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Therapist is retiring

Posted by friesandcoke on May 2, 2008, at 18:25:00

Hi everyone,

My therapist of 20 years is retiring in June. She was like a parent figure to me. I feel deeply sad and hurt. She is leaving in June and I am beside myself. She never prentended to be anything more than a therapist. I did not see her for a straight 20 years. I saw her 20 years ago for a couple of years and then then started up again several years ago. So it 20 years on and off. She is a role model to me not just because of what took place in the therapy sessions but because of how she lived life outside of the office. I know a bit about her and even if she was not my therapist, the kind of life she lived made her a role model. I will miss her terribly. She has picked out a therapist from the very large practice she works in as a "replacement" I guess you would say. I have not yet met the replacement. I am guessing it might be sometime this month. I asked her the other day about meeting the new therapist and she said it was too soon. Not too soon for me! But I trust her judgement. Maybe in the land of therapists meeting the new therapist in April would be considered too soon if I still had time with my present therapist until June. Anyway, wanted to share this. I have been crying and sobbing. I love her, in a wholesome way. And will miss her. I never thoughth she would retire. She gave me PLENTY of notice she was retiring. I feel so depressed. I have been talking to her about it. I am hurt she is retiring. I am mad she is retiring. I am open about all my feelings but it does not seem to be helping. At least not now because I am in a state of grief. Love to you, friesandcoke

 

Re: Therapist is retiring friesandcoke

Posted by TherapyGirl on May 5, 2008, at 13:00:34

In reply to Therapist is retiring, posted by friesandcoke on May 2, 2008, at 18:25:00

I have no idea how to make this easier because I'm in the same boat. My T of 23 years will be retiring at the end of 2009. I just found out.

I'll be thinking about you, Fries, and hoping it goes as well as it can. But I know it's devastating.

(((((((Friesandcoke))))))))

 

Re: Therapist is retiring

Posted by friesandcoke on May 5, 2008, at 22:05:10

In reply to Re: Therapist is retiring friesandcoke, posted by TherapyGirl on May 5, 2008, at 13:00:34

> I have no idea how to make this easier because I'm in the same boat. My T of 23 years will be retiring at the end of 2009. I just found out.
>
> I'll be thinking about you, Fries, and hoping it goes as well as it can. But I know it's devastating.
>
> (((((((Friesandcoke))))))))

Thank you for posting. My therapist is retiring in June! I am sick to my stomach. This has really been emotionally troubling for me. Almost like a death!! I am very upset with her too now which doesn't help. But I have not been able to express that part, just the sadness. I have alluded to "I don't think you should retire, why are you retiring", etc. but it does not help and that only makes me angrier. Now that I have gotten alot of the sadness out, I am getting in touch with the anger but I don't need this stuff. I have enough emotional turmoil. I am very, very upset. She became a mother figure to me. It is like losing my mother. My own mother is an absentee mother. I am very upset. I am sorry for you too that you have to face this. Believe me it is is no fun. Start talking about it now with her and get it all out while you have her. Express everything. All I have been able to do is sit there and cry. I feel your pain though. I really do.

 

Re: Therapist is retiring friesandcoke

Posted by TherapyGirl on May 7, 2008, at 20:20:11

In reply to Re: Therapist is retiring, posted by friesandcoke on May 5, 2008, at 22:05:10

And I feel yours, too. I'm going to try to get it all out between now and then, but I know I'm going to have the same problems with that as you have. My T is like a mother to me, too -- in fact, I tell people she finished raising me. And she did, too.

Please keep me posted on how it's going. I'll be thinking about you.

 

Re: Therapist is retiring

Posted by friesandcoke on May 8, 2008, at 11:23:02

In reply to Re: Therapist is retiring friesandcoke, posted by TherapyGirl on May 7, 2008, at 20:20:11

> And I feel yours, too. I'm going to try to get it all out between now and then, but I know I'm going to have the same problems with that as you have. My T is like a mother to me, too -- in fact, I tell people she finished raising me. And she did, too.
>
> Please keep me posted on how it's going. I'll be thinking about you.

