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so sad

Posted by sunnydays on May 23, 2008, at 17:42:21

I am on the verge of tears so often the past week. I don't think it's depression, I think it's just that I have had a HUGE number of significant life changes in the past month. But I feel so overwhelmed. I want to call my T. Just to talk and hear that everything will be ok. We had a session yesterday which was ok. I am just so scared of so many things in my life right now.

I want to call him. But last time, he didn't check his messages for two days and he told me he got my message around 9pm the day before our session so decided not to call me, which was fine. I think. I just feel so sad and it is dragging me down.

sunnydays

 

Re: so sad » sunnydays

Posted by llurpsienoodle on May 23, 2008, at 19:16:35

In reply to so sad, posted by sunnydays on May 23, 2008, at 17:42:21

((((((sunnydays))))))

It sounds like it all piled up, and you're only human. Sometimes I've had a reactionary depression even when given "good changes". Strange how the body/mind reacts to stress, huh?

It's probably not possible to call him and feel satisfied that you got "it" out (whatever it is). You sound like you need some reciprocity, but you're not likely to get it (in time?).

Maybe you can think about what you'd like to say, and what would give you the most relief, and then do some guided imagery- what would T do/say to me if I disclosed this in session? Then you can practice saying it in your visualization and imagine that your Virtual T is there, helping, guiding, supporting, advising.

I'm so sorry- I wish he were more available to you :(

-Ll

 

Re: so sad » llurpsienoodle

Posted by sunnydays on May 24, 2008, at 22:53:29

In reply to Re: so sad » sunnydays, posted by llurpsienoodle on May 23, 2008, at 19:16:35

> ((((((sunnydays))))))
>
> It sounds like it all piled up, and you're only human. Sometimes I've had a reactionary depression even when given "good changes". Strange how the body/mind reacts to stress, huh?

*** I know... And the stress comes and goes. Sometimes I'm fine, and other time the anxiety and obsessive thinking seems to just take over. I think that computers make that easier. Email and not being able to hear tone of voice and such.

>
> It's probably not possible to call him and feel satisfied that you got "it" out (whatever it is). You sound like you need some reciprocity, but you're not likely to get it (in time?).

*** Well... but I'm still wanting to call him. It wouldn't matter the timetable so much I don't think. But I do want to know that he hears me and mostly that feeling that it's going to be ok.

>
> Maybe you can think about what you'd like to say, and what would give you the most relief, and then do some guided imagery- what would T do/say to me if I disclosed this in session? Then you can practice saying it in your visualization and imagine that your Virtual T is there, helping, guiding, supporting, advising.

**** I know what he'd say - but it's more wanting him to know (and care) what's going on with me in the moment. And I tend to do this thing where in a group project I feel like I have to take total responsibility upon myself for making sure that the project gets done (and done WELL), even though it's a collaborative effort. I feel the need to be a taskmaster. And I HATE it because it's so anxiety-provoking for me. My T and I are working on my giving up control. But it's hard. And I just want to talk to him and make sure I'm ok. And have HIM counter my "what ifs" because I have trouble believing myself, but if he says it, it feels more true.

>
> I'm so sorry- I wish he were more available to you :(
>
> -Ll

*** I don't know. I wish I could still go twice a week. But the phone calls I understand. And usually during the school year he does get back to me within 24 hours (which is all his message promises). But during the summer when he's at home all the time he says he tends to forget to check his messages. Not that he doesn't want to call me, just that he's so involved in other things that it slips his mind to check his messages. But he does check them at least every few days. And if I really needed him in an emergency I could call the on-call at my school and they could get him. Theoretically I could call them to talk too. But I've never done it, so it scares me.

sunnydays

 

Re: so sad » sunnydays

Posted by fayeroe on May 26, 2008, at 19:13:40

In reply to Re: so sad » llurpsienoodle, posted by sunnydays on May 24, 2008, at 22:53:29

sunnydays, i'm sorry......anything i can do to help you? oxoxpat

 

Re: so sad » sunnydays

Posted by llurpsienoodle on May 28, 2008, at 7:32:16

In reply to Re: so sad » llurpsienoodle, posted by sunnydays on May 24, 2008, at 22:53:29

Hi Sunny,
I didn't realize the huge transitions you were going through until I read the thread above. You're gonna be okay. Just let the dust settle a bit. If you've made it this far, you are smart, capable and clever.

You've shown your big heart on babble plenty of times as well.

In the meanwhile, take good care of you, and extra soothing is DEFINITELY in order. My ritual for the beginning of something new is to buy new stationary. A funky pen, a new notebook, etc.

(((((sunnydays))))))
-Ll

 

Re: so sad

Posted by sunnydays on May 28, 2008, at 11:33:42

In reply to Re: so sad » sunnydays, posted by llurpsienoodle on May 28, 2008, at 7:32:16

Thank you both. I'm doing better lately - settling in a little. I am worried about T tomorrow. I treasure the feeling of connection, and what I was worried about has happened - I have lost him in my head. So I am worried about not being able to regain that connection since it's been a week since I've seen him. I see him tomorrow, so we'll see.

I am functioning, although very anxious - and therefore very sore in my muscles and tired because I'm having trouble getting to sleep lately. But at least I'm functioning all right.

sunnydays


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