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Posted by Dinah on June 23, 2007, at 12:00:28
To play around with medication doses so soon after a meltdown. I hardly got any sleep after 3:30 am last night. I feel sick.
And I'm not going to make it through my son's adolescence. I'm just not.
Posted by Honore on June 23, 2007, at 13:07:27
In reply to Probably not a good idea, posted by Dinah on June 23, 2007, at 12:00:28
What's happening with your son, Dinah? I think adolescence of sons must be really hard on mothers, a lot of times, given our social expectations of men. But maybe there's a way to handle it all-- and to avoid the worst.
Maybe, also, whatever happening is a much more limited, and temporary thing than you're imagining it to be-- and also much less pervasive and deep.
It's easy to overestimate how much you've done wrong-- you often do-- and I'm sure whatever it is, isn't as bad as you fear.
(((Dinah)))
Honore
Posted by annierose on June 23, 2007, at 15:48:42
In reply to Re: Probably not a good idea, posted by Honore on June 23, 2007, at 13:07:27
Remember that they really do love you. Kids need to test their independance and their limits and you need to remind him where they are. He loves you. You are still the world to him but he needs to test spreading his wings a bit.
My t is extremely helpful with parental help. Have you ever asked your t, "what should I do?"
You will make it through. You must. And there are wonderful moments in there as well to cherish.
Annie
mom of 13 1/2 year old girl w/hormones too
Posted by Sigismund on June 23, 2007, at 16:00:52
In reply to Probably not a good idea, posted by Dinah on June 23, 2007, at 12:00:28
Hello Dinah
Early morning waking is just awful.
My experience with the phases of life of our two kids was that the phases did not tell me as much as I had expected.
(Not nearly as much as my relationship with the kid.)
The 'terrible twos' were actually really good, for example.What I did not expect was the grief I felt when it was time for the kid to leave home.
Still, I never understand people trying to hang on to their kids, because the kid you are trying to hang onto disappeared years ago.
So (thinking now) it is important for me to miss those kids, the little 2 yos, so I can keep (the feeling of) them alive inside me.
Posted by Dinah on June 23, 2007, at 21:06:00
In reply to Re: Probably not a good idea » Dinah, posted by Sigismund on June 23, 2007, at 16:00:52
It's hard to keep that in mind. I already have one person in the house who thinks everything I do is wrong, I'm not liking having a second.
I'm just not going to make it through. I'm going to end up running away to Tahiti.
At least I had a productive day painting today.
Posted by Sigismund on June 23, 2007, at 22:12:13
In reply to Re: Probably not a good idea, posted by Dinah on June 23, 2007, at 21:06:00
Tahiti?
There must be some way for US citizens to go to Cuba.
It's so close to you.
Nice old architecture.
People who are pleased to see you.
No modern world.
Posted by muffled on June 25, 2007, at 11:00:09
In reply to Re: Probably not a good idea, posted by Dinah on June 23, 2007, at 21:06:00
>At least I had a productive day painting today.
**Good for you for noticing that at least. Hard to see good stuff when we feel all messed up.
I think this is one of those times where you just gonna have to try and be extra good to yourself.
Mebbe make a list of good things you done. (like painting, being a good mom, being a good babbler etc)
Dinah, FWIW I think you do lots right, and that your pretty darn smart. Maybe we can do camp comfort thread if thats of any use to you?
Wish I could take you out for coffee IRL :-(
Muffled
Posted by MidnightBlue on June 25, 2007, at 18:02:38
In reply to Re: Probably not a good idea, posted by Dinah on June 23, 2007, at 21:06:00
Dinah,
You will make it through. The teen years are tough. You need to find something YOU love to do and let go of your son a little. He will come back to you a grown man.
Just keep telling yourself that a teenager is not a good judge of your parenting skills.
MB
Posted by Dinah on June 25, 2007, at 21:35:38
In reply to Re: Probably not a good idea » Dinah, posted by MidnightBlue on June 25, 2007, at 18:02:38
We talked last night, and I think it helped. I think we were stuck in a spiral, and talking brought it out into the open and gave us a chance to step back.
He was pretty much his usual charming self today.
I know I can't count on it to last, but I'll take it for as long as possible.
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