Psycho-Babble Psychology Thread 790877

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MyBrotherLostTheFightAgainstChildAbuse *Triggers*

Posted by happyflower on October 23, 2007, at 16:04:46

I just found out that my brother was found dead today, he was probably died last Wed.

They think due to seizures or natural causes. He is having an autopsy done. How can it be natural causes when it was due to my mom beating the sh*t out of him causing brain lesions that gave him the seizures?

My heart hurts so much today, he is my only sibling and I have missed him so much. I really tried to save him against my mom, but I couldn't. She has won once again.

 

Re: MyBrotherLostTheFightAgainstChildAbuse *Triggers*

Posted by rskontos on October 23, 2007, at 17:23:31

In reply to MyBrotherLostTheFightAgainstChildAbuse *Triggers*, posted by happyflower on October 23, 2007, at 16:04:46

OH Happyflower, you are having more than it would seem possible to bear. I am so sorry for the lost of your dear brother. Your poor heart from your brother to Baby Lia. I know it may seem overwhelming but please hang in there. Grieve for your loved ones and for yourself losing them before their times. I am so sorry your brother death was undiscovered for so long that is extra hard. Try not to think of your mom winning or losing, just remember how special he was to you and how much fun you two hard while he was alive. Remember him to honor him not letting her intrude on this time. Dont let her win anymore than she has too. Remember him with special thoughts of his specialness and how much you gained from having him in your life as your brother!! I will be thinking of you. rk

 

Re: (((Happyflower))) happyflower

Posted by LadyBug on October 23, 2007, at 17:31:58

In reply to MyBrotherLostTheFightAgainstChildAbuse *Triggers*, posted by happyflower on October 23, 2007, at 16:04:46

Oh HF, my heart breaks for you and for your brother. I don't even know what to say other than I wish you didn't have so much pain going on. Have you contacted your T to tell him? You need too.
You are in my thoughts and prayers. You are such an amazing person. I can't even imagine what you've gone through. I don't relate to the Child Abuse from a parent. My issues were different.
I'm so sorry. Here's a hug ((((((HF))))))
LadyBug

 

Re: MyBrotherLostTheFightAgainstChildAbuse *Triggers* happyflower

Posted by Poet on October 23, 2007, at 17:34:38

In reply to MyBrotherLostTheFightAgainstChildAbuse *Triggers*, posted by happyflower on October 23, 2007, at 16:04:46

Hi Happyflower,

I am so sorry to hear about your brother. Please don't beat yourself up for not being able to stop what happened to him as a child. You were a child, too, both of you were up against someone who abused her power over you.

You are under a tremendous amount of stress, I can't imgagine having so many sad things going on at once, please don't blame yourself for what happened to your brother. It was not your fault. Neither of you deserved what happened to you, and you don't deserve to feel guilt that you couldn't stop your mother from hurting him. You were a victim, too.

(((((((((((((((((((Happy Flower)))))))))))))))))))

Poet

 

Re: MyBrotherLostTheFightAgainstChildAbuse *Trigge happyflower

Posted by Raindancer on October 23, 2007, at 18:06:10

In reply to MyBrotherLostTheFightAgainstChildAbuse *Triggers*, posted by happyflower on October 23, 2007, at 16:04:46

Happyflower, this is devastating news for you and another great loss in a life that has already had to bear too much pain. My thoughts and prayers are for you at this time. Take good care of yourself. Your brother must have felt glad to have you in his life and is at peace now. Hold tight. Love, Rain.

 

Re: MyBrotherLostTheFightAgainstChildAbuse *Triggers*

Posted by seldomseen on October 23, 2007, at 19:20:34

In reply to MyBrotherLostTheFightAgainstChildAbuse *Triggers*, posted by happyflower on October 23, 2007, at 16:04:46

I'm so sorry HF for all that you are going through right now.
Take good care of yourself and reach out to your T.
As always we are here to help.
Love
Seldom.

 

Re: MyBrotherLostTheFightAgainstChildAbuse *Triggers* happyflower

Posted by RealMe on October 23, 2007, at 22:09:40

In reply to MyBrotherLostTheFightAgainstChildAbuse *Triggers*, posted by happyflower on October 23, 2007, at 16:04:46

I am so sorry happyflower. This is so awful. How could your mother get away with what she did??

Why do I ask when my older brother used to try to kill me and my mother. I have no family alive now, no parents and no sibling. It seems very stange and painful. I am so sorry for your lose.

RealMe

 

Re: MyBrotherLostTheFightAgainstChildAbuse *Triggers* happyflower

Posted by Phillipa on October 23, 2007, at 22:30:09

In reply to MyBrotherLostTheFightAgainstChildAbuse *Triggers*, posted by happyflower on October 23, 2007, at 16:04:46

Happyflower I don't know what to say. Besides talking to your t a call to your pdoc maybe up meds for a while? I'm speechless. So so sorry.Phillipa

 

Re: MyBrotherLostTheFightAgainstChildAbuse *Trigge happyflower

Posted by Dinah on October 23, 2007, at 23:20:14

In reply to MyBrotherLostTheFightAgainstChildAbuse *Triggers*, posted by happyflower on October 23, 2007, at 16:04:46

I'm so sorry, Happyflower. You've had more loss lately than anyone should have to bear all at once.