I am angry at my T right now. I don't like the way she is handling this ending. I want her to be all emotional, etc., giving me tips on how to live without her and all that. Instead she is treating each session like a regular session. No us huddling together asking what to do and all that. She is just acting like her regular self and I don't like this. And this is a woman who has literally been a mother to me as my mother is very disturbed. My last day with her is in a month so we only have a few sessions left. I was going to call her to let her know I feel this way. I NEVER CALL HER. But I can't seem to give in and call her about this even though it is bothering me. I expected she would be all emotional each session as it is drawing to an end but she isn't. She sits at her desk facing me and I am on her love seat and she is letting me take the lead instead of bringing up stuff herself. This is usually how we do it but I don't like the fact that she has not said anything like, "Oh my gosh, we only have a few sessions left, let's see what we can do here" and so forth. She is arranging for me to see another therapist at the place she works at when she leaves. I saw a therapist when I was in my 20's (am in my 50's now). When I had to say goodbye to him he handled it horribly! Was actually mean to me when I was crying and getting all emotional saying "this is not about me, it is about your parents" and such. No compassion at all. And while this current therapist has saved my life, I really can't complain...these last few sessions are NOT what I expected AT ALL. Please keep posting.

 

Re: Therapist is retiring friesandcoke

Posted by TherapyGirl on May 8, 2008, at 20:43:01

In reply to Re: Therapist is retiring, posted by friesandcoke on May 8, 2008, at 11:23:02

That really, really sucks. But I'm wondering if she's trying to keep the sessions as "normal" as possible, thinking that is better for you. If so, you need to try to tell her that's not what you want. It's also possible that she doesn't want you to have to deal with HER emotions about this -- she may well have conflicting emotions about retiring. I can imagine that my T will.

At any rate, I think you should try to tell her this is not what you need right now and give her the chance to do it differently. A phone call might be really good.

Keep me posted.

 

P.S. friesandcoke

Posted by TherapyGirl on May 8, 2008, at 20:43:36

In reply to Re: Therapist is retiring, posted by friesandcoke on May 8, 2008, at 11:23:02

If you can't do it any other way, why don't you think about printing your post and taking it in? That might be easier for you.

 

Re: Therapist is retiring

Posted by friesandcoke on May 12, 2008, at 16:12:45

In reply to Re: Therapist is retiring friesandcoke, posted by TherapyGirl on May 8, 2008, at 20:43:01

I am going to see her tomorrow and will talk to her about it. She has been GREAT. I do trust that she knows what she is doing. She is not a 'fly by night' therapist so my hunch is that she is acting normal so as to not feed into my emotionalism. I am very emotional about it, crying, etc. I think in some ways she is just being very calm and "normal" rather than get worked up herself and "feed into" my upset. That is just a guess but I am very happy with her over all. She saved my life! I would have been 6 feet under were it not for her. She has really been perfect in my book. I just thought during this time she would be all upset. Like I said, if I get upset she does act very serious. She doesn't "act normal" but when I walk into the session I would like to see her all upset.

Thanks,
Fries and coke

ps I hope we kind of get to stay in touch with posting or whatever so that when your time comes, I can be there for you. It is rare to meet someone who had had a therapist for some 20+ years and then be facing a retirement situation. I have loved my therapist like a mother. I am making her a beautiful website as a gift.


> That really, really sucks. But I'm wondering if she's trying to keep the sessions as "normal" as possible, thinking that is better for you. If so, you need to try to tell her that's not what you want. It's also possible that she doesn't want you to have to deal with HER emotions about this -- she may well have conflicting emotions about retiring. I can imagine that my T will.
>
> At any rate, I think you should try to tell her this is not what you need right now and give her the chance to do it differently. A phone call might be really good.
>
> Keep me posted.

 

Re: Therapist is retiring friesandcoke

Posted by TherapyGirl on May 13, 2008, at 18:34:33

In reply to Re: Therapist is retiring, posted by friesandcoke on May 12, 2008, at 16:12:45

I know exactly what you mean. I think I would be 6 feet under as well without my T and she's definitely like a mother to me.

I'd love to stay in touch. God knows, I'll need all the help I can get.

Let me know how today went when you get a chance.

 

Re: Therapist is retiring

Posted by friesandcoke on May 13, 2008, at 19:15:17

In reply to Re: Therapist is retiring friesandcoke, posted by TherapyGirl on May 13, 2008, at 18:34:33

Hi!

