Psycho-Babble Relationships Thread 805580

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time apart?

Posted by scotguy on January 10, 2008, at 16:06:13

hi this is my first post, my problem is i really miss an exgirlfriend that isnt really like an ex, we went out for about 3 1/2 years and finished because i wasnt really going anywhere with my life, she returned to america from england where im from, but we kept in contact for the next year really missing each other and decided that we should meet again, so we booked a holiday together and it was great really felt good and i think she did to, she tells me she sees the rest of her life with me and wants to be together in the end, but she wants time to be single at the moment and thinks we are too young, im 23 and she is 24, i just feel that if you love someone then it doesnt really matter what age you are? which makes me question if she really wants to be with me, its difficult because i love her very much, am i beening silly and not letting go? thanks

 

Re: time apart? scotguy

Posted by MissK on January 12, 2008, at 9:49:45

In reply to time apart?, posted by scotguy on January 10, 2008, at 16:06:13

There is an old expression to the effect: If you love someone/thing let them/it free, if it comes back it was always yours, if not it never was.

You are not being silly in not wanting to let her go, but if you hold on too tight it will make her want her independence from you even stronger. Her request for space indicates to me she is not comfortable making it too serious at this time in her life. She wants to explore other parts of her life and possibly other relationships too, which means you should too.

Hopefully you can maintain a special friendship.


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