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OK

Posted by Angela2 on October 8, 2005, at 21:25:33

I am so lonely right now I don't know what to do. I wish I had a boyfriend to tell me how much he loves me and hold me. Does having a t help with loneliness? My t doesn't. But I remember when I was younger I had a male t and I wasn't as lonely I don't think. He was a warm and fuzzy type of person. My current t is a woman and she does not believe in fluff talk. :-(

I feel so empty. I feel so dead. I feel so meaningless. I'm gonna go crawl in my bed and pretend someone is hugging me now cuz that's how pathetic I am.

 

Re: OK

Posted by Angela2 on October 8, 2005, at 21:29:22

In reply to OK, posted by Angela2 on October 8, 2005, at 21:25:33

Does anybody have any suggestions on what to do when your lonely and you have no friends? thanks.

 

Re: OK » Angela2

Posted by alexandra_k on October 8, 2005, at 21:41:21

In reply to Re: OK, posted by Angela2 on October 8, 2005, at 21:29:22

thats not pathetic.
sounds rather a lot...
like me.

i'm not really sure what to suggest...

i just think about my babble friends
and about how there are people in the world who care about me

and that helps.

but as for more...
i dunno...

you started a thread over on social about how to meet more people irl eh?

how is that going?
clubs
groups
something?
anything?

i'm sorry you feel lonely :-(
i'm here...
but i know it isn't the same.

 

Re: OK » alexandra_k

Posted by Angela2 on October 8, 2005, at 22:16:18

In reply to Re: OK » Angela2, posted by alexandra_k on October 8, 2005, at 21:41:21

The weird thing with me and babble I've realized, is that sometimes I'm afraid that if I post something, people will just tell me to shut up or that I'm stupid or be offended or something. Does that happen to you? I'm gonna have to work on that. I haven't had time to join anything yet. But I am in an aerobics class. I skipped it last frieday because I just got out of work and I dind't feel like doing anything I guess. But I really do like the exercise. Maybe I should start writing poetry, lol. Maybe then I can get out all my angsty demons. Thanks for posting alexandra. Weekends are the worst for me.
Ang2

 

Re: OK

Posted by rubenstein on October 8, 2005, at 22:32:25

In reply to OK, posted by Angela2 on October 8, 2005, at 21:25:33

> SOmetimes I hug a really soft stuffed animal. Some of the new ones are so soft and great. But it isn't a person, and it isn't the same....but sometimes it helps
I understand how you feel
its hard isn't it
rach


I am so lonely right now I don't know what to do. I wish I had a boyfriend to tell me how much he loves me and hold me. Does having a t help with loneliness? My t doesn't. But I remember when I was younger I had a male t and I wasn't as lonely I don't think. He was a warm and fuzzy type of person. My current t is a woman and she does not believe in fluff talk. :-(
>
> I feel so empty. I feel so dead. I feel so meaningless. I'm gonna go crawl in my bed and pretend someone is hugging me now cuz that's how pathetic I am.

 

Re: OK » Angela2

Posted by alexandra_k on October 8, 2005, at 23:07:03

In reply to Re: OK » alexandra_k, posted by Angela2 on October 8, 2005, at 22:16:18

> The weird thing with me and babble I've realized, is that sometimes I'm afraid that if I post something, people will just tell me to shut up or that I'm stupid or be offended or something. Does that happen to you?

yeah. sometimes. sometimes when something is really eating at me. or when there is something that i am particularly sensitive about. i don't get it anywhere near as bad as i used to. have gotten better with time, i guess. but i find that much much worse irl. i get afraid to walk up to a group of people because i think they will turn around and say 'who said you were welcome here?' or something like that. even when i'm standing in a group i get that. that that is what they are thinking even if nobody says it. and i pretty much stay away from people and uncomfortable social situations because i think i'd just die (or worse - create a scene, cry or something) if they actually said anything aloud.

funnily enough...

those are the sorts of auditory hallucinations that i get on speed too. hearing people say stuff about me. right to my face. i have learned to say 'i know its just the drug its just the drug it will pass i am okay' and i can get through it okay. but that only works when i'm actually on speed lol.

but yeah i have gotten a lot better with babble. and i am a little bit better irl than i used to be so maybe some of that is generalising back. and even when people do go off at you a bit on babble (as they do from time to time - though fairly rarely thank god) then other posters are really very quick to jump in and say something to help you realise that everybody can see that one person is going off and nobody can really figure out why. and so... it is a lot more manageable and doesn't really hurt too much because you can kind of put it down to other peoples issues (so long as you were civil). and not getting responses too... i used to be really afraid of that. and would take it really personally. but i've learned... not to. because it really isn't personal.

but all that takes time...
it does get better.