I was thinking of you today as I saw my therapist! I mentioned to her that she seemed so normal, not all emotional and stuff. She said that there was an imbalance in therapy. That for her and for me the parting of ways is different. She said that she is saying goodbye to 20 people (clients) and that she couldn't possibly be all teary eyed and crying and emotional. I at first did not like her answer but she went on to say that she was going to miss me very much and that she was very proud of me. She then got up from her chair and hugged me and kind of held on. Not a gratuitious hug but a holding on kind of hug. After we hugged (I ended the hug) I took her by the hands and told her I loved her and that I wished in real life she could be my mother. And she said she knew that. It felt so great to be physically close to her. Like some real bonding was taking place. I started to cry when I left and got in my car, even as I was leaving her office but I was not as hysterical as I have been on some days where I could hardly breathe. She is going to arrange for me to see another therapist there and she had said she would have more information this week but didn't. She is pretty good but can mess up like that sometimes. She said she and the other therapist are not in the building at the same time. Or hadn't been. I don't know. Anyway, she said that she would speak to the new therapist about meeting me (and my present therapist) together for about 15 minutes and then the 'new' therapist would leave and my present therapist and I would have the rest of the session to ourselves. I thought maybe the 'new' therapist would stay in for a whole session with me and my present therapist so I could tell her my life's story and what I need in therapy, yada yada but I am going with the suggestion from my present therapist. My birth mother (my only mother, I am not adopted or anything) was and is an abusive personality. I want the new therapist to know not to try to work with me on "healing" any kind of relationship with my birth mother. I call her my birth mother because she hasn't been a mother at all. It is like a relationship between a man and woman where she gets beat up by the man but stays in the relationship. My mother batters me emotionally and always has and I now want to "divorce" her. So I def don't want a new therapist working on trying to "heal" the relationship. I have had enough abuse. I am 54 and the abuse has been a lifetime of it. Even up until now. Please stay in touch. I love hearing from you.

friesandcoke
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> I know exactly what you mean. I think I would be 6 feet under as well without my T and she's definitely like a mother to me.
>
> I'd love to stay in touch. God knows, I'll need all the help I can get.
>
> Let me know how today went when you get a chance.

 

Re: Therapist is retiring friesandcoke

Posted by TherapyGirl on May 13, 2008, at 20:37:59

In reply to Re: Therapist is retiring, posted by friesandcoke on May 13, 2008, at 19:15:17

That sounds hard, but it also sounds like you got at least some of what you need from her. I'm so happy for you. My T hugs me, too -- she's the first person I ever willingly hugged.

I get what your T is saying about what an emotional mess she would be if she got upset about all 20 clients. And she's right that it is different for them than it is for us, but she's also going to miss you and she admitted it!

I see my T tomorrow and her retirement (I'm trying not to think about it as her leaving me) is high on the agenda. I'll let you know how that goes.

 

Re: Therapist is retiring -- today was hard friesandcoke

Posted by TherapyGirl on May 14, 2008, at 17:50:36

In reply to Re: Therapist is retiring, posted by friesandcoke on May 13, 2008, at 19:15:17

I had a hard session today. It's not anything she's doing. It's being forced to think about trying to navigate my world without her. I cried and then sat, unable to speak. She suggested at first that I try to write about it (we did this a lot in the early years) and then thought maybe I should put it on a shelf for a while, since I am still recovering from my surgery.

It's hard to know how to do this. Part of me knows it's going to take all the time I can throw at it to live through her leaving me.

This really, really sucks.

 

Re: Therapist is retiring -- today was hard

Posted by friesandcoke on May 21, 2008, at 0:50:17

In reply to Re: Therapist is retiring -- today was hard friesandcoke, posted by TherapyGirl on May 14, 2008, at 17:50:36

It is very difficult. What is hard about it is the "feelings" you get in touch with. If you are anything like me, the therapist became a mother figure. And not just a mother 'figure' but a real mother. Oh, I never saw my therapist outside of the sessions but she became a family member. So it is a real relationship. Not some flimsy doctor-patient thing with no feeling. I feel your pain and I am not kidding. I had a session today and was crying and sobbing. I feel awful inside. Like a death. It is God awful. I wouldn't wish it on anyone. Please stay in touch. Friesandcoke


> I had a hard session today. It's not anything she's doing. It's being forced to think about trying to navigate my world without her. I cried and then sat, unable to speak. She suggested at first that I try to write about it (we did this a lot in the early years) and then thought maybe I should put it on a shelf for a while, since I am still recovering from my surgery.
>
> It's hard to know how to do this. Part of me knows it's going to take all the time I can throw at it to live through her leaving me.
>
> This really, really sucks.

