Psycho-Babble Psychology Thread 570199

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Tried to talk to my T

Posted by ClearSkies on October 21, 2005, at 21:44:50

About the issues I have with her about her physical health, her retirement, and insurance issues (leading into bookeeping in general). She tried very hard to get me off her as a subject of discussion and was busy praising my sobriety, my outreach towards others in the outpatient programme being disappointing to me, and really reasonable to her. A whole rah-rah for ClearSkies going on there.
The whole time which she was clearly physically uncomfortable; couldn't sit still for long, looked pained, got up and hobbled around to lean on the back of a chair, all the while encouraging me to keep talking. I told her that I couldn't help but notice that she seemed to be in some distress, and did she want to cut our session short?
"Yes," she said, "you're quite sensitive to that," and admited to me that she was experiencing some breakthough depression and is having trouble sleeping, and then had trouble concentrating on what her clients were saying. I suggested that she call it a day and cancel the rest of her appointments so she could go lie down.
She took me up on the suggestion, and that was it.

So we didn't address my issues, but it certainly got my issues with *her* out in the open. Like, her discomfort and pain seem to be getting in the way of our therapy progress with me.

I see her next week and we'll see what happens then. In the meantime, I contacted my favourite T who retired her practice, and she gave me the names and numbers of 3 threapists with similar styles to herself, which I only came to appreciate in retrospect. I'll pursue getting to know these other and perhaps then feel like I at least have a choice for my future therapy.

ClearSkies

 

Re: Tried to talk to my T » ClearSkies

Posted by gardenergirl on October 21, 2005, at 23:58:52

In reply to Tried to talk to my T, posted by ClearSkies on October 21, 2005, at 21:44:50

Well shoot. I'm sorry that you were not able to engage her in a discussion about what's on your mind. And I can see why it is. Phooey.

I'm glad you called your ex-T and that you are pursuing choices. I think that's a very empowering strategy.

(shakes p*m p*ms and says Rah!) ;)

gg

 

Re: Tried to talk to my T » ClearSkies

Posted by wildcard on October 22, 2005, at 1:40:09

In reply to Tried to talk to my T, posted by ClearSkies on October 21, 2005, at 21:44:50

>You are so very caring. I think it's great the way you handled the situation though! Showed a lot of character. I am glad you have already called other T's...you are one of a kind CS, you truly are. ; )

 

Re: Tried to talk to my T » ClearSkies

Posted by Annierose on October 22, 2005, at 7:23:02

In reply to Tried to talk to my T, posted by ClearSkies on October 21, 2005, at 21:44:50

I certainly didn't expect her to say "yes". Wow! That threw me for a loop and I wasn't even there. That was extremely generous of you.

It doesn't seem fair. But you took action, got more referrals, what more can you do? This T has helped you so far, so it isn't a total wash out. Frustrating, yes. Also sounds like (and again, I'm not in the room with you) she didn't want to address your feelings about her. Geeze, my therapist thrives on those sessions.

Hey - stay safe! Are you evacuating? Thinking of you,

Annie

 

Re: Tried to talk to my T » Annierose

Posted by ClearSkies on October 22, 2005, at 7:29:51

In reply to Re: Tried to talk to my T » ClearSkies, posted by Annierose on October 22, 2005, at 7:23:02

>
> Hey - stay safe! Are you evacuating? Thinking of you,
>
> Annie

We're waiting for Monday at this point. So far it looks like the storm will cross Florida south of us, which will mean lots of rain and wind. We've got our shutters at the ready and a cat carrier open to cram Psycho into if necessary!
I'll keep everyone updated. Thanks, Annie.

 

Re: Tried to talk to my T » ClearSkies

Posted by Dinah on October 22, 2005, at 11:05:59

In reply to Tried to talk to my T, posted by ClearSkies on October 21, 2005, at 21:44:50

Chuckle.

When you left, who paid whom?

I'm sorry, I am not really finding this situation funny except that it reminded me of a couple of phone calls and one session with my therapist before my distress became great enough to preempt his for a while. And I really did feel like I was paying his bill as just another part of taking care of him, since the focus was on him. It was just that one session, thank heavens. And seeing him was therapeutic. Heck, maybe even feeling like I was coping better than he was had its therapeutic side.

But clearly you're in a better place than she is right now, and it's hard to conduct therapy from that vantage point.

And then you increased how much I admire you even more by realizing the dysfunction in this and asking for referrals. I think that's wonderful.

Kudos, many kudos, Clearskies.

I hope that blasted hurricane misses you, weakens substantially, and makes an even bigger turn than they predict and floats harmlessly out to sea.

"Wilma"!!! Can you believe it? Already up the W's. And they're saying we're only partway through the twenty year hurricane cycle. Hopefully we're at the peak.

