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Dating sb with social anxiety, someone like me?

Posted by Lamdage22 on February 9, 2020, at 13:26:03

So a girl from close by chatted me up on a dating website. She seems nice and gave me her whatsapp. We have been chatting for a week. She seems to have social anxiety in a very similar way like I do. She brought it up.

What are the pros and cons of dating somebody with the same symptoms? I guess it would be nice to be understood for a change


Re: Dating sb with social anxiety, someone like me?

Posted by alexandra_k on February 10, 2020, at 23:07:38

In reply to Dating sb with social anxiety, someone like me?, posted by Lamdage22 on February 9, 2020, at 13:26:03

Well, it could be nice to feel that you can relax and be yourself around someone who is on the same page as you. Maybe you don't like spending time around large groups / mobs of people. Maybe she is the same. Maybe that will make it easier to choose activities that are mutually genuinely enjoyable.

On the other hand, insofar as you experience aspects of your social anxiety as something that holds you back... It is possible that together your weaknessess and insecurities will be amplified.

For example, it might be that you enjoy something. Maybe ball games. I don't know. You enjoy them - but you don't go to them very often because of your social anxiety. It might be that if your partner was less socially anxious they could help you get the courage you needed to overcome your social anxiety and participate more in things that you actually do really enjoy. They might help you overcome your social anxiety, in other words.

It really depends on the person and your fit and how similar / different you are. Everyone likes to feel that they can relax around someone just like them in some respects. It is important that those respects are respects that you genuinely like or at least don't mind about yourself, though. If they are too much like the things in yourself that you don't like / want to change then that could be not so great.

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