 

Re: Therapist is retiring

Posted by friesandcoke on May 21, 2008, at 1:00:25

In reply to Re: Therapist is retiring friesandcoke, posted by TherapyGirl on May 13, 2008, at 20:37:59

I am glad you posted. Did I miss a post? I have to go in and check. I didn't check off a box last time about 'notify of follow-ups on this post' or something because I thought it automatically did it. I hadn't realized I must have been checking that box off all along. I don't know. But if I missed a post or ignored one, please forgive me. I am very upset about my T leaving. Her last day is the 19th of June. I will be seeing her for the last time on the 17th. Besides that I have other issues in my life. Employment, health, family. I am VERY glad you are talking to your T about the retirement thing. From personal experience I don't think it is too early to start. I started to talk to my therapist starting about 2 years ago I was so upset!! Yes! She would kind of blow me off but not in a bad way by saying, "we have lots of time". I guess getting upset 2 years in advance was a bit much but I certainly think you are within the right time to be getting all the feelings out. Is there someone else she can reccomend for when she "steps down"? My T for the last two weeks was supposed to give me info about the new therapist she has picked out and hasn't yet and I am a bit miffed at her. I was supposed to find out last week and she didn't come through and then I thought "surely this week" and nothing. I did not bring it up either. I wish she would get something going though because I need time to meet the new therapist and then consult with my present T on what I think of the new one. My T is good but I KNEW she was going to mess up on this. I just knew it. One time she was supposed to fill out a paper for me and two weeks later she still hadn't. I couldn't imagine why not. Not happy at all that she hasn't had any info about the 'new therapist'. I may call her and leave her a voicemail this week. I really don't like being left in the dark like this. And you would think I would mention it to her. I am after all a grown woman. But the reason I didn't was because I know she knows it is something she has to do and I trust her to work it out. Only time is a wasting. That is my complaint. I think I will call her to leave a message. I don't think this is right. And I consider her a very good therapist. This is an example that shows she isn't perfect. Actually this is not good! It makes her look very bad. Please stay in touch. Keep talking to your T about retirement as you feel so inclined. Believe me, it isn't too early. I am glad you got the tears to come out. You know what I am doing? I went to www.blogger.com and have been making my T a farewell blog. I started in January with my thoughts and stuff. You may want to start something like that for you even if you don't give it to her. You will get your feelings out and anything you don't get to say in session you can say on your blog to her. Which you will give her as a gift (surprise) the last day you see her. I want to get my T some roses. 3 roses. Long story. Nitey night for now. Friesandcoke in New York


> That sounds hard, but it also sounds like you got at least some of what you need from her. I'm so happy for you. My T hugs me, too -- she's the first person I ever willingly hugged.
>
> I get what your T is saying about what an emotional mess she would be if she got upset about all 20 clients. And she's right that it is different for them than it is for us, but she's also going to miss you and she admitted it!
>
> I see my T tomorrow and her retirement (I'm trying not to think about it as her leaving me) is high on the agenda. I'll let you know how that goes.

 

Re: Therapist is retiring friesandcoke

Posted by TherapyGirl on May 21, 2008, at 21:21:30

In reply to Re: Therapist is retiring, posted by friesandcoke on May 21, 2008, at 1:00:25

It sounds like you are doing all the right things and it still sucks. Sigh...

Thanks for the support and advice. We didn't talk about it much today -- just mentioned the nightmares I had last week the night after our session (nothing directly about her leaving -- rather about something horrible happening to me and her not being there to help fix it). I'm numb right now. I think it was too much for me last week.

She would give me a referral to another T, but I told her I didn't want to do that. It feels like way too much work to me to start over with a new T. And it's not like I can replace her. I may change my mind later, but I don't think so. I did tell her today that if I'd known she was leaving that soon, I would have had them take my ovaries when I had my hysterectomy last month. She said, "But then you would be in menopause." I told her I that was the point -- that I could go through menopause while I still had her. I can't believe I had to tell her that.

I definitely think you should call your T and leave a message about the new T. She needs to get that ball rolling and keep you informed along the way.

I'll be thinking about you.

