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why

Posted by sunnydays on July 29, 2006, at 22:02:58

is life so hard? I'm still coming to terms with the fact that so many traumatic things happened to me. And it's hard. And it hurts. Sorry, just needed to whine a little.

sunnydays

 

Dunno, but... » sunnydays

Posted by Racer on July 30, 2006, at 0:35:12

In reply to why, posted by sunnydays on July 29, 2006, at 22:02:58

I'm in the same boat.

My T laughed at me when I said that I really needed to be able to accept that these things happened: said Kubler-Ross's stages of grief applied, and that I had to go through the Denial, Anger, Bargaining, and Depression before I could get to Acceptance. I'm not sure I entirely agree, but she's right much more often than not, so I'm trying to explore that. She's probably right.

Right now, I'm stuck in Denial, though, on a lot of it, because I can't quite get to Anger. I can kinda feel it, but the same trauma that's given me a week's worth of nightmares this week also capped my budding acquaintance with anger. I know it's there, but I am too afraid to let any of it out.

Good luck, and feel free to post about it here, or babblemail me, or just vent.

Heck, if you go back through the archives, you'll find long periods when I did nothing except whine. Oh, not quite true -- there were a lot of "yes, but's" in there, too...

People were pretty tolerant of me, and I'm still here, which I think bodes pretty well for you...

 

Re: why » sunnydays

Posted by Daisym on July 31, 2006, at 0:32:13

In reply to why, posted by sunnydays on July 29, 2006, at 22:02:58

I wish I knew. I wish I could tell you when it all gets easier too. But it *is* so hard to keep living and yet keep working towards acceptance.

There is a country song that says, "life isn't always beautiful, but it is a beautiful life." I heard it the other day and turned that phrase over and over again, wondering it it was true. I finally decided that for me, right now, it isn't true. But there is potential for it to be true.

I hit this desperate place where I need to stop being ME for a little while, so I'm running away from home. Just for a long weekend but hopefully none of the stress will follow me. Can you take a break? Give yourself a chance to recharge your batteries? Just be sure to take your lap top so you can keep in touch too.

And totally not whining. Just telling your truth. My therapist says this is important. And he is hardly ever wrong...

((((Sunny))))

 

Re: why » Daisym

Posted by Racer on July 31, 2006, at 20:03:51

In reply to Re: why » sunnydays, posted by Daisym on July 31, 2006, at 0:32:13

>
> There is a country song that says, "life isn't always beautiful, but it is a beautiful life." I heard it the other day and turned that phrase over and over again, wondering it it was true.


That reminds me of something else:

There is no heroic poem in the world but is at bottom a biography, the life of a man; also, it may be said there is no life of a man, faithfully recorded, but is a heroic poem of its sort, rhymed or unrhymed.
Thomas Carlyle in essay on Sir Walter Scott

To me, that says that it's not the moment that is happy or un, but the totality of one's life. That's kinda what I hold on to, at times -- although it's very easy to fall into the pit of "my entire life [emulates a Hoover] and always will -- so I'm a miserable loser now, and always will be..."

Hope that's helpful -- and not just, you know, a non-sequitor...

 

Re: why racer and daisy

Posted by sunnydays on July 31, 2006, at 20:15:51

In reply to Re: why » Daisym, posted by Racer on July 31, 2006, at 20:03:51

Hi,
Thanks for your replies. I can't really respond right right now, but I really appreciate you thinking of me. I'm really drained right now because I had a very intense session with my T this afternoon. It's the first time I cried. And we talked about some things that are really hard for me. I'm scared right now that he's mad at me and that he doesn't like me, but I keep trying to remind myself that I'm wrong. It just seems like everything I think and feel is wrong or 'distorted' these days. Sorry for the whining. Thanks for listening.

sunnydays

 

Re: why » Racer

Posted by daisym on July 31, 2006, at 20:58:53

In reply to Re: why » Daisym, posted by Racer on July 31, 2006, at 20:03:51

My therapist loves theator and great literature and his always quoting something, usually Shakespeare. He likes to talk about therapy as the Hero's journey -- and he always makes it work somehow. Like the battles you have to wage, the help you find a long the way, the internal courage and fortitude, etc. So I think the passage is very fitting here.


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