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Posted by deerock on May 27, 2010, at 14:54:47
so i posted i terminated with my T. at least said hey, im taking a break maybe for good maybe not and we agreed i could come back if i wanted.
since then ive been feeling aweful and my doc told me he thinks i have colitis or crohns. tests coming up next week.
anyways, it seems that i feel much worse without my T. almost like im feeling as bad as i was when i started w. her 4 years ago. and im starting to think i should go back.
however, i also know that being in therapy was not a cure all and i never really felt that things got that much better, which is why i left in the first place. so im stuck. i feel like im doing worse and i should go back but i also feel going back is not the long term solution bec. i get dependent on her and nothing really changes.
id like to hear what others think.
Posted by allisonfly on May 27, 2010, at 20:21:05
In reply to i feel like im starting to unravel...quick., posted by deerock on May 27, 2010, at 14:54:47
I'm so sorry that you are feeling this way. There are so many times that I think I am doing better and I tell my therapist I am just going to go to every other week (not even terminate!) and then I start feeling badly again and I never follow through. I just am coming back to this board after a long hiatus, so I don't know what you have posted previously, but please, you should go easy on yourself--termination with a therapist that you are really connected to is a major thing. And there is no harm or shame in going back if that is what you need to do, tho I understand it is frustrating. I know you said that your therapy wasn't a cure all, but there must be something that you got out of your meetings with her if you are feeling like you need to talk to her, maybe?
Best of luck to you with your medical issues. I hope the tests come back ok.
> so i posted i terminated with my T. at least said hey, im taking a break maybe for good maybe not and we agreed i could come back if i wanted.
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> since then ive been feeling aweful and my doc told me he thinks i have colitis or crohns. tests coming up next week.
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> anyways, it seems that i feel much worse without my T. almost like im feeling as bad as i was when i started w. her 4 years ago. and im starting to think i should go back.
>
> however, i also know that being in therapy was not a cure all and i never really felt that things got that much better, which is why i left in the first place. so im stuck. i feel like im doing worse and i should go back but i also feel going back is not the long term solution bec. i get dependent on her and nothing really changes.
>
> id like to hear what others think.
Posted by tetrix on May 27, 2010, at 21:00:41
In reply to i feel like im starting to unravel...quick., posted by deerock on May 27, 2010, at 14:54:47
I know how you feel.. I dont really have a solution but at least your T helped you grow in some ways and didnt shut you down. and it is nice to know that you have someplace you can go back to for warmth and understanding. i am a bit jealous
Posted by Dinah on May 28, 2010, at 6:49:49
In reply to i feel like im starting to unravel...quick., posted by deerock on May 27, 2010, at 14:54:47
Well, I may not be the best one to ask. :)
But maybe you could try drawing on all the things she's taught you to weather storms like this? If your therapy has been working, she'll have taught you things that might be helpful now. Do you remember any?
I hope you feel better soon. I've only got IBS, but I find gut problems to be so distressing.
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