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Posted by rabidreader on September 17, 2005, at 14:44:59
It's been one month since the T that I'm still in love with left to go out of state to get his docotorate. We had a really bad last session since he decided he wouldn't allow me to write to him. I miss him so much...some days I barely feel like I'm surviving. Many days I feel the shock of his departure all over again, and get into denial, and think that I'm going to see him again; that it can't be real that he would leave me. Some days I feel a little stronger. But every day, I still think about him...a lot.
Posted by terrics on September 17, 2005, at 21:23:26
In reply to One month since T left, posted by rabidreader on September 17, 2005, at 14:44:59
It is so sad that you had such a bad last session and that you cannot write to him.
(((rabidreader))) terrics
Posted by orchid on September 18, 2005, at 21:34:17
In reply to One month since T left, posted by rabidreader on September 17, 2005, at 14:44:59
It will get better if you work through it.
Really, all these feelings are really about ourselves and our projections, than it is about our therapists.
So if you are experiencing all this pain, it really indicates your capacity to feel and the depth of your emotions, than it is about how great your therapist was.
So focus on you, and try to identify what you want, and how to get it from someone in real life, and that will help you work through this.
Posted by Tamar on September 19, 2005, at 10:54:44
In reply to One month since T left, posted by rabidreader on September 17, 2005, at 14:44:59
I'm sorry you're hurting. I know you must miss him terribly. It's very hard, especially in the circumstances in which he left you.
It will get better eventually. It will take some time, but it will get better. Sometimes it's necessary just to take it one day at a time.
Thinking of you...
Tamar
Posted by rabidreader on September 19, 2005, at 14:36:23
In reply to Re: One month since T left » rabidreader, posted by Tamar on September 19, 2005, at 10:54:44
Thank you Tamar. I have been trying my best to just take each day for what it is: sometimes a bad day, sometimes less of a bad day. Good days are a scarce commodity at the moment!
I appreciate your concern, and hope you are well too.
Posted by rabidreader on September 19, 2005, at 14:39:27
In reply to Re: One month since T left » rabidreader, posted by terrics on September 17, 2005, at 21:23:26
I am having a hard time with the fact that we had a bad last session, and most of all with the fact that he won't let me write him. He said it would be better to make a "clean break." Really, what he meant was, "I'm going to take care of myself here; I need to protect myself." But he didn't think of my feelings when he sprung this fact on me at our last session, right before the end.
Thank you for the hug. I need hugs these days!
Posted by rabidreader on September 19, 2005, at 14:41:18
In reply to Re: One month since T left » rabidreader, posted by orchid on September 18, 2005, at 21:34:17
I try to remember things like this...and I do, inellectually. But the pain of missing him and loving him gets in the way. It's so hard. It feels like he's dead in a way...but it's worse, somehow, because he's alive and well in another state, and could be with me.
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