Psycho-Babble Psychology Thread 695913

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Meltdown Day

Posted by LadyBug on October 18, 2006, at 20:38:16

I don't post much these days, but I do try to be supportive where I can. I do the best I can, though I know it's not much.
I had a total meltdown today. Some issues have happened at work the past few weeks and not to bore anyone, let's just say I was totally sh** on today. I've never been treated so unfairly in my life when it comes to a job. Always been the good employee, hard working, blah, blah, blah...........
I was planning on having total knee replacements done in January, but after what happened to me today at my work, I scheduled my first knee for next Wed. and the other knee the following Mon. Job or no job, I'm done with the pain that I suffer with each and EVERY step I take. They don't care about me, so why should I care about them? My director can kiss my butt.
I called my T to see if she had any open appointments today so I could process this with her, but she didn't have any openings. I see her tomorrow anyway so it will have to wait. I talked to my sister and it was good for me to turn to her instead of my T. That's how it should be anyway. I was desperate. I still haven't talked to her even though she said she'd call me tonight. I've been in tears most the day. I want to go crawl in bed and hide! I'm going to get my pre-op work done in the morning and also do the paper work. My T's office isn't too far from the hospital so she said she'd come and visit me. I'm ok with that. I will need her comfort. I won't be able to go see her at her office after tomorrow for at least a few weeks. My mind is going crazy thinking of all I need to get done in the next few days to prepare not only my mental self, but my home and family needs to be taken care of too. I'm glad I don't have small children and that my daughters can at least be helpful to me. I think things will work out for the best as far as my job goes. My T will be there for me all the way, I'm thinking it might work out with her to come to the hospital and maybe even to my home during my recovery since I won't be driving for a time. I probably won't have a job when I get done, but right now I don't care. I can't wait to see my T tomorrow. This is big to me.
LadyBug

 

Re: Meltdown Day

Posted by muffled on October 18, 2006, at 21:15:06

In reply to Meltdown Day, posted by LadyBug on October 18, 2006, at 20:38:16

Well said ladybug. good for you.
I'm glad your getting your knees done.
I'm glad your putting yourself up front.
I hope your recovery is quick.
I'm glad you got your T and your sister.
Take care,
Muffled

 

Re: Meltdown Day » LadyBug

Posted by mair on October 18, 2006, at 21:15:49

In reply to Meltdown Day, posted by LadyBug on October 18, 2006, at 20:38:16

I think it's great you're taking care of yourself. Was the January date worked out with your office? Do they now know you've changed that? It sounds as if you've been in a lot of pain and advancing the surgery makes good medical sense. I'm guessing that all the physical discomfort you're experiencing probably makes it harder to deal with the work sh*t anyway. I don't think you can be fired for something like this.

mair

 

Re: Meltdown Day » LadyBug

Posted by sunnydays on October 18, 2006, at 21:16:19

In reply to Meltdown Day, posted by LadyBug on October 18, 2006, at 20:38:16

((((((((((LadyBug)))))))))))))

This sounds like a hard time for you.

sunnydays

 

Re: Meltdown Day » muffled

Posted by LadyBug on October 18, 2006, at 21:56:44

In reply to Re: Meltdown Day, posted by muffled on October 18, 2006, at 21:15:06

Thanks Muffy,
I'm having a hard time worrying about if I will have a job to return to, I'm mostly concerned about my insurance while I'm off. I do have about 2 weeks of pay, that's better than nothing.
You are so cute! I'd amire you for your strength!

