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Depression isn't something that you can make

Posted by crazy teresa on October 21, 2005, at 21:19:03

go away no matter what you do. I know this. I've lived this. I'm better with Effexor (at least depression wise).

So why am I such a mess while I'm at home and not at work? It can't be depression, since this feeling leaves me as soon as I go to work. I love my husband and kids, but I can hardly stand it when they're here, especially my husband.

I have NO motivation while I'm at home to do anything productive. And it bothers me a little, but not enough to actually do anything about it. At work, I'm always doing something, even when they're nothing to do; I create work for myself! I dread going home at the end of the day.

What in the world do you think is wrong with me?

 

Re: Depression isn't something that you can make

Posted by Angela2 on October 21, 2005, at 23:13:48

In reply to Depression isn't something that you can make, posted by crazy teresa on October 21, 2005, at 21:19:03

Sometimes when people become too comfortable around the people they love, they really let loose on their emotions be it positive or negative, becuase they know they'll be loved no matter what they do. Is there something bothereing you that mamkes you upset to be around them?

 

Re: Depression isn't something that you can make

Posted by gardenergirl on October 21, 2005, at 23:55:39

In reply to Re: Depression isn't something that you can make, posted by Angela2 on October 21, 2005, at 23:13:48

Do you feel more valued or valuable at work than at home? Just a thought.

gg

 

Re: Depression isn't something that you can make » crazy teresa

Posted by Sonya on October 22, 2005, at 4:06:17

In reply to Depression isn't something that you can make, posted by crazy teresa on October 21, 2005, at 21:19:03

I've found when I'm depressed that it's also worse at home than at work. My work environment is structured and I get engrossed / distracted in what I'm doing. At home, there's little or no structure and when I'm depressed I can't get motivated to structure myself. And at home I feel more guilt about the impact of my behavior on my family which stresses me more which further depresses me which increases the guilt (see the cycle?).

Sonya

 

Re: Depression isn't something that you can make

Posted by fairywings on October 22, 2005, at 14:33:27

In reply to Re: Depression isn't something that you can make » crazy teresa, posted by Sonya on October 22, 2005, at 4:06:17

Hi crazyt,

I don't know how it is for you at home, but i have trouble with chaos, noise, being overwhelming by what needs to be done even if it's not that much, and ppl just sitting around. i want to be alone and not have to deal with the stuff that goes on, or the messes ppl make when they're home. i want quiet. i feel overwhelmed sometimes just with them there, even though i love them all. i want them around, but not TOO much, i want to talk to them, but not too much, i want to know there here, but not too much. i'm conflicted a lot.

when i worked the environment was bustling and it energized me, and like you said, it was structured and easy to get engrossed it the things to do.

i hope the depression lifts so you can enjoy your family again. it's so hard to feel that way.
fw

 

Re: Depression isn't something that you can make

Posted by rainbowbrite on October 22, 2005, at 16:52:21

In reply to Depression isn't something that you can make, posted by crazy teresa on October 21, 2005, at 21:19:03

Is your husband/kids excessively needy of you? Sometimes that can get on a person nerves. If people are always demanding from you it can take a toll on your mood.

 

Re: Depression isn't something that you can make

Posted by Shame on October 24, 2005, at 14:15:03

In reply to Depression isn't something that you can make, posted by crazy teresa on October 21, 2005, at 21:19:03


I have made posts along similar lines. It took a long time to put my finger on what was happening. In my situation it was a couple of things.

First off, every day at work was something different. Different problems. Something else to solve and handle. Home? Well... Pretty much the same rut there every day. Clean. Care for others. Eat. TV. Sleep. One day ran into the other. At home it never matters what day of the week it is, it's all the same.

I also found it very hard to come home to a wife that had absolutely no grasp on what was wrong with me. You can give them books, clinical definitions, and explain it until you have no energy left, but nothing is ever good enough. She found my explanations disturbing most of the time, so instead of empathy, I got worry from her. Her worry brought me guilt.

That’s hard to come home to.


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