 

Re: Therapist is retiring

Posted by friesandcoke on May 24, 2008, at 14:05:32

In reply to Re: Therapist is retiring friesandcoke, posted by TherapyGirl on May 21, 2008, at 21:21:30

Hi, I did call her and leave the message about the new T. And she called back. My T is good but a little absentminded sometimes. Like I had foot surgery on Thursday. When she left the message about the new T, she left another one saying she would try to call me the day after surgery 'if she could' but she didn't. Things like that. I knew she wouldn't either. She is kind of unreliable like that. And to me that stinks! I don't like that about her. I am very upset right now. I had foot surgery on Thursday and have a huge cast on my leg all the way up to my knee. Right now I am mad at the world. It is very hard getting around with this huge cast on. Was supposed to get a home health aide and place said they couldn't find anyone. Grrr! Not good when you have come home from surgery and are not supposed to be on your feet. When exactly is your T retiring? Mine is in about 3 weeks. By the way, I went through menopause with my T and didn't even know I was going through it until I was in it and had gone through it! My periods were getting lighter and I thought I was in peri-menopause. Then went to GYN who did labwork and said I was in menopause and should not be having any light periods. They did a D & C but everything Thank God came back normal. So don't worry about menopause. You will be OK. I promise! That was sweet what you said to her though about your ovaries. Would you have really done it? Let me know. Take care, friesandcoke


> It sounds like you are doing all the right things and it still sucks. Sigh...
>
> Thanks for the support and advice. We didn't talk about it much today -- just mentioned the nightmares I had last week the night after our session (nothing directly about her leaving -- rather about something horrible happening to me and her not being there to help fix it). I'm numb right now. I think it was too much for me last week.
>
> She would give me a referral to another T, but I told her I didn't want to do that. It feels like way too much work to me to start over with a new T. And it's not like I can replace her. I may change my mind later, but I don't think so. I did tell her today that if I'd known she was leaving that soon, I would have had them take my ovaries when I had my hysterectomy last month. She said, "But then you would be in menopause." I told her I that was the point -- that I could go through menopause while I still had her. I can't believe I had to tell her that.
>
> I definitely think you should call your T and leave a message about the new T. She needs to get that ball rolling and keep you informed along the way.
>
> I'll be thinking about you.

 

Re: Therapist is retiring friesandcoke

Posted by TherapyGirl on May 24, 2008, at 19:19:15

In reply to Re: Therapist is retiring, posted by friesandcoke on May 24, 2008, at 14:05:32

Sorry about your foot. Ouch. My T is also forgetful -- it's gotten worse over the years. But yours sounds more absentminded than mine is.

Mine leaves at the end of 2009 -- so 1.5 years. We didn't talk about it at all last week -- I think I got so upset the week before that we needed to leave it on the shelf for a while. I'll try again, but I'm not sure when.

I go back to work on Tuesday for the first time since my surgery in April. I'm not looking forward to it, so I'm guessing I'll be all stressed about that next week.

Do you have friends who are helping you?

 

Re: Therapist is retiring

Posted by friesandcoke on June 1, 2008, at 1:07:05

In reply to Re: Therapist is retiring friesandcoke, posted by TherapyGirl on May 24, 2008, at 19:19:15

> Sorry about your foot. Ouch. My T is also forgetful -- it's gotten worse over the years. But yours sounds more absentminded than mine is.
>
> Mine leaves at the end of 2009 -- so 1.5 years. We didn't talk about it at all last week -- I think I got so upset the week before that we needed to leave it on the shelf for a while. I'll try again, but I'm not sure when.
>
> I go back to work on Tuesday for the first time since my surgery in April. I'm not looking forward to it, so I'm guessing I'll be all stressed about that next week.
>
> Do you have friends who are helping you?

Hi! Yes, my T is forgetful. That is one thing I have not liked about her. She is very busy. She is married to a doctor who is not internationally "famous" in that respect or anything but is well known in his field and unlike me who doesn't do a whole heck of alot, she is very, very busy outside of her work.

I have not had any friends helping me because I am too afraid to ask for help for fear people won't like me. This has been a huge learning experience. I have taken upon myself to try to do everything without help and it has caused me so much stress I have had a mini nervous breakdown over it, I swear.

Glad you are going back to work. Do you feel like saying what kind of work? I have a graduate degree but right now would do anything. Including minimum wage jobs. I have no confidence to look for anything that I am qualified for. I used to be pretty but since hitting my 50's, even my 40's my appearance started to change alot. I put on a ton of weight, hair started to thin out. The menopause thing and pre-menopause. I just don't look or feel sexy anymore and I never felt that way prior to this weight gain and thinning of hair.