> I am in an aerobics class.

cool :-)
maybe you can find some people there to go get ice cream or something with afterwards?!

i'd like to do aerobics, but can't do impact exercise...


weekends are worst for me too...
i think it is because...
there is this conception that everybody 'should' look foward to them
and use them as a time to catch up with all their friends
and go out with all their friends
and go have fun with all their friends
and of course it is simply no fun at all
when one doesn't have any.
:-(

and i have been there.

and in some respects... i still am.

maybe... you need something specifically to do on the weekends? there have gotta be a couple things you could do...

something on friday night
and saturday maybe?

in a way it doesn't matter what it is...
its just about meeting people and being able to talk to them about something...

if you have things like that planned for the weekends then maybe you'll start looking foward to them more.

 

Re: OK » Angela2

Posted by Tamar on October 9, 2005, at 16:25:05

In reply to Re: OK » alexandra_k, posted by Angela2 on October 8, 2005, at 22:16:18

(((((Angela)))))

I’m sorry you’re feeling so lonely. It’s a horrible feeling. And sometimes people really do need the fuzzy talk. But many therapists don’t tend to offer comfort; they try to help us look at ways of finding comfort with other people. Sometimes I wish therapy were more comforting; after all, we need to feel a little bit comfortable just to be able to talk about looking for comfort. Have you talked to your therapist about this stuff?

> The weird thing with me and babble I've realized, is that sometimes I'm afraid that if I post something, people will just tell me to shut up or that I'm stupid or be offended or something. Does that happen to you? I'm gonna have to work on that.

Aww… I hope no one has ever done this to you at Babble… You’re definitely not stupid. And you shouldn’t shut up… we always want to hear how you’re doing.

Tamar

 

Thank you

Posted by Angela2 on October 9, 2005, at 16:40:59

In reply to Re: OK » Angela2, posted by Tamar on October 9, 2005, at 16:25:05

I am feeling a little better today.

 

((((Angela2))) » Angela2

Posted by gardenergirl on October 9, 2005, at 22:27:09

In reply to Thank you, posted by Angela2 on October 9, 2005, at 16:40:59

Loneliness bites!

I'm sorry you are feeling lonely. Wish I could give you a hug in person.

gg

 

Re: OK » Angela2

Posted by orchid on October 10, 2005, at 17:22:07

In reply to OK, posted by Angela2 on October 8, 2005, at 21:25:33

Write more here.

I am sorry your T isn't very warm with you. It is both good in a way and bad in a way. Good in that it doesn't make you dependant on them. Bad in that it probably doesn't help you that much either.

Having a boyfriend is a good option to not feel lonely atleat for the time being. But in the end, you will have to develop other ways of socializing and not depend solely on the boyfriend. Why don't you go on few dates? Or if you have family ties, call them up and talk to them? That might help relieve some loneliness.

Write here as much as you want.

 

Thanks everyone

Posted by Angela2 on October 11, 2005, at 21:22:07

In reply to Re: OK » Angela2, posted by orchid on October 10, 2005, at 17:22:07

Thank you everyone for your suggestions and thoughts. I really appreciate hearing what you've got to say. It comes and it goes. Usually it's horrible on the weekend. (((((everyone)))))

 

Re: Thanks everyone

Posted by rainbowbrite on October 12, 2005, at 19:44:13

In reply to Thanks everyone, posted by Angela2 on October 11, 2005, at 21:22:07

lol I totally read your post wrong. I thought you were missing your appointment because of your teeth. I hope you didnt lose too much therapy talking about it. I say do it sooner than later becasue they can get painful the longer they stay put. It really isnt that bad at all. Or maybe Im strange. or maybe it was too long ago to remember. :-)

 

confusion

Posted by rainbowbrite on October 13, 2005, at 7:15:31

In reply to Re: Thanks everyone, posted by rainbowbrite on October 12, 2005, at 19:44:13

see post below. Just so I dont confuse anyone :-) this reply is in the wrong place. Im just terribly confused about this, this morning. ;-)


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