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Posted by gardenergirl on August 4, 2006, at 21:16:41
I feel crappy. Depression sucks. Wish I could be better at asking for help and support.
Okay, I guess I'm asking while at the same time sparing you the tantrum or long venting rant.
Pleahbleahmeah.
gg
Posted by gardenergirl on August 4, 2006, at 21:27:34
In reply to Sorry I'm not around much, posted by gardenergirl on August 4, 2006, at 21:16:41
And I meant to add...anyone I owe email or babblemail replies to... I'm sorry. It's me. Not you. Sorry.
Posted by ClearSkies on August 4, 2006, at 22:03:24
In reply to Re: Sorry I'm not around much, posted by gardenergirl on August 4, 2006, at 21:27:34
GG -
You're not allowed to have "sorry" both in the subject line and the body of your message. That's just too much apology. Didn't that get into the FAQs?
I do wish you would whine and vent or rant. It does make me feel better to put those feelings *somewhere* instead of stuffing them back inside me. Or - maybe tearing up a piece of paper (I like that one) or punching pillows? That last one never did much for me. Except make the pillows lumpy.
(((Gardenergirl)))
CS
> And I meant to add...anyone I owe email or babblemail replies to... I'm sorry. It's me. Not you. Sorry.
Posted by canadagirl on August 4, 2006, at 22:40:32
In reply to Sorry I'm not around much, posted by gardenergirl on August 4, 2006, at 21:16:41
>>Wish I could be better at asking for help and support.<<
Learning to be open about our needs, and asking for help and support, is all part of our process. So it's a very good thing that you are reaching out. And here's some support for you --- take care of yourself. Be kind to yourself. Take the time you need to heal. Rome wasn't built in a day; depression is not overcome in a day (or even year, or decade sometimes!). It takes a while.Hang in there.
Posted by Annierose on August 4, 2006, at 23:34:15
In reply to Sorry I'm not around much, posted by gardenergirl on August 4, 2006, at 21:16:41
Sorry you are in the dumps. Does it feel like a little bit of everything, or something in particular? I know you are ending therapy any time now. That would have me in the dumps. And you have school deadlines on top of that. That's a lot of stuff going on.
Remember, there is no score card at babble. No worries, no apologies needed.Yes, I will be around in September - it seems like a long time away, but before we know it, summer will be zapped away and the leaves will be turning glorious colors. I would love to see you.
Let us know what is bothering you, if you know. Sometimes I just feel blue without even knowing why. That's hard too.
((((((((((((GG)))))))))))))
Posted by muffled on August 4, 2006, at 23:35:39
In reply to Re: Sorry I'm not around much, posted by Annierose on August 4, 2006, at 23:34:15
Posted by fallsfall on August 4, 2006, at 23:59:20
In reply to Sorry I'm not around much, posted by gardenergirl on August 4, 2006, at 21:16:41
It takes practice to learn how to ask for help and support. This thread was a good start.
So good for you for posting!
Love and hugs,
Falls
Posted by LadyBug on August 5, 2006, at 0:23:44
In reply to Sorry I'm not around much, posted by gardenergirl on August 4, 2006, at 21:16:41
(((((GG)))))
Depression is a mind killer. That's what my T says to me and it's true. I'm sorry you are in this place. Coming here was a good thing and even though you don't want to vent, it took some strength to come and say, "I'm depressed and I'd sure like someone to help me through this." And we are here for you as you have been for so many of us at one time or another.
I hope the depression is only short term. I can't remember if you still have a T or if that came to an end. I'm sorry if it did. I wish I could send you a hug through the screen and then take away all the sad feelings you have. Why don't you give them to someone for a day......or even just a few hours. Try to get back to where you are feeling better. I'm trying to do that myself. I'm not depressed at the moment, but I'm recovering from 2 surgeries that I've had in the last 2 1/2 weeks. Depression is just around the corner for me as I don't feel myself and it's a struggle. I guess I'm NOT lucky enough to be the person that has surgery and says "Oh, I feel great!!!!" I feel like crap!!!!!!!!! I want my life back. I'm supposed to go back to work on Monday, but I'm thinking I will go see my T on Monday and then go back to work on Tues. My body clock is so off. I stay away till about 3:00 or 4:00 a.m. and then sleep till 11:00 a.m. or later. Sorry to complain. This is suppossed to be about you and you feeling better!!! I wish it to be soon for you!!!
Keep in touch ok. And vent if it helps. We can handle it.
Hugs
LadyBug
Posted by Dinah on August 5, 2006, at 8:33:29
In reply to Sorry I'm not around much, posted by gardenergirl on August 4, 2006, at 21:16:41
(((Gardenergirl)))
I'm glad you asked for support. But don't mind sparing us the tantrum or the rant! We can take it!
Or if it's not a Babbleable rant, I can certainly take it. You know where I'm at.
Dinah
Posted by fallsfall on August 5, 2006, at 10:27:12
In reply to Sorry I'm not around much, posted by gardenergirl on August 4, 2006, at 21:16:41
Maybe you should pretend you are one of us for the day. What would you like us to do?
I know things are hard. Break them down. Take it one day, one word at a time. Things will come together. And all endings are really beginnings.
Just as all problems were solutions at one time.