I wish I had a boyfriend, a relationship but haven't dated in years.

Be well,
friesandcoke

 

Re: Therapist is retiring

Posted by TherapyGirl on June 1, 2008, at 18:05:11

In reply to Re: Therapist is retiring, posted by friesandcoke on June 1, 2008, at 1:07:05

I understand about being afraid to ask for help, but I'm getting better at it over the years. I didn't need much help after my surgery, but I did ask for and receive some, especially the first week. And guess what? People were glad to help out. I hope you will have a chance to find out for yourself.

I work for a non-profit agency that serves people with developmental disabilities. It is rewarding work, but I'm not crazy about the current atmosphere, so I'm actually job searching. The first week back went okay for a couple of days, but by the end of the week I was worn out and stressed out. My body hurt in ways it has not since the first few days after my surgery in April. More evidence that the environment is not good for me.

Have you met your new T yet? How are your sessions going? Your T's retirement is some time this month, right? I'm thinking about you. Keep me posted on how you're doing.

> Hi! Yes, my T is forgetful. That is one thing I have not liked about her. She is very busy. She is married to a doctor who is not internationally "famous" in that respect or anything but is well known in his field and unlike me who doesn't do a whole heck of alot, she is very, very busy outside of her work.
>
> I have not had any friends helping me because I am too afraid to ask for help for fear people won't like me. This has been a huge learning experience. I have taken upon myself to try to do everything without help and it has caused me so much stress I have had a mini nervous breakdown over it, I swear.
>
> Glad you are going back to work. Do you feel like saying what kind of work? I have a graduate degree but right now would do anything. Including minimum wage jobs. I have no confidence to look for anything that I am qualified for. I used to be pretty but since hitting my 50's, even my 40's my appearance started to change alot. I put on a ton of weight, hair started to thin out. The menopause thing and pre-menopause. I just don't look or feel sexy anymore and I never felt that way prior to this weight gain and thinning of hair.
>
> I wish I had a boyfriend, a relationship but haven't dated in years.
>
> Be well,
> friesandcoke
>
>

 

Re: Therapist is retiring

Posted by friesandcoke on June 2, 2008, at 13:18:34

In reply to Re: Therapist is retiring, posted by TherapyGirl on June 1, 2008, at 18:05:11

Hi!

I meet the new T tomorrow. She is going to meet me in a session with my regular T. The three of us. What a time to meet. I am in this cast and look like hell. I mean for example my hair. I can't take alot of showers and stuff and my hair is very dry and stands up on end from laying in bed. My last session with my current T is on the 17th of June. But a year and a half ago I was not focused on her leaving. Yes I was thinking about it and even upset about it. But when I would bring it up to her she would always say "we have alot of time". But me myself, I was upset about it even then. What I was upset about was I knew I was losing her for good..forever. I had foot surgery on the 22nd of this month and have been preoccupied with that. But yes I have been thinking of my T and our parting ways. Did I tell you I have made a farewell blog for her? I made it at www.blogger.com. A way to put in some memories and a dedication to her. I don't have alot of money to buy her a gift. I know of a book she has read and liked very much. I wrote the author to ask if I sent a copy of the book to her if she would sign it. What I got back was they would send me a signature on something or other that can be placed in the book. So I will have that signature for her and was thinking of getting her a copy of the book. But the same author has written other books and I don't know if she has read those other books. But I know she did like the one book. Can't hurt to have two copies. I also bought her a domain name which will "point" to the website, the blog. I know what you mean about toxic enviroments. I am in tuned with that. And you had surgery too. I had a big blow up with the surgeon and his office and I consider us very much on the outs. As soon as this is over and I am normal again, I am going to complain to the dept of health about the quality of services rendered by him and his lousy staff. What a bunch of mean people. And stupid. I had surgery on the 22nd and only today, June 2 has anyone from the home health agency come. I am getting the cast off on June 4th so I would say it is a little late. I needed help the day after surgery and beyond. Not almost 2 weeks later! And I had requested it too. His office said I didn't need it and then I called there to complain that I was having a hard time getting around and did need it and all hell broke loose. Arguing on the phone and so forth. I did not need that crap at any time and especially when I am incapacitated from getting around due to a cast. I live in New York. Let me know what state you live in if you want. Would love to know. I don't work right now. Was working as a substitute teacher. Be well for now. friesandcoke
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> I understand about being afraid to ask for help, but I'm getting better at it over the years. I didn't need much help after my surgery, but I did ask for and receive some, especially the first week. And guess what? People were glad to help out. I hope you will have a chance to find out for yourself.
>
> I work for a non-profit agency that serves people with developmental disabilities. It is rewarding work, but I'm not crazy about the current atmosphere, so I'm actually job searching. The first week back went okay for a couple of days, but by the end of the week I was worn out and stressed out. My body hurt in ways it has not since the first few days after my surgery in April. More evidence that the environment is not good for me.
>
> Have you met your new T yet? How are your sessions going? Your T's retirement is some time this month, right? I'm thinking about you. Keep me posted on how you're doing.

