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I had another nightmare violence triggers

Posted by Happyflower on May 9, 2008, at 8:27:40

I hate it when I have these kinds of dreams. My mom is after me, is following me to so she can kill me. She stabs me with a knife but every attempt I make like hitting her over the head with a rock or stabbing her back, things go in slow motion and I can't hurt her back. I lose every time. I try to call 911 for help but they don't answer I wake up screaming waking everyone up in the house. I just hate this.

 

Re: I had another nightmare violence triggers

Posted by seldomseen on May 9, 2008, at 9:18:14

In reply to I had another nightmare violence triggers, posted by Happyflower on May 9, 2008, at 8:27:40

Ah yes, the violence from dreamland. I know that all too well I'm afraid.

Our minds will certainly undermine us at night won't they? It's like HAH! I've got her.

More to say about this later.

Seldom.

 

Re: I had another nightmare violence triggers » Happyflower

Posted by rskontos on May 9, 2008, at 9:50:17

In reply to I had another nightmare violence triggers, posted by Happyflower on May 9, 2008, at 8:27:40

HF, I have been finding, since my p-doc isn't very helpful with my flashbacks, to deal with the fear and helplessness during my nightmares or flashbacks which occur when I am awake, to try and tell my self over and over they can't hurt me. My abusers are sometimes my mom and her lovers. People I don't know. It is slowly working. I don't have nearly the fear level. I was not able to do it very well at first but now I find I can talk to myself very easily and it often amazes me. It was hard in either place but now I can do it in both. The last one involved actually seeing myself as a small child, I saw and felt the fear, and was able to talk myself down mostly. It isn't easy but I have been able to deal with the fear and the pain much better. I had gotten to the point I avoided going to bed because of this, but not now I have learned to control even seeing them to some extent. Does not always work but sometimes I can.

I think your dream is telling you feel so powerless against her so you must try telling yourself you have power.

I am so sorry for this horrible dream and how it made you feel.

I hope you learn to control them some. I wish I could help show you how.

I actually for weeks woke my husband up screaming. But I never remembered those dreams. Then I slowly learned some to talk myself down.

Good luck sweetie, no one should have to have such dreams.

((((HF)))))))

rsk

 

Re: I had another nightmare violence triggers

Posted by Phillipa on May 9, 2008, at 12:38:46

In reply to Re: I had another nightmare violence triggers » Happyflower, posted by rskontos on May 9, 2008, at 9:50:17

Happyflower getting them too. Not fun at all and they last for me the next day. My last was my husband changed into my ex at the house I raised my kids in. I was frantically trying to clean and coldn't get done he was sitting outside. And I don't want to talk about it. Anyway I hope you're over yours. Love Phillipa

 

Re: I had another nightmare violence triggers » Happyflower

Posted by seldomseen on May 10, 2008, at 7:36:12

In reply to I had another nightmare violence triggers, posted by Happyflower on May 9, 2008, at 8:27:40

HF, I used to dream all the time that I was shooting bad people in my dreams, only that the gun wouldn't work, or the bullets would come out so slowly that I could see them.
I would wake up scared and very very frustrated.
I remember the first person I symbolically shot in my dreams (it was my mother). My therapist and I both celebrated. It indicates a shift in personal efficacy from a helpless child to capable adult. Don't worry. You'll be able to fight back soon enough. Just keep working.

Also, scary as they are, use your dreams. I think they are a valuable peek into your subconcious and can really drive insight based therapy. I write all of my dreams in my journal. And share them with my T.

When they follow you through the day, Clearskies actually gave me a powerful tool. Use creative visualization to ease the power of the dream. Imagine a situation and use all of your senses to put yourself in it.

I imagine that I am in a sunny forest and thousands of butterflies are flying around me (but not in a scary way). It's a swirl of color and sound (evidentally my butterflies make music when they fly).

This technique can really interrupt (at least temporarily) some of the bad feelings the dreams have dredged up, but you still have to be strong and face those dreams head on.

Seldom.


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