See how good I'm getting at reframing?
Be well. Go easy on yourself.
love and hugs,
Daisy
Posted by ElaineM on August 5, 2006, at 10:48:33
In reply to Re: Sorry I'm not around much, posted by gardenergirl on August 4, 2006, at 21:27:34
GG: I've noticed you haven't been posting much. Although we've only gone back and forth with each other a few times, I still notice when you're not posting at all.
I'm sorry you feel unable to vent -- that's what the rest of us do! Or, at least what I do here ;-)
Are you unable to talk because of not having the engery (depression and motivation don't really go together), or if you don't even have words for it, or if you don't think you should/can share them? I've noticed that sometimes psych. students feel guilty or ashamed about needing help, and expressing that need. [Sorry, I don't want to generalize, I'm just wondering]Try and rant away on here if you're able. It doesn't have to make much sense, or be some terse analysis or anything. Sometimes it's easier just to start with what physical feelings your depression is causing you -- often while you're doing that, other stuff just comes tumbling out too. It makes me sad to think that you, who are often here to help others, and protect the tone of content here, can't get some of that help back from us when you need it.
(((gardenergirl)))
take care, ELaine
Posted by antigua on August 5, 2006, at 13:30:20
In reply to Sorry I'm not around much, posted by gardenergirl on August 4, 2006, at 21:16:41
I'm truly sorry you are having such a bad time. I've missed you and was a bit worried about you. Share with us if you can, because you know we love you and are here for you, and we have such WISDOM to share (well maybe a heck of lot of opinions!)
How's the garden? Or is it too hot? How about some lemonade?
antigua
Posted by susan47 on August 5, 2006, at 21:20:26
In reply to Re: Sorry I'm not around much, posted by gardenergirl on August 4, 2006, at 21:27:34
If I could spare you some of my mania, if I could spare any of this good feeling, I would but I can't and I wish I could pass you some of this when I know it would make you feel better.
But my own feelings are see-saw-ish these days, more down than up, and here's a virtual hug, I hope you get better. Maybe you just need to loosen up, get really emotional, and start posting like heck. Because that always works for me. When I feel like the walking dead.
Posted by littleone on August 5, 2006, at 23:14:38
In reply to Sorry I'm not around much, posted by gardenergirl on August 4, 2006, at 21:16:41
> Pleahbleahmeah.
Okay, firstly, I have no idea how to say that or what it means ;)
It's awful to be in that downward spiral. I wish babble could drag you up and start your momentum upward again.
Did you say a while back that you were talking about termination with your T? Your current depression isn't linked to that at all is it?
I hope you can find some joy in your garden. It was so pretty in your photos. And make sure you keep getting out and about, even if you don't want to. That's vital to start your upward momentum.
Sending you warm wishes.
Posted by shrinking violet on August 6, 2006, at 17:49:15
In reply to Re: Sorry I'm not around much, posted by canadagirl on August 4, 2006, at 22:40:32
Posted by Jost on August 7, 2006, at 12:31:13
In reply to Sorry I'm not around much, posted by gardenergirl on August 4, 2006, at 21:16:41
GG, sorry to hear that your summer isn't going well.
I don't need to be protected from the tantrum (which I'm sure it's not, even if it feels as if it is)-- and if you give us a little idea of what type of thing you're going through, maybe we could be of some help.
Maybe not, I guess-- but then maybe you could tell us what is helpful. Or you could just talk, and we could listen, but not try to be so "helpful," if helpfulness isn't helpful.
Jost
Posted by Sobriquet Style on August 7, 2006, at 14:38:00
In reply to Sorry I'm not around much, posted by gardenergirl on August 4, 2006, at 21:16:41
You provide much comfort to people here, that I for one, am extreamly grateful and appreciative to read about the psychological intelligence that comes from a highly respected, gifted individual.
:-)
~
Posted by gardenergirl on August 7, 2006, at 23:06:28
In reply to Sorry I'm not around much, posted by gardenergirl on August 4, 2006, at 21:16:41
Thanks everyone. Your support has meant so much. Really and truly. I'm reading. I'll reply. I'm getting a bit better.
Tantrum/rant got expressed a bit in marriage counseling so the urge is diminished, but I'll post what's been upsetting me recently.
Thanks again. I feel warm fuzzies when I read your words.
gg
Posted by All Done on August 8, 2006, at 4:46:39
In reply to I'm reading these, posted by gardenergirl on August 7, 2006, at 23:06:28
> Thanks everyone. Your support has meant so much. Really and truly. I'm reading. I'll reply. I'm getting a bit better.
>
> Tantrum/rant got expressed a bit in marriage counseling so the urge is diminished, but I'll post what's been upsetting me recently.
>
> Thanks again. I feel warm fuzzies when I read your words.
>
> gg(((((gg))))),
I'm glad you found a place to discuss what's upsetting you. I hope you can continue to talk about it with your husband, if you need to.
Lots of love,
Laurie
Posted by Jost on August 8, 2006, at 13:26:32
In reply to I'm reading these, posted by gardenergirl on August 7, 2006, at 23:06:28
I'm glad you're feeling a little better, and hope you'll feel even better soon.
Your presence has been missed, gg.
Jost
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