Psycho-Babble Psychology Thread 549067

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T. Funny re: Talking About Sex (long)

Posted by 10derHeart on August 31, 2005, at 1:58:45

You know how sometimes a remark is made so quickly, maybe while you're talking over someone (I interrupt a LOT!) and it can be there in your brain but doesn't register right away...sometimes for me, until days or weeks later...

Well, B2's serious thread about sex suddenly reminded me of something so funny (for him) my T. said about sex a couple weeks ago. Has nothing to do with me (impossible...no sex=no discussion of it), but we'd been spending the whole session on my upset over my married daughter, who was having some problems with her husband/marriage.

(Now mind you, my T. is a grandfather, and the sweet, kind older-gentlemanly type. I wouldn't say proper exactly, but polite to a fault and never swears of even comes close to a crass remark, though he takes it well when I'm occasionally vulgar..)

I was trying to explain a phone conversation my daughter and I had, where she kept using the word "intimate" in different ways. I was telling T. how sometimes, intimate meant *intimate* literally, e.g, talking openly, cuddling, sitting together, holding hands, whatever, but NOT including being sexual. Then other times, when my daughter said it, she really *did* mean sex, so I had to listen carefully to her to catch the right meaning. I jokingly said to T., "Because you know, from her point of view, we couldn't talk directly to each other as if either of us has had actual *sex* {gasp}...no way! Not possible, so you have to say it without saying it, use some kind of substitute like "being intimate", or some euphemism..."

T. laughed and said, "Oh yeah, sure. Of course. Like you could just say: jumping on to ride the Harley."

Uh...choke...faint...fall off T's couch...EXCUSE ME?! Mister sweet, kindly, genteel T.,...did you just say I should refer to sex when talking to my daughter by saying, "JUMPING on to RIDE the Harley??!!"

Lucky for him it went right by me that day and just now came back to my conscious mind. 'cause, well, he would've had some 'splainin' to do!

He would! Really! Right after I turned eight shades of red, quit stammering and picked my jaw up off the floor.

 

Re: T. Funny re: Talking About Sex (long)

Posted by happyflower on August 31, 2005, at 7:54:50

In reply to T. Funny re: Talking About Sex (long), posted by 10derHeart on August 31, 2005, at 1:58:45

SO funny! You know that happens to me to in therapy, he will say something, and it doesn't register right away because my mind is going a hundred miles an hour thinking about what I am saying.

 

Re: T. Funny re: Talking About Sex (long) » happyflower

Posted by daisym on August 31, 2005, at 10:59:37

In reply to Re: T. Funny re: Talking About Sex (long), posted by happyflower on August 31, 2005, at 7:54:50

you made me laugh!

Now the question is, what are you thinking as you drive to his office and see someone on a motorcycle? (evil grin)

Doesn't someone's therapist here ride a motorcyle?

 

Re: T. Funny re: Talking About Sex (long)

Posted by B2chica on August 31, 2005, at 11:20:16

In reply to Re: T. Funny re: Talking About Sex (long) » happyflower, posted by daisym on August 31, 2005, at 10:59:37

my pdoc does and yum!
b2c.

 

Re: T. Funny re: Talking About Sex (long) » 10derHeart

Posted by fairywings on August 31, 2005, at 13:02:30

In reply to T. Funny re: Talking About Sex (long), posted by 10derHeart on August 31, 2005, at 1:58:45

Too funny, I got a good laugh out of that. My p-doc seems the same way, but also very warm and funny. I can't see him saying something like THAT ever! And although things get past me all the time, I don't think THAT would. I'd just have to go back and touch on that one and tell him what kind of a reaction I had to it. It's just not something you'll forget! LOL

BTW, why is it that things don't register in our minds until after the appt? I interrupt all the time too. Maybe it's because we're on fast forward?
fw

 

Re: T. Funny re: Talking About Sex (long)

Posted by sleepygirl on August 31, 2005, at 22:13:44

In reply to T. Funny re: Talking About Sex (long), posted by 10derHeart on August 31, 2005, at 1:58:45

That is pretty darn funny and quite an interesting choice of words. I would've been like "Huh!??"

 

Re: T. Funny re: Talking About Sex (long) » sleepygirl

Posted by 10derHeart on August 31, 2005, at 22:45:28

In reply to Re: T. Funny re: Talking About Sex (long), posted by sleepygirl on August 31, 2005, at 22:13:44

LOL..yeah, no kidding. It's almost hard to believe he said it, but I know what I heard. I may have a word or two out of place, but the jumping part and riding part...he said it.

I don't think..no, I KNOW he wasn't thinking. It just sort of popped out. And like I said, I heard it at the time, yet I didn't. I know that sounds odd, but my brain often works that way. And I KNOW we were talking about something so important to me, I just never took a breath to call him on it, then it slipped away until recently...

I probably would have cracked up laughing and said, "ExCUSE me?! I dare you to repeat that."
He would have either rephrased and acted like he never said the original thing, or *toned it down* a bit. If you could see him, I swear, you'd never imagine he could have blurted out that kind of thing.

We are both ex-military, though, meaning we've both experienced many years of rather..uh...shall we say...*rough talking* workplaces and situations. Maybe that's a factor. It really was very funny. One day I'll mention it to him...


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