 

Re: Tried to talk to my T » ClearSkies

Posted by Racer on October 22, 2005, at 13:04:18

In reply to Tried to talk to my T, posted by ClearSkies on October 21, 2005, at 21:44:50

Good for you! Do you feel better, more in control and balanced, for being proactive about investigating other therapists before it was necessary? I would think that doing that would help.

As for Wilma, I always liked Betty better...

(Stay warm and dry, K?)

 

Re: Tried to talk to my T » ClearSkies

Posted by fairywings on October 22, 2005, at 14:25:01

In reply to Tried to talk to my T, posted by ClearSkies on October 21, 2005, at 21:44:50

You're really perceptive and sensitive to others. It's good that you got those concerns out in the open since they'd been weighing on your mind, and kind of you to offer to cut the session short since she wasn't feeling well.
I'm glad you're able to see past this relationship and look out for yourself enough to look for a new T. I know how hard that is, good luck with that. Hope you find someone wonderful.
fw

 

Re: Tried to talk to my T » ClearSkies

Posted by rainbowbrite on October 22, 2005, at 16:59:58

In reply to Tried to talk to my T, posted by ClearSkies on October 21, 2005, at 21:44:50

Thats so frustrating, but good for you for getting it out!

In the week she has to think about it Im sure she will have some feedback next time. I find some people really need to absord information before they can deal with it.

your cat's name is psycho? Cute!

 

Re: Tried to talk to my T » ClearSkies

Posted by Poet on October 22, 2005, at 17:46:37

In reply to Re: Tried to talk to my T » Annierose, posted by ClearSkies on October 22, 2005, at 7:29:51

Hi Clearskies,

Calling your ex T for referals shows clear thinking. Ending your last session with your current T shows consideration and more clear thinking.

I hope the skies stay as clear as your thinking and you, hubby and Psycho don't have to run from Wilma.

Poet

 

Re: Tried to talk to my T » ClearSkies

Posted by Damos on October 23, 2005, at 21:00:38

In reply to Tried to talk to my T, posted by ClearSkies on October 21, 2005, at 21:44:50

Hi CS,

Glad you managed to talk to her, sorry it wasn't more productive though. Have to admit to being shocked by her saying "Yes". But I guess in a way at least she was honest.

Proud of you for addressing it and for taking the initiative to find out about other possible ts.

(((((ClearSkies)))))

 

Here I go again

Posted by ClearSkies on October 25, 2005, at 12:17:55

In reply to Tried to talk to my T, posted by ClearSkies on October 21, 2005, at 21:44:50

I have an appointment to meet with another therapist next Tuesday. She was recommended by my first T, who retired her practice. Gaaah, I don't like having to tell my story all over again. Can't I hand her a resume or something?

Objective: To achieve a semblance of a normal life

Education: 43 years of on the job training, some college, School of Tough Knocks

Experience: 1962 - 1983 born and raised in a dysfunctional family. Participated in multiple relocation efforts. Navigated transfer of education to six different schools in various geographical locations. Coordinated Christmas celebrations with siblings after parents' divorce. Acted as surrogate spouse to alcoholic father until my own marriage.

1983 - 1996 Married to abusive husband; no children, 2 cats. Participated in multiple relocation efforts. Salvaged sanity after deportation, loss of several homes, and vast betrayals. Facilitated separation and divorce with no loss of life.

1996 - present. Established flourishing marriage and settled in Florida. Presented acting as consultant to major pharmaceutical corporations in daily medication usage.

 

Re: Here I go again » ClearSkies

Posted by fallsfall on October 25, 2005, at 19:59:34

In reply to Here I go again, posted by ClearSkies on October 25, 2005, at 12:17:55

I think you should bring it!

 

Re: Here I go again » ClearSkies

Posted by Dinah on October 25, 2005, at 20:56:05

In reply to Here I go again, posted by ClearSkies on October 25, 2005, at 12:17:55

:)

I'm proud of you!!

But I also know what you mean. :( You'd think you could learn something about a therapist at first meeting, but they seem to ask about the same things. I thought once or twice about typing up the answers, but I'm afraid that might tell them more about me than I want them to know.

 

Re: Here I go again » ClearSkies

Posted by daisym on October 25, 2005, at 23:52:14

In reply to Here I go again, posted by ClearSkies on October 25, 2005, at 12:17:55

Scary how close your resume (sans divorce) could be mine...

I hope you like the new gal.
Hugs,
Daisy

 

Re: Here I go again » ClearSkies

Posted by fairywings on October 26, 2005, at 15:06:00

In reply to Here I go again, posted by ClearSkies on October 25, 2005, at 12:17:55

I like that idea, shows your creativity. Glad you have a flourishing marriage, sorry you're supporting the major pharmaceutical cos!
fw

 

Re: Here I go again » ClearSkies

Posted by Poet on October 31, 2005, at 17:57:54

In reply to Here I go again, posted by ClearSkies on October 25, 2005, at 12:17:55

Hi ClearSkies,

You can use me as a reference.

Poet


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