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i miss him.....

Posted by sunnydays on April 2, 2007, at 21:24:42

I miss my T so much. He's gone and I want him to come back. It feels like if I apologize enough he'll come back so I've been trying to apologize every time I talk to him. But I have to be careful because he might get mad at me for apologizing too much. And I just want him to come back. I know he can't help it because he's injured, but I want him back anyway. I miss him so so so so much. There's so much I want to tell him and the phone isn't the same, I need him to be there. It just feels like I might die from sadness I miss him so much.

sunnydays

 

Re: i miss him..... sunnydays

Posted by gazo on April 2, 2007, at 21:36:36

In reply to i miss him....., posted by sunnydays on April 2, 2007, at 21:24:42

awww SD. I am so sorry. Is there any word on how long he'll be out?

 

Re: i miss him..... gazo

Posted by sunnydays on April 2, 2007, at 21:41:58

In reply to Re: i miss him..... sunnydays, posted by gazo on April 2, 2007, at 21:36:36

At least this week, probably longer. He's been gone a month already. I'm so sad...

sunnydays

 

Re: i miss him..... sunnydays

Posted by Daisym on April 2, 2007, at 22:04:57

In reply to Re: i miss him..... gazo, posted by sunnydays on April 2, 2007, at 21:41:58

I'd be really sad too. I think you are doing really well though.

I think it was last year that my therapist took his longest ever vacation since I'd been seeing him. It wasn't unusually long - two weeks -- but for me it meant missing 8 sessions and it was right when I was breaking up with my husband. So he had me write to him every day and he made me promise to give it to him, so he could see what I was thinking and just what was happening. I had a helper here, or two, who made sure I was doing the journaling. It really did help make me feel connected and it helped my therapist catch up without it taking so many sessions. We do this even over weekends now, if I'm struggling, it just seems to work for us.

I know it isn't the same but at least he'd be able to see what is going on with you and any patterns that might be emerging. When is the end of the semester? Do you stop seeing him when school lets out?

Hang in there. This won't last forever.
Daisy

 

Re: i miss him..... sunnydays

Posted by frida on April 2, 2007, at 23:43:07

In reply to i miss him....., posted by sunnydays on April 2, 2007, at 21:24:42

dear sunnydays,

I understand...it is so hard. I am sorry.

Once my T was away for 2 months, and in the summer she is usually away for a little over a month. It is soooooooooo hard to wait, it hurts a lot and some days are just so sad.
It gets difficult to cope.

I try to stay connected somehow too as Daisy suggested..

Maybe you could try that ? I know it isn't the same, but maybe it would help you feel connected a little...
Maybe he could suggest a book to read or something to help you feel he's still with you...

I hope he's back soon

Frida


> I miss my T so much. He's gone and I want him to come back. It feels like if I apologize enough he'll come back so I've been trying to apologize every time I talk to him. But I have to be careful because he might get mad at me for apologizing too much. And I just want him to come back. I know he can't help it because he's injured, but I want him back anyway. I miss him so so so so much. There's so much I want to tell him and the phone isn't the same, I need him to be there. It just feels like I might die from sadness I miss him so much.
>
> sunnydays

 

Re: i miss him.....

Posted by sunnydays on April 3, 2007, at 9:27:11

In reply to Re: i miss him..... sunnydays, posted by Daisym on April 2, 2007, at 22:04:57

> I think it was last year that my therapist took his longest ever vacation since I'd been seeing him. It wasn't unusually long - two weeks -- but for me it meant missing 8 sessions and it was right when I was breaking up with my husband. So he had me write to him every day and he made me promise to give it to him, so he could see what I was thinking and just what was happening. I had a helper here, or two, who made sure I was doing the journaling. It really did help make me feel connected and it helped my therapist catch up without it taking so many sessions. We do this even over weekends now, if I'm struggling, it just seems to work for us.

**** That might work out ok. I kind of do a similar thing because he lets me email him as much as I want. He only checks his email at work, though, so when he gets back he'll have LOTS of emails from me. The phone sessions will help some too, I hope.

>
> I know it isn't the same but at least he'd be able to see what is going on with you and any patterns that might be emerging. When is the end of the semester? Do you stop seeing him when school lets out?

**** The end of the semester is in about a month. If I get the job I applied for and can stay here over the summer like I am hoping (and it is pretty certain I'll get it) then I won't have to stop seeing him. If I don't get it I think he'd do phone sessions, but they aren't the same.

>
> Hang in there. This won't last forever.
> Daisy

*** Thanks Daisy.
sunnydays

 

Re: i miss him.....

Posted by sunnydays on April 3, 2007, at 9:28:52

In reply to Re: i miss him..... sunnydays, posted by frida on April 2, 2007, at 23:43:07

> dear sunnydays,
>
> I understand...it is so hard. I am sorry.
>
> Once my T was away for 2 months, and in the summer she is usually away for a little over a month. It is soooooooooo hard to wait, it hurts a lot and some days are just so sad.
> It gets difficult to cope.

**** Yeah, I'm doing my best but it is hard sometimes.

>
> I try to stay connected somehow too as Daisy suggested..
>
> Maybe you could try that ? I know it isn't the same, but maybe it would help you feel connected a little...
> Maybe he could suggest a book to read or something to help you feel he's still with you...

**** I don't have time to read for pleasure (thanks to being a student), but I'm hoping the phone sessions will help some with staying connected.

>
> I hope he's back soon
>

**** Me too.

sunnydays

 

Re: i miss him..... sunnydays

Posted by Dinah on April 3, 2007, at 12:32:40

In reply to i miss him....., posted by sunnydays on April 2, 2007, at 21:24:42

I like the suggestions the others had, and don't really have any to give.

But in some ways I think I envy you. When my therapist was gone for six weeks, I pretty much shut down. By the time he came back, I barely remembered what he meant to me. I tend to do that, and it's one of my biggest problems.

I know it hurts, but that hurt is also a measure of your ability to connect and to care, and that's a good thing, not a bad thing.

Hopefully it will only be a short time before he's in his office again.

 

Re: i miss him.....

Posted by sunnydays on April 3, 2007, at 20:04:59

In reply to Re: i miss him..... sunnydays, posted by Dinah on April 3, 2007, at 12:32:40

Thanks Dinah. It actually really surprised me to hear that missing someone could be a reason to envy someone, but I can see where you're coming from.

sunnydays


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