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Posted by PrincessDi on May 11, 2010, at 13:33:30
I have often gone to my T with something on my mind. I get there and somthing trivial about the weekend or whatever comes up and he takes great interest in that topic and I leave without addressing my issue. Wondering how it works for some of you.
Posted by Dinah on May 12, 2010, at 9:32:41
In reply to Who leads your sessions?, posted by PrincessDi on May 11, 2010, at 13:33:30
My therapist is nondirective to a sometimes annoying degree. I try to have something in mind.
Maybe you could change the order of discussion? Save the "bringing up to date" part of the session until last, and lead with the topic you really want to discuss.
That way if you're tending to dwell on things you find less important in order to please him, or because you assume that he's a therapist so he must have a good reason for concentrating on something, you'll still be able to discuss what you want. And if he does find therapeutic gold in what you bring up at the end, he can indicate that he'd like to continue it next session.
Posted by tetrix on May 12, 2010, at 12:13:08
In reply to Re: Who leads your sessions? » PrincessDi, posted by Dinah on May 12, 2010, at 9:32:41
noone, I cant talk and she doesnt do anything. so we look at each other instead
Posted by rnny on May 12, 2010, at 18:30:21
In reply to Who leads your sessions?, posted by PrincessDi on May 11, 2010, at 13:33:30
I am the one in charge of what we talk about.
Posted by Verloren on May 12, 2010, at 21:20:36
In reply to Who leads your sessions?, posted by PrincessDi on May 11, 2010, at 13:33:30
Hello PrincessDi, Very nice to meet you and welcome back to babble!
This happens to me a lot. In fact, it just did this week. I had an exercise I wanted to do and instead got to talking about my week that I ended up running out of time.
I hate when that happens as I've not always been able to figure out my priorities in session. What's going on right now VS what specific issues I'm there to deal with. Then it ends up feeling like things get backed up. I can only push things to the next session so much then I feel like I have a month's worth of stuff to talk about in one little hour. :(
Sometimes she will latch onto a seemingly brief topic and I'll feel irritated with how long is spent on it. If I don't feel a reasonable point is being made, then I'll interrupt by saying something like "well, the point of my saying that was blah blah blah" or "that's neither here nor there" then I move the conversation on.
Now, I've been trying to take notes between sessions. And I actually pull out my notes to help me realize how much I wanted to discuss.
At the very least, the notes help serve as a diary that I wouldn't otherwise maintain.
-Verloren
Posted by Verloren on May 12, 2010, at 22:58:12
In reply to Re: Who leads your sessions?, posted by tetrix on May 12, 2010, at 12:13:08
Posted by tetrix on May 13, 2010, at 12:12:21
In reply to Re: Who leads your sessions?(((((((tetrix))))))) (nm), posted by Verloren on May 12, 2010, at 22:58:12
Posted by rskontos on May 14, 2010, at 23:35:55
In reply to Who leads your sessions?, posted by PrincessDi on May 11, 2010, at 13:33:30
All too many times has this same thing happened. I hate it because I leave sad.
I used to email him about what i really wanted to say, now i don't.
rsk
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