paranoid about it, but I keep shoving it off. It hurts so much sometimes, because I just never could figure out why I am so weird and different...and why I never fit in...

 

Re: Feeling Like I will never fit in WaterSapphire

Posted by Phillipa on August 31, 2008, at 11:04:58

In reply to Feeling Like I will never fit in, posted by WaterSapphire on August 29, 2008, at 2:53:39

Boy do I relate to that I know I'm wierd I must be but have always been a loner. Noone wanted to play with me as a kid. I just talk in my head to myself. Oh well Phillipa

 

Philippa

Posted by WaterSapphire on August 31, 2008, at 12:42:05

In reply to Re: Feeling Like I will never fit in WaterSapphire, posted by Phillipa on August 31, 2008, at 11:04:58

Hi Philippa,
I am a bit of a loner too and a nerd. But, when I have tried to fit in or even when not I always seem to fall short or even have been picked on and ostracized. I do this thing I call scenarioing lol, where I go through things in my head and have conversations in my head with whomever in an imaginary event or might happen situation. Sometimes, I end up doing this and wonder where time has went. I so do not belong with many people. I am an anomaly. Happy Sunday

 

Re: Philippa WaterSapphire

Posted by Phillipa on August 31, 2008, at 20:17:29

In reply to Philippa, posted by WaterSapphire on August 31, 2008, at 12:42:05

I only socialized at work when working and now when in a store or bike riding talk a short time somehow strangers are safer to me. Phillipa

 

Re: Philippa

Posted by WaterSapphire on September 9, 2008, at 5:57:38

In reply to Re: Philippa WaterSapphire, posted by Phillipa on August 31, 2008, at 20:17:29

Seems lately I don't want to be around too many people at all. Not because I don't want to be sociable, but because I get so anxious. The other day we went to the grocery store and it was so busy I was panicky the whole time we were there. I almost left. It was terrible. I managed to supress full blown panic attacks but I could tell I was not too good. Does this every happen to you?

 

Re: Philippa WaterSapphire

Posted by Phillipa on September 9, 2008, at 19:46:51

In reply to Re: Philippa, posted by WaterSapphire on September 9, 2008, at 5:57:38

Used to not anymore. I think I've flooded myself so much with being places afraid of but can't be alone in this house and I have no idea why? Love Phillipa

 

Re: Feeling Like I will never fit in

Posted by Bird Watcher on September 22, 2008, at 13:33:05

In reply to Feeling Like I will never fit in, posted by WaterSapphire on August 29, 2008, at 2:53:39

I know how you feel. I'm sure you have a lot to offer the world in personality and friendship.

No matter how much I want it, most friendships elude me. People like me at first, then decide I'm too weird or that I don't act like them. I have a good heart; I care; I try not to judge (but it's hard not to judge people who are judging me). I think it's that I'm too intense or simply not content to talk mainstream shallow chatter.

I think we all can find common grounds with others on something if we want to. People don't seem to want to find that common ground with me.


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