My thoughts are with you.

 

Re: MyBrotherLostTheFightAgainstChildAbuse *Trigge

Posted by arora on October 24, 2007, at 6:12:12

In reply to MyBrotherLostTheFightAgainstChildAbuse *Triggers*, posted by happyflower on October 23, 2007, at 16:04:46

HappyFlower-
I am so, so sorry about your brother. and about the unbelievable amount of pain you are having to bear right now.
I wish there was something I could say to help make it better, but I don't know how... just to let you know that I'm thinking of you and sending you what I hope are healing and strengthening thoughts right now.

arora

 

Re: MyBrotherLostTheFightAgainstChildAbuse *Trigge happyflower

Posted by llurpsienoodle on October 24, 2007, at 7:44:50

In reply to MyBrotherLostTheFightAgainstChildAbuse *Triggers*, posted by happyflower on October 23, 2007, at 16:04:46

happyflower, you are a very strong person, and your strength protected both you AND your brother. But you were just a wee one, and you mother was cruel beyond words.

Your numbness is OKAY, it will protect you and help you get through the next little bit. Your body will tell you when it's time to process. You have a lot of tools at your disposal-- babblechat, T, h, posting. Use them when you are ready. Remember, we can handle a LOT of pain. That's what makes us survivors.

At the same time, though, you should allow yourself a moment here and there to grieve, to FEEL. It's okay, you won't be destroyed. You can summon the strength to call up the tears. Maybe therapy will be a good place to explore the grief process.

My heart goes out to your brother. If he was anything like you then he was very special and precious

sending you warmth and comfort
-Ll

 

Re: MyBrotherLostTheFightAgainstChildAbuse *Trigge seldomseen

Posted by B2chica on October 24, 2007, at 8:21:30

In reply to Re: MyBrotherLostTheFightAgainstChildAbuse *Triggers*, posted by seldomseen on October 23, 2007, at 19:20:34

((((((((((((happyflower))))))))))))))
i am so sorry to hear such terrrible news. you are bearing so much right now.

it was NOT your responsibility as a child to protect your brother. your mother s*cked and was terrible, this had nothing to do with you.
you obviously had a good relationship with your brother, hold on to that.
and don't think of it as her 'winning', after all you BOTH survived childhood! so she didn't win there!
and im sure this was partly due to your relationship with eachother. its that bond that helps us survive the worst of times.

i dont know what to say except you are in my thoughts and prayers.
((((((((((((((((HF)))))))))))))

 

omg... i am so very sorry ((((HF))) (nm) happyflower

Posted by Dory on October 24, 2007, at 10:53:04

In reply to MyBrotherLostTheFightAgainstChildAbuse *Triggers*, posted by happyflower on October 23, 2007, at 16:04:46

 

:'(

Posted by pianissimo on October 24, 2007, at 19:33:24

In reply to omg... i am so very sorry ((((HF))) (nm) happyflower, posted by Dory on October 24, 2007, at 10:53:04

Happyflower, I don't know what to say.

I'm so sorry for your loss, and all the trials you've had come your way lately.

((((((HF)))))))

P-Mo

 

Re: MyBrotherLostTheFightAgainstChildAbuse *Triggers*

Posted by JoniS on October 25, 2007, at 14:46:06

In reply to MyBrotherLostTheFightAgainstChildAbuse *Triggers*, posted by happyflower on October 23, 2007, at 16:04:46

HF,

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I can not imagine what it must be like to deal with that pain. I'll be thinking of you. Take good care of yourself.

Joni

 

Re: MyBrotherLostTheFightAgainstChildAbuse *Trigge happyflower

Posted by pegasus on October 26, 2007, at 10:42:03

In reply to MyBrotherLostTheFightAgainstChildAbuse *Triggers*, posted by happyflower on October 23, 2007, at 16:04:46

Oh, Happyflower, I just saw this thread, and I'm so sorry. I'm sorry that you lost your brother, and I'm sorry that it's because of your mother's abuse. Life is just not fair at all.

I'll be thinking of you. You sure are going through a lot right now. I'm glad to read your posts, and see that you're using your resources, including babble. If you'd like to tell us more about your brother, I'd love to hear about him. Knowing you, I'm sure you helped him a lot, even if you couldn't ultimately save him from this.

((HF)) - very gentle hugs

peg

 

Re: MyBrotherLostTheFightAgainstChildAbuse *Trigge pegasus

Posted by emily99 on October 26, 2007, at 11:10:41

In reply to Re: MyBrotherLostTheFightAgainstChildAbuse *Trigge happyflower, posted by pegasus on October 26, 2007, at 10:42:03

I am so very sorry to hear of the loss of your brother. (((((((((((((HF))))))))))))). How I would hug you if I were there. I agree with the last poster. I'd love to hear the happy memories you have of your brother. Your mom won't get away with this, one way or another -- I know this from experience. Pour out your feelings to your T. Justice is always served in this life, even if we can't see it. Love and prayers are being sent your way. You are STRONG, and you will get through this.

Emily


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