Psycho-Babble Psychology Thread 1010446

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Do you ever feel your issues are so minor...

Posted by b2chica on February 16, 2012, at 13:23:09

that it makes you sick. (sicker)

i work in the field of persons with disabilities. and most of the persons we tend to see are on the worse end of the scale.

sometimes i look at them and see one that has SO Many physical disabilities or injuries and wonder seriously WTF i'm complaining about...
my little 'oh i'm sad'. oh i have no energy...
it makes me feel ashamed that i'm even complaining.

i know mental illness is a serious issue.
and i KNOW how severe it can effect your life.
but then sometimes someone crosses my path and i think...i'm pathetic.
and what makes me feel i deserve help with My issues when we cant help them with their's..

:(

saw a Really severe veteran today.

 

Re: Do you ever feel your issues are so minor... » b2chica

Posted by sleepygirl2 on February 16, 2012, at 17:44:21

In reply to Do you ever feel your issues are so minor..., posted by b2chica on February 16, 2012, at 13:23:09

all the time
But I also imagine other people having an easier time too
Guilty and resentful, a rock and a hard place

 

hear dat! (nm) » sleepygirl2

Posted by B2chica on February 17, 2012, at 8:05:11

In reply to Re: Do you ever feel your issues are so minor... » b2chica, posted by sleepygirl2 on February 16, 2012, at 17:44:21

 

Re: Do you ever feel your issues are so minor... » b2chica

Posted by Dinah on February 18, 2012, at 10:13:15

In reply to Do you ever feel your issues are so minor..., posted by b2chica on February 16, 2012, at 13:23:09

I wonder if it has something to do with the messages we grew up with. Did your parents make you earn your misery, or tell you that you had nothing to be miserable about?

I think my mother might have done a good job with that. She sympathized over my stubbed toe, even if someone else had a broken arm. (Unless it was someone who had just broken an arm and needed immediate medical care.)

It's our job in life to be the best people we can be. If pain is getting in the way of that, it's important. In this particular case, dealing with your own pain can help you deal more effectively with the pain of others.

You do deserve help with your issues. They deserve help with their issues. Unless you're denying them help by getting it yourself, they are two very separate things and needn't be compared.

 

Re: Do you ever feel your issues are so minor... » b2chica

Posted by Phillipa on February 18, 2012, at 11:46:51

In reply to Do you ever feel your issues are so minor..., posted by b2chica on February 16, 2012, at 13:23:09

My Son is a veteran and blinded in Desert Storm. I spent a lot of time at Walter Reed Hospital in DC at the time of all his multiple surgeries. I was well then and could deal with anything. I stayed with a family and they had dedicated themselves to helping other wounded as the husband was a bilateral amputee legs. He had been in Viet Nam and he and his wife were determined these Veterans of Desert Storm would be treated well. I was with amputees and some with their sides blown off but alive as well as with my Son. I guess my point is that never ever did I dream I would years later have mental issues. But I do and it may be a different part of the body but just as real. Yes a lot had and still have PTSD mental as well. My Son is married second time got a degree testified in Congress worked on the Hill for the Vets now in new marriage in Florida. He and His Sisters are there he no longer needs me so no contact and that hurts. So don't sell yourself short. You are more than deserving of any help and empathy as they. I may be somewhat or a lot off topic but B2Chica you do so much so very much. You are very deserving of so much. Just had to write this. Phillipa

 

Re: Do you ever feel your issues are so minor... » Phillipa

Posted by Beckett on February 19, 2012, at 8:49:38

In reply to Re: Do you ever feel your issues are so minor... » b2chica, posted by Phillipa on February 18, 2012, at 11:46:51

Cyber hugs to bchica and Phillipa.

Well said Phillipa.

 

I'm just in an Emily Dickinson mood ;-)

Posted by sleepygirl2 on February 19, 2012, at 12:05:39

In reply to Do you ever feel your issues are so minor..., posted by b2chica on February 16, 2012, at 13:23:09

561

I measure every Grief I meet
With narrow, probing, Eyes
I wonder if It weighs like Mine
Or has an Easier size.

I wonder if They bore it long
Or did it just begin
I could not tell the Date of Mine
It feels so old a pain

I wonder if it hurts to live
And if They have to try
And whethercould They choose between
It would not beto die

I note that Somegone patient long
At length, renew their smile
An imitation of a Light
That has so little Oil

I wonder if when Years have piled
Some Thousandson the Harm
That hurt them earlysuch a lapse
Could give them any Balm

Or would they go on aching still
Through Centuries of Nerve
Enlightened to a larger Pain
In Contrast with the Love

The Grievedare manyI am told
There is the various Cause
Deathis but oneand comes but once
And only nails the eyes

There's Grief of Wantand Grief of Cold
A sort they call "Despair"
There's Banishment from native Eyes
In sight of Native Air

And though I may not guess the kind
Correctlyyet to me
A piercing Comfort it affords
In passing Calvary

To note the fashionsof the Cross
And how they're mostly worn
Still fascinated to presume
That Someare like My Own

 

Re: I'm just in an Emily Dickinson mood ;-)

Posted by Phillipa on February 19, 2012, at 18:52:12

In reply to I'm just in an Emily Dickinson mood ;-), posted by sleepygirl2 on February 19, 2012, at 12:05:39

Thanks Beckett means a lot!!! PJxxx


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