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Posted by Dinah on June 24, 2006, at 9:52:49
He said I wasn't lazy.
I think I must conclude that at this point in my life I am lazy.
It wasn't always that way. At one point I was not lazy, but time and increasing struggles have caused me to give up trying quite a bit. And at this point my lack of trying amounts to laziness.
Posted by ElaineM on June 24, 2006, at 10:16:19
In reply to My therapist said something kind but incorrect, posted by Dinah on June 24, 2006, at 9:52:49
Dinah, I don't know much about your life-, or therapy-story, but I think your T probably knew what he was saying, and was probably accurate.
Though they may seem similar, I think there is a huge difference between Laziness and Resignation. To me, the difference is that one is often not justified by circumstances and one is. From the one sentence you said about struggling through time and difficulties, it sounds like you haven't had the opportunity to be lazy in your life.
So even though I don't think you are, I believe it's okay for a person to be lazy for awhile if they wanted - I think it's how we recooperate.
EL
Posted by antigua on June 24, 2006, at 10:27:12
In reply to My therapist said something kind but incorrect, posted by Dinah on June 24, 2006, at 9:52:49
Sorry, I agree with your T. I don't think you're lazy at all. I think that maybe there is so much going on inside your head that actually MOVING your body might be an extra effort, much less working on projects!!
But, then again, if I had to admit you were lazy, well than.... what would I be? I'm so lazy that I've been trying to sort through the same pile of old clothes for months now. There they sit, in the middle of the floor, and all it would really take would be about an hour to decide what to do with them.
so, sorry, you're not lazy...
best,
antigua
Posted by Poet on June 24, 2006, at 11:23:02
In reply to My therapist said something kind but incorrect, posted by Dinah on June 24, 2006, at 9:52:49
Hi Dinah,
Nope, I don't think you're lazy, either. Anyone who is trying as hard as you are to keep up at work with all that's going on cannot be called lazy.
Poet
Posted by fallsfall on June 24, 2006, at 13:07:07
In reply to My therapist said something kind but incorrect, posted by Dinah on June 24, 2006, at 9:52:49
"lazy" suggests that there is no reason for not getting things done. I think you have plenty of reasons. Some of which you understand, but I think that you have a lot of reasons that aren't clear to you yet - unconscious reasons.
I don't think you are lazy. I think you are conflicted about doing things.
Posted by muffled on June 24, 2006, at 17:10:02
In reply to My therapist said something kind but incorrect, posted by Dinah on June 24, 2006, at 9:52:49
She said I wasn't lazy.
I think I must conclude that at this point in my life I am lazy.
It wasn't always that way. At one point I was not lazy, but time and increasing struggles have caused me to give up trying quite a bit. And at this point my lack of trying amounts to laziness.
Muffled
Posted by Jost on June 24, 2006, at 21:07:56
In reply to Re: My therapist said something kind but incorrect » Dinah, posted by muffled on June 24, 2006, at 17:10:02
How do you define laziness?
I don't get much done, and I don't work that many hours, and generally have considered myself lazy, or undisciplined, or agitated and restless and searching for diversions from my thoughts. Which, since I often haven't found productive or work-related diversions, makes me lazy, I guess.
When I was in graduate school, I never finished all the work for classes; and I never got more than four hours a day of work, on a continuous basis.
But also I worked a lot more when I didn't have a lot of shoulder pain, so I'm not sure how much that controls my working vs. sitting around. So I can't quite figure out how I'd be if it weren't for that.
Also, I don't go to the gym, which I used to do.
Jost
Posted by Dinah on June 24, 2006, at 21:08:17
In reply to Re: My therapist said something kind but incorrect » Dinah, posted by muffled on June 24, 2006, at 17:10:02
I know that what I would tell others is not what I tell myself.
But I *know* I could do so much better, be who I wish to be so much better.
I know I could if I just tried hard enough.
And I can't quite figure out why it is that I don't try hard enough. I know I'm not depressed. I suppose, as Falls said, that I am conflicted. But that doesn't make me not lazy.
I must resolve to try harder, I must.
I can't respect myself while I am falling so short of the mark.
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