Psycho-Babble Psychology Thread 568612

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It was worth it.

Posted by orchid on October 18, 2005, at 17:26:31

I am quite nostalgic today.

Looking back at the years, moving here, my job here, the loneliness, my marriage, therapy, my struggles and pains.

I have closed down many of the things here - sold the car I have driven, closed the apartment, disposed of all the furnitures and goods. Gave the resignation in my job.

Emotionally I am much more stable these days. All the pain and sufferings are mostly gone. Once in a while I remember my first T, but mostly just grateful feelings, and no suffering. He set right most of the fundas in my life. And besides most of the pain was really unwarranted - I suffered unnecessarily. But anyway, it is all resolved now. My second T helped me a great deal with my emotional issues and helped me identify issues I didn't know existed with my father. I almost feel like my first T laid the foundation, and the second T helped me build on it.

Therapy was really worth it. Irrespective of all the down sides to it, and the pain, it really helped me gain so much of peace.

Ever since I remembered, I always used to feel so restless, and anxious, and used to be jealous, and selfish, and competetive and always had a very low self image. Now I am much much more peaceful with myself. There is still long ways to go, but atleast I am more peaceful.

I am doing quite well wiht my marriage. There is something that happens when you stay with a person for a few years. There is a liking that develops and you kind of start blending into one. Thanks to therapy, I have started liking my hsuband more and more and started being very adjusting with him. Before I used to fight for everything. Now we hardly fight. Maybe once in a month or two. And it is becoming less and less as the days go. And we end up making up within a few minutes.

I wouldn't have gotten all this mental stability without therapy. And it helped me realize other's emotions and my own.

I have even started looking forward to my new life back home, without my career, with all the time in the world to spend peacefully and with family - time which I never had in the past 10 years.

 

I am a little scared - wish me luck !!

Posted by orchid on October 18, 2005, at 19:50:27

In reply to It was worth it., posted by orchid on October 18, 2005, at 17:26:31

It is going to be all new territory hereafter. And I am quite scared.

Can someone give me a hug and wish me good luck?

 

Re: It was worth it. orchid

Posted by rainbowbrite on October 18, 2005, at 21:02:10

In reply to It was worth it., posted by orchid on October 18, 2005, at 17:26:31

(((Orchid)))

I hope it goes well! I will be thinking of you.

Take care

 

(((Orchid)))

Posted by Dinah on October 18, 2005, at 21:10:36

In reply to I am a little scared - wish me luck !!, posted by orchid on October 18, 2005, at 19:50:27

Good luck.

I'm glad you've found peace, and a life that works for you.

 

Re: It was worth it. orchid

Posted by gardenergirl on October 18, 2005, at 23:13:16

In reply to It was worth it., posted by orchid on October 18, 2005, at 17:26:31

Thanks for sharing your perspective. It's so nice to hear of successes.

I'm happy for you.

gg

 

(((Orchid))) orchid

Posted by JenStar on October 18, 2005, at 23:58:50

In reply to I am a little scared - wish me luck !!, posted by orchid on October 18, 2005, at 19:50:27

hi Orchid,
you're going to be just fine! :) Think about all the positive things you mentioned -- the chance to focus on phsyical & mental health at the spa, taking a break from work, reconnecting with family. There are lots of good things coming up for you. It will be difficult to leave and go to another country, but I have no doubt that you'll do great after you give yourself time to settle in and get used to it all again.

Please keep babbling and tell us what you're up to! It's so nice to have you here. :)

JenStar

 

Re: I am a little scared - wish me luck !!

Posted by B2chica on October 19, 2005, at 11:43:30

In reply to I am a little scared - wish me luck !!, posted by orchid on October 18, 2005, at 19:50:27

You bet i will!! ((((((((((((((((((((((((orchid))))))))))))))))))))))))))
i think it's exciting. i wish the very best for you.
please take care of yourself, sounds like this decision was right. but do remember you can always come back. you'll never be trapped, not with your work as a back up. your ex boss sounds like a winner.
take great care and write here when you can.
here's sending you good vibes >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

b2c.

 

Thanks all :-)

Posted by orchid on October 19, 2005, at 16:55:28

In reply to Re: I am a little scared - wish me luck !!, posted by B2chica on October 19, 2005, at 11:43:30

Thanks everyone for the cheers and the hugs !!!

Today is a happy day. Feeling quite good about myself and the decisions. Even looking forward to being jobless and loafing around. :-) I have never been completely free in my life. IT must really be a good experience.

 

Re: It was worth it. orchid

Posted by Tamar on October 19, 2005, at 19:09:51

In reply to It was worth it., posted by orchid on October 18, 2005, at 17:26:31

(((((Orchid)))))

It's a bit strange leaving everything and moving away, even if you're familiar with the place you're moving to.

I hope everything goes very well for you and that you will be very happy.

Good luck!

Tamar


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