 

Re: Meltdown Day » mair

Posted by LadyBug on October 18, 2006, at 22:02:39

In reply to Re: Meltdown Day » LadyBug, posted by mair on October 18, 2006, at 21:15:49

Mair,
My work did know about my surgery in January. No they are not aware of my surgery next week. I am telling them I have a Dr. appointment in the morning and then when I come back I will tell them. My Boss is going to crap his pants, but he deserves it after what he did to me today to stop me from being promoted. We have a small office with only 4 workers in our area, we lost 2 of them the last 2 weeks and now I'm going out to have surgery, that leaves one last girl alone!!! I'm sorry for her, but I'm sorry, my boss deserves to have no help!!!! And he will be in a huge mess!!!! No help and no new help hired yet!!! Ha ha ahahahahaha it's really not funny.

 

Re: Meltdown Day » sunnydays

Posted by LadyBug on October 18, 2006, at 22:06:15

In reply to Re: Meltdown Day » LadyBug, posted by sunnydays on October 18, 2006, at 21:16:19

Sunny,
My world isn't quite so sunny today, but I'm sure when I have my surgery done and I'm out of this pain, my life will be much improved. I'm even excited for my T to come and see me in the hospital. It's not too far from her office or her home. Therapy will be different for a few weeks or a month. My life will never be the same as it is now. I will get a new job and it won't hurt to walk!

 

Re: Meltdown Day » LadyBug

Posted by Phillipa on October 18, 2006, at 23:08:30

In reply to Re: Meltdown Day » sunnydays, posted by LadyBug on October 18, 2006, at 22:06:15

Your insurance is safe as you still have a job and they fire you for getting sick. That's how I'd put it to them. That the surgeon says that to wait will jepordize your future ability to walk. Love phillipa

 

Re: Meltdown Day » Phillipa

Posted by LadyBug on October 19, 2006, at 7:12:03

In reply to Re: Meltdown Day » LadyBug, posted by Phillipa on October 18, 2006, at 23:08:30

Thanks phillipa! I have been worried sick about it. I'm hoping things go ok. I'm going to my Dr. pre-op appointment in an hour and I will find out the rest of what I have to go through as soon as I get to work and talk to our benefits director. She's already aware of my pain and suffering.
This may be my last visit for a while with my T. as I will lose my insurance and probably my income. I know she'll work something out with me.
I only slept for 3 1/2 hours last night. I'm worried about how it will all pan out.
Thanks so much! I appreciate the support right now.
LadyBug

 

Re: Meltdown Day » LadyBug

Posted by Dinah on October 19, 2006, at 19:08:30

In reply to Meltdown Day, posted by LadyBug on October 18, 2006, at 20:38:16

Good luck with your surgery. I'm so glad you're doing something about your pain.


 

Re: Meltdown Day

Posted by SatinDoll on October 19, 2006, at 20:36:13

In reply to Re: Meltdown Day » Phillipa, posted by LadyBug on October 19, 2006, at 7:12:03

How did today go? Thinking of you! ((((ladybug)))))

 

Re: Meltdown Day » LadyBug

Posted by Poet on October 19, 2006, at 21:16:30

In reply to Meltdown Day, posted by LadyBug on October 18, 2006, at 20:38:16

Hi Ladybug,

Being what I will call dumped on at work is something I know far too well. Even if you don't have a job to go back to your employer will offer you continuation of your insurance through a program called Cobra. It won't be cheap, but it'll be the same coverage so you don't have to worry about switching doctors.

I hope your knees heal quickly and your T can come do in hospital and home sessions.

((((Ladybug)))))

Poet

 

Re: Meltdown Day » Dinah

Posted by LadyBug on October 19, 2006, at 21:51:50

In reply to Re: Meltdown Day » LadyBug, posted by Dinah on October 19, 2006, at 19:08:30

Thanks Dinah! I'm so excited to be free of the pain that has been mine for years! My T is going to come to the hospital and see me next Friday morning. That should be interesting.

 

Re: Meltdown Day » SatinDoll

Posted by LadyBug on October 19, 2006, at 21:54:00

In reply to Re: Meltdown Day, posted by SatinDoll on October 19, 2006, at 20:36:13

Thanks for the hug satindoll. Today went well. I'm all registered at the hospital. I told my boss the news and he can just deal with not having any help!!! Why should I stay and train the new person when they wouldn't even allow me to apply for the position because they say they have a dumb policy to go by. Ya right!