 

Re: Therapist is retiring friesandcoke

Posted by TherapyGirl on June 3, 2008, at 18:20:48

In reply to Re: Therapist is retiring, posted by friesandcoke on June 2, 2008, at 13:18:34

Sorry they screwed up your home health. Health care in this country is in crisis -- I wonder when the people running for President will start talking about that. :-)

I'm glad you're meeting your new T -- be sure to keep me updated on what you think and how that goes. Sorry you won't be at your best physically, but you gotta do what you gotta do.

I'm in NC, btw.

 

Re: Therapist is retiring

Posted by friesandcoke on June 3, 2008, at 19:08:25

In reply to Re: Therapist is retiring friesandcoke, posted by TherapyGirl on June 3, 2008, at 18:20:48

> Sorry they screwed up your home health. Health care in this country is in crisis -- I wonder when the people running for President will start talking about that. :-)
>
> I'm glad you're meeting your new T -- be sure to keep me updated on what you think and how that goes. Sorry you won't be at your best physically, but you gotta do what you gotta do.
>
> I'm in NC, btw.


I met her, the new T today. Was not impressed. But since current T has reccomended her, I will give her a chance. I did not find her all that "interested" in my situation if you will. That might sound strange, but there was no real connection. My T thinks the new T is great but she said if I didn't think it was a good match, she would see about finding someone else. I told her I would give the new T a chance.

I hope you are doing well. Some day I will be listening to you about your saying goodbye to your T and I will fully understand. I am not sure if you will feel like I do (very sad) but it will be interesting to find out.

Take care,
friesandcoke

ps I should be called onionringsandcoke. I have been eating more onion rings than fries lately! But did have a coke from McDonald's today, haha!

 

Re: Therapist is retiring friesandcoke

Posted by TherapyGirl on June 4, 2008, at 16:51:58

In reply to Re: Therapist is retiring, posted by friesandcoke on June 3, 2008, at 19:08:25

Sorry you weren't impressed with new T. Maybe it will be better when it's just the two of you -- it would be hard for me to connect with a new T if old T was sitting right there. I'll hope for the best for you.

And I'm pretty sure I'm going to be devastated when my T leaves me. I can barely stand to think about it righ tnow. I'll keep you posted and you do the same, okay?

 

Re: Therapist is retiring

Posted by friesandcoke on June 6, 2008, at 14:00:43

In reply to Re: Therapist is retiring friesandcoke, posted by TherapyGirl on June 4, 2008, at 16:51:58

> Sorry you weren't impressed with new T. Maybe it will be better when it's just the two of you -- it would be hard for me to connect with a new T if old T was sitting right there. I'll hope for the best for you.
>
> And I'm pretty sure I'm going to be devastated when my T leaves me. I can barely stand to think about it righ tnow. I'll keep you posted and you do the same, okay?
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OK, sounds good.

I know what you mean about the old T sitting there with new T present. I was not "warming up" to the new T, I can tell you that! I hope all works out for you. You will survive it. I feel like I have to because I have no other options. Be well and take good care of yourself. My last day seeing her is June 17th.

God bless,
friesandcoke

 

Re: Therapist is retiring friesandcoke

Posted by TherapyGirl on June 27, 2008, at 17:40:32

In reply to Re: Therapist is retiring, posted by friesandcoke on June 6, 2008, at 14:00:43

How are you doing Fries? I've been thinking about you and hoping you are doing okay. How are things with the new T?

My T is dealing with a family member's health crisis, so she will be off a lot and iffy a lot for a while. Not ideal, but at least I still have her.

I hope you are okay.


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