Psycho-Babble Psychology Thread 818194

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miss my T

Posted by sunnydays on March 15, 2008, at 23:00:27

I can't wait to see my T again. I have some excellent news to share with him (I actually couldn't wait, I left him a message on his voicemail, but we have to celebrate in person too). And I've been gone for spring break and at home, so it's been rough not seeing him. And some huge things happened over break too, so there's all that to deal with. And tonight I'm just missing the warmth that he brings to the room and that feeling of safety and security and that everything's going to be alright. Because I'm sad and stressed and I just want to have that feeling.

sunnydays

 

Re: miss my T

Posted by Dinah on March 16, 2008, at 13:41:33

In reply to miss my T, posted by sunnydays on March 15, 2008, at 23:00:27

I so totally understand.

There's so many times that I feel that way.

I'm glad you have great news! I hope the most of the stuff that happened over break was also good. Although good change can be stressful too, I know. :)

 

Re: miss my T Dinah

Posted by Phillipa on March 16, 2008, at 14:07:25

In reply to Re: miss my T, posted by Dinah on March 16, 2008, at 13:41:33

Sunnydays great!!!!! And good news can be stressful too. Hope your appointment goes well. Phillipa

 

Re: miss my T sunnydays

Posted by Phillipa on March 16, 2008, at 14:08:56

In reply to miss my T, posted by sunnydays on March 15, 2008, at 23:00:27

Sorry message was to you. Love Phillipa

 

Re: miss my T

Posted by Daisym on March 16, 2008, at 16:40:12

In reply to Re: miss my T sunnydays, posted by Phillipa on March 16, 2008, at 14:08:56

Missing is a good thing, so my therapist says. It means you are connected to someone. I'm glad you left him a message with good news - didn't it feel good to do that?

My therapist has been inserting himself into the good things in my life for awhile now - meaning, he says "think of me when you are having fun too" - I think because he is trying to show me it is OK to be connected to someone even when you feel OK. One of my favorite voice mails was when I was going on vacation and he said, "think of me when you are shoe shopping - hear me saying, 'are you sure you have room in your suitcase for those?'" It made me laugh.

Think of your favorite happy moments with your therapist. Hold them in your heart and let them make you smile. I'd love it if you want to share them here too.

Take care,
Daisy

 

Re: miss my T Dinah

Posted by sunnydays on March 16, 2008, at 16:59:09

In reply to Re: miss my T, posted by Dinah on March 16, 2008, at 13:41:33


> I'm glad you have great news! I hope the most of the stuff that happened over break was also good. Although good change can be stressful too, I know. :)

Well, I would say that the good stuff was good but there was some other stuff that was not so good from my perspective... but how I handled I expect is good and when I talked to my T on the phone over break he said, "I don't think you realize how huge this is, how important this." Basically, I confronted my mother about her abuse of me (she brought it up sort of, it's a long story) and she was asking me all these questions that I just decided I might as well answer directly. And then I set clear boundaries about how much I was willing to discuss it. So that's big I guess, although I think I my T sees it as much bigger than I see it.

I wish I could share the good news on here, but I just don't want to reveal that much specific info online. I'll just say that something happened that means I can continue to see my T after I graduate from college and that also significantly alleviated my financial worries...

Thanks for responding,
sunnydays

 

thanks :) (nm) Phillipa

Posted by sunnydays on March 16, 2008, at 16:59:33

In reply to Re: miss my T Dinah, posted by Phillipa on March 16, 2008, at 14:07:25

 

Re: miss my T Daisym

Posted by sunnydays on March 16, 2008, at 17:02:37

In reply to Re: miss my T, posted by Daisym on March 16, 2008, at 16:40:12

> Missing is a good thing, so my therapist says. It means you are connected to someone. I'm glad you left him a message with good news - didn't it feel good to do that?

**** It did feel good, but I so want to hear his response... I'm just impatient!! :)

>
> My therapist has been inserting himself into the good things in my life for awhile now - meaning, he says "think of me when you are having fun too" - I think because he is trying to show me it is OK to be connected to someone even when you feel OK. One of my favorite voice mails was when I was going on vacation and he said, "think of me when you are shoe shopping - hear me saying, 'are you sure you have room in your suitcase for those?'" It made me laugh.

**** That sounds like something my T would say. Only my T is such a guy that I'm not sure that he would understand the appeal of shoe shopping... I don't know how to keep the connection, I really don't. But I'm working on it.

>
> Think of your favorite happy moments with your therapist. Hold them in your heart and let them make you smile. I'd love it if you want to share them here too.

**** I might later, but right now I have a TON of work that needs doing. But thanks for reminding me to think of those moments and hold onto them. I'm sure that's advice my T would give me too. :)

sunnydays

 

Re: miss my T sunnydays

Posted by Dinah on March 16, 2008, at 17:55:53

In reply to Re: miss my T Dinah, posted by sunnydays on March 16, 2008, at 16:59:09

That *does* sound like excellent news.

And I do think it's great how you handled the encounter with your mother. Boundaries are the most important relationship stabilizer with adult children and parents. Good for you!

 

Re: miss my T sunnydays

Posted by llurpsienoodle on March 17, 2008, at 13:34:36

In reply to miss my T, posted by sunnydays on March 15, 2008, at 23:00:27

first of all, I'm so proud of you for confronting the abuser and hitting the nail on the head. no deflection possible.

That is truly awesome and you deserve much credit. Not all have your courage.

Second, you are very lucky cookie to be able to continue with the t that you have grown so close to. I'm SO happy for you. I know that you'll continue to do great work.

Conveying good news is often just as scary as bad news, especially when we feel that we do not merit good things happening to us. Is your self-esteem in the healthy range? Mine could use some refilling.

those are all my musings

cyberhugs,
-Ll

 

Re: miss my T llurpsienoodle

Posted by sunnydays on March 17, 2008, at 15:22:12

In reply to Re: miss my T sunnydays, posted by llurpsienoodle on March 17, 2008, at 13:34:36

No, in fact last night my self esteem was about as low as it gets... also related to break. I can't wait to see him tomorrow. I definitely feel like I don't deserve good things and that they only happen because I hide my core bad self well and don't let anyone see it. Realistically I can say that I don't think I'm bad deep down at the core, but when the negative self esteem takes over, that's all I think.

sunnydays


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