 

Re: Meltdown Day » LadyBug

Posted by Phillipa on October 19, 2006, at 21:55:36

In reply to Re: Meltdown Day » Dinah, posted by LadyBug on October 19, 2006, at 21:51:50

Surgery is done? Love Phillipa

 

Re: Meltdown Day

Posted by Phillipa on October 19, 2006, at 21:56:56

In reply to Re: Meltdown Day » SatinDoll, posted by LadyBug on October 19, 2006, at 21:54:00

OOPS!!!!!Posted to quick. I keep forgetting the day of the week. Love Phillipa

 

Re: Meltdown Day » LadyBug

Posted by SatinDoll on October 19, 2006, at 21:59:38

In reply to Re: Meltdown Day » SatinDoll, posted by LadyBug on October 19, 2006, at 21:54:00

You go girl! I think it is so sweet your T will visit you in the hospital. :-)

 

Re: Meltdown Day » Poet

Posted by LadyBug on October 19, 2006, at 22:01:19

In reply to Re: Meltdown Day » LadyBug, posted by Poet on October 19, 2006, at 21:16:30

Thanks Poet. I'm looking forward to being free of the pain I've been suffering for years. The timing is great. My boss has one person left out of 4 of us! And she's farily new too. I will not be treated this way. So they can just have fun. I am covered by my insurance till the end of Nov. and by then I will know what I'm doing. I may go back to a different job. I may go somewhere else. I work for a school district, and I love the schedule and all the days off we get around the holidays. So I hope it all works out. My priority is my health, I have to take care of me. And I saw my T tonight, she is going to come to the hospital and see me next Friday. That will be cool in a way, I hope I don't look too terrible?!?! Thanks for the well wishes. I may have to get ahold of a laptop. I'll die without my computer!!! My friends live there!
LadyBug

 

Re: Meltdown Day » Phillipa

Posted by LadyBug on October 19, 2006, at 22:05:48

In reply to Re: Meltdown Day, posted by Phillipa on October 19, 2006, at 21:56:56

No, surgery is next Wed. the 25th. I went to my pre-op appointment today. I will be in the hospital a total of 10 longggggg days. That is forever, but I'm having one knee done on Wed and the next one done the following Monday. And my T will come and see me while I'm there. That will be fun actually. She is so nice and supportive of me. I need that right now.
LadyBug

 

Re: Meltdown Day

Posted by pegasus on October 20, 2006, at 9:05:30

In reply to Meltdown Day, posted by LadyBug on October 18, 2006, at 20:38:16

Wow, that's a lot happening really quickly for you. It sounds like a really good thing that you've moved your surgery up, considering the pain that you've been in.

I hope that you are able to keep your job (if you still want it). If you frame it as that you are in a lot of pain, and really need the surgery sooner, it seems like it would not be legal to fire you for that. Have you talked to your HR person yet? I was glad to hear that you were going to do that.

I'm so sorry that your boss has treated you so poorly. That stuff sucks. Work is so important, and controls so much of our lives. I hope this continues to be an opportunity for you to make positive changes in your life. It sounds like so far it has really spurred you to consider your priorities and act on them. I think it's great that you're doing things now to take care of yourself. I think that's a very healthy response to being treated poorly!

p

 

Re: Meltdown Day » pegasus

Posted by LadyBug on October 20, 2006, at 17:41:34

In reply to Re: Meltdown Day, posted by pegasus on October 20, 2006, at 9:05:30

Thank you so much. My HR person came to me this morning and told me she got my FMLA approved!!! This is awesome, now I am protected as far as my job goes and it may work out that I can't come back to this job but an oppurtunity may come up that's better suited for me.
There's hope out there, it's just not in all the right places.
